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I see all these posts and YouTube videos about the ‘art’ of detachment, the ‘art’ of letting go, and the ‘art’ of ignoring others, and it makes me nauseous, it makes me angry, it makes me want to understand – What kind of art leaves you muffling your sobs in the middle of the night because anxiety decides it no longer wants to stay hidden behind your ribs? Does the ‘art’ of detachment demand you to physically hold yourself together, sitting in the corner of your room, knees close to your chest until the pain settles down?

I’d make such a bad motivational speaker, I swear, but to hell with any ‘art’ that makes you want to break yourself into pieces to cherry-pick the best ones, only to find you’re still incomplete.

Or maybe, just maybe, stop calling it art?

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youve taken the time to learn my attack patterns? what are you, gay?

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The amount of nonbinary friends I've had ask me, a binary trans man, if they're "allowed" to call themselves a part of the trans community is so sad. Yes, of course you can. We are all in this together. You can fly the trans flag you can call yourself trans you can celebrate TDOV and mourn TDOR with us please come hold my hand and fight by my side. When you started identifying as nonbinary you got an optional trans bundle, too—you don't have to take it but you absolutely should if you want to. The white stripe is for you.

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sometimes i feel like a sickly victorian child going "mother, father, i want to go play outside with the other children"

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People who compare transition to self harm or use real people they know who've self-harmed as a metaphorical comparison to transitioning aren't making the gotcha they think they're making - they're just showing that they don't have the compassion or maturity to engage with either topic at even a conversational level.

And, frankly, it's infuriating as a person who does see those who self-harm as my equal who doesn't need to be used as a cudgel against another group of often vulnerable people.

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I need to be kidnapped by kind aliens who take me to the alien vet and they know exactly what's wrong with me and they cure me and feed me nutritious meals

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My words were spoken from a certain "delusional fag" persona I often inhabit.

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Has your #1 comfort character committed a crime?

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Death obsessed autistic faggots are our only hope for a cultural renaissance

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A child is having outbursts at school, or at home, or wherever else, on a pretty regular basis. And at some point, someone suggests that they need to learn better coping skills.

They suggest therapy, or maybe there’s even a special program at school. Because yes, better coping skills/self-regulation skills/frustration tolerance really would solve everything, wouldn’t it?

Well those are fine skills to have, to be sure, but more often than not, it’s not what that child (or adult) needs most. What they really need is someone to figure out what’s stressing them out so much and then do something about THAT.

Because it’s not actually weird to be distressed over distressing things. Maybe *you* don’t understand what’s so distressing about school or the grocery store or that new person in the house, but that doesn’t mean *their* distress isn’t legit.

People reeaalllly like to suggest better coping skills for autistic, ADHD, and otherwise ND folks. (Since we already have a diagnosis, it’s that much easier to locate the problem in US.) And what they’re really saying with this an awful lot of the time is, “Can you please stop being so distressed by distressing things because it’s making a lot of work for us and we’re not about to change anything for you.”

So before you put someone in some sort of therapy that will teach them that they’re wrong to be upset about the things that upset them and how to get better at pretending to be okay, maybe consider that you might be expecting them to “cope” with more than they can reasonably be expected to.

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i strive to obtain this level of organised chaos in my life

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