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sarcastic-skeptic · 24 days

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Hey hello guess what QP PARTNERS =/= BEST FRIENDS, there is a difference between being best friends, or QP mates/aromates, and being on any level of a romantic relationship

Just because you don’t understand the difference (often because you haven’t taken 10 seconds to look it up), does not mean we are just “making up words” or that these words are just new terms for being best friends (which they’re not, there are people with best friends and qps, please shut the fuck up and stop policing aro folks on shit you don’t understand and don’t even take ten seconds to try to)

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sarcastic-skeptic · 24 days

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Qpr’s come in all different shapes, sizes and ways!

It may be straight or really really gay!

Or also any orientation in between!

Affection may or may not be seen!

Maybe kissing, hugging, or none of the above!

With or without romantic or platonic love!

Qpr’s are customized and up to you!

Qpr’s are amazing through and through!

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sarcastic-skeptic · 24 days

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List of Non-sexual forms of intimacy

Watching tv/movies together

going to events together like carnivals, festivals etc.

going on dates like to the movies or shopping

Sharing secrets

hugs

sharing drinks

phone calls

talking

touching noses

cuddling

philosophical discussions

Hand holding

Sharing jokes

sharing smiles

laying your head on someone’s shoulder

linking arms

massages

tickling

playing with hair

scratching backs

tracing designs on arms

talking about the future

a hand written note

moving your head to their chest and listening to their heartbeat.

singing together or playing instruments together

dancing

feeding each other

drawing/writing on one another

Brushing your partners hair

sharing food

sitting knee to knee across from each other

Doing beauty treatments like facials or manicures, hair dying or face masks

reading books together

take care of your partner when sick

talking about the relationship (how I feel with you, How I feel w/ this relationship)

cooking together

Head-scratches

hugging

discussions about yourselves (like flaws, shortcomings, passions, stuff)

being physically/emotionally vulnerable

just sleeping together,

an actual open honest conversation

bathing and taking care of hygiene together

butterfly kisses

nuzzling

telling on-the-fly stories

meditating or sharing spirituality

grooming

sharing hobbies

studding

sharing personal stories

shaving

seeing each other without make-up or all dressed up

moral support for major events

crying, sharing emotions, comforting each other

listening to someones heartbeat or breathing

camping/hiking

sleepovers

being with animals together

going on trips together

sharing clothes/jewelry/personal items

Sharing online social media

cleaning someone else’s living space

going with them to a doctor/therapist

doing art together

kissing different body parts

making out

volunteer together

work together

talking about wants and desires

experience new things together

do an extracurricular together

play games together

play sports together

walking together

being respectful and kind to one another (helping them do things, open doors for them etc.)

Sharing responsibilities (chores, babysitting etc.)

giving each other presents, special things from the heart

talking about and respecting each others boundaries

public displays of affection

grooming in front of each other

wrestling or play fighting

texting/talking online

Any others you can think of?

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sarcastic-skeptic · 24 days

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For those of you who still don’t understand: having a squish on someone is like having a favorite character. You always want to see them, they make you happy, and you just love them so much. Whenever they’re on screen you think “oohhhhh yes there you are!!!! i love you so much!!!!!! why can’t we be friends?? you absolutely perfect person!!!!” You love them as much as you possibly can. But of course, you don’t actually love them romantically. That’s what a squish is like.

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sarcastic-skeptic · 24 days

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im wondering if anyone has pulled off a qp relationship successfully with someone who has romantic feelings towards them? im trying to do so right now but it makes me anxious to think that i'm potentially stringing them along by trying this out and i dont want to hurt them

Hey Anon,

I can’t say for certain whether this has happened. It’s definitely within the realm of possibility provided that both parties are very honest about their feelings and wants and needs and are very willing to communicate openly.

This sort of relationship has a large potential to go badly because of mismatched expectations or being unwilling to discuss the mismatches in feelings.

You are attempting something difficult for sure. Mixed-attraction relationships are challenging but can be rewarding and successful. If you are feeling anxious about something in the relationship then the best course of action is to discuss this anxiety with your partner. They are the only one who can tell you for sure whether they feel like they are being “strung along”.

So, my advice would be to talk openly with your partner. The only way to make this work is to be up front about things. There is a likelihood that both of you at one time or another will feel hurt by something in the relationship. If you want to pursue this relationship then you need to be okay with the mismatches between you two and be willing to work through them. There might be difficulties and negative feelings but if you’re willing to work together and communicate then you may very well make it through.

Don’t be discouraged.

If any followers have any practical experience or advice, please chime in.

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sarcastic-skeptic · 24 days

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rant thing ahead --- I can usually tell which are platonic feels and which are romantic feels but like rn i'm like ?????????/ PLATONIC? ROMANTIC? WHO KNOWS!!!! for an online friend and it's very confusing because like i don't know them well enough/haven't known them long enough/haven't had these feels long enough to ask them to be my zucchini and i'm just v confused. very very very confused.

Hey Anon,

Yep, that definitely sounds really frustrating. I know personally that sometimes when you meet someone new and have very intense attraction to them that the line can seem blurry and while it can be a lot of fun getting to know them the strong feelings can be distressing and cause you lots of questioning.

My suggestion would be to try to relax into it. The feelings should settle over time and as you get to know your friend better you should have a clearer idea of what your feelings are. Now, I know that advice isn’t going to help immediately. You desperately want to know what’s going on so you can just get to the good part of feeling stable and building a good relationship of some kind with this person. But there really isn’t a shortcut or easy test to know what your feelings are.

So, as much as possible, try to enjoy the feelings without labelling them. You feel good about this person. They make you happy to spend time with them. Focus on that rather than on what that “means”. The relationship style can still be built later on. You don’t have to choose right now whether to go down the romantic or platonic road. They really aren’t as different as we build them up to be. The best romantic relationships are well-grounded in friendship and queerplatonic relationships can be described as “passionate friendships” (not universally, but for some people). So: be friends!

tl;dr It’s no fun to feel confused but there isn’t really any way to escape quickly. Focus on the good feelings and the rest will work itself out eventually.

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sarcastic-skeptic · 24 days

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You think sexualities and identities are little games?? Having a friend doesn't make you LGBT what kind of world you live in dude I mean straight ppl already think we're a joke :(

Hi Anon,

No, I don’t actually. I happen to be gay myself. But that is besides the point. You are correct in that having a friend or being in a QPR does not make one LGBT. The word “queer” in queerplatonic does not refer to the participants in the relationship but to the non-normative nature of the relationship itself.

I’m sorry that homophobia and heterosexism have hurt you so much to feel the need to lash out at others who have non-normative experiences. I hope you better understand the nature of QPRs now and feel less threatened by their celebration.

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sarcastic-skeptic · 24 days

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what society needs to understand is that friendship and romance are not ranks, tiers, or levels. they are not above or below each other. romance is not a promotion. friendship is not a demotion. romance is not “more than” being friends with someone. friendship and romance are concepts that exist on equal terms, side by side. sometimes they happen to coincide. other times they never intersect at all. how relationships are classified is up to the individuals involved but like?? neither is inherently more or less valuable is the thing

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sarcastic-skeptic · 2 months

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carmy does the I’m sorry sign over his heart, therefore teaches syd to also sign over her heart. she even asks if she gave him heartburn which he denies. sydney begins reading coach k’s leading with the heart.

carmy rubs at his heart when he’s panicking to calm down, he also thinks of syd to calm down.

sydney = carmy’s heart

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sarcastic-skeptic · 2 months

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