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Since the OP made their post unrebloggable (and blocked me. Both actions they are well in with their right to do)

I'm going to make my response it's own post because I think the point is important

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As someone who is autistic and has BPD and CPTSD and loads of trauma yes you sometimes need to change how you interact with others to keep people around

When I was 13 I hit the few friends I had when I was angry

I had to change that in order to keep those friendships

When I was in my early 20s if I was losing an disagreement with my husband I would threaten to kill myself. My husband told me it hurt him and was cruel and manipulative behaviour, because it was.

So I worked hard to change that to keep my relationship

It's easy to say "I shouldn't have to change for others" and that's true to an extent. You shouldn't change your interests or passions or dim your light. And you should have space to be imperfect and flawed and not have to pretend your ugly bits aren't real. But if something you are doing it causing other people harm you kinda need to change that.

That's called "living in a society"

People adapt to each other and make space for each other in their lives. You adapt to them and they adapt to you

You start being more diligent about throwing away the empty toilet roll because it really bothers them. They start warning you before they run the blender because you hate loud noises

I stopped threatening to kill myself because I was mad I was losing an argument and my husband stopped being so vocally judgemental amount media he personally dislikes

There is a certain type of person who heard the phrase "your emotions are valid" and took that to mean "my emotional reactions and my behaviour are always objectively correct because my emotions are valid and if you have an emotional response or react to what I'm doing negatively then you are wrong and you can't be hurt because my emotions are valid"

And that's a recipe for disaster

Your emotions are valid to feel. They are how you feel and there are reasons you feel the way you do

However, your reactions and behaviour are something you can learn to control and can be irrational

We live in a society and we as people change each other as we interact and that isn't necessarily a bad thing

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i think it's great when someone tries to pull off a tragic self-sacrifice in a story and there's at least one guy who's just like "no this is fucking stupid actually. you're an idiot." about it. because it kind of is. i love a good tragedy but let's be honest with ourselves if a friend tried to indulge a noble sacrifice fantasy would you not be a little annoyed. like come on man.

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born to be your daughter

forced to be called your daughter

live as your daughter, love as her

but your child realized, those words do not fit 𝗵𝗶𝗺. he has bloomed into a beautiful boy, a boy who isn't afraid to express both his masculinity and feminity. a boy who still lives past your demeaning and dismissive labels. he is your 𝘀𝗼𝗻.

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Can I tell y’all a little more about that zine I just posted?

I made Sustainable Fashion for the Solarpunk for a college class I took this semester on the climate crisis. I was tasked with creating an action project for communicating a facet of the problem and some potential solutions to community members. I chose to make a zine on sustainable fashion. When I handed them out myself, I attached a piece of cloth large enough for a patch, a length of thread, and an embroidery needle to the last page, so that anyone who was curious to try the tutorials would have no roadblocks to getting started. Here’s some in-process pics (edited to remove personal details):

Having finished my kits I bundled up and delivered them to little free libraries throughout the city!

In total I put out 16 zines across five little free libraries. When I checked back in a week later, only five zines were left! Eleven zines isn’t really a huge amount, but it was very exciting to feel as though I made a tangible (if small) impact on my community. Praxis, or whatever.

I’m hoping to do another round of these in my hometown. It was really exciting and hopefully it changed some minds about clothing consumption.

If you feel like doing the same thing, the zine is available on my ko-fi! But seriously, zine-making is so easy and fun and you should totally make your own if you’re passionate about a subject. Share em everywhere. It’s great.

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i think the solarpunk community in particular should talk about freecycle more

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Odalia needs to leave

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my boys are gnc/"non passing" because I feel like art of that is rare to come across let alone art that sheds being gnc in a positive light. I cannot and will never pass in my life so I make my boys celebrate being boys no matter their appearance.

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oh nothing, just daydreaming about accessible public transportation

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My boss was like “Do you have any idea how much money we’re losing” like who cares, it’s not like they would give it to me otherwise

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another character in @yaelokre world ☆_☆)/! but this time it my friend who drew it~ his name is bogang (he is the sparrow girl's boyfriend =v=)..)

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Flowerbots by Valerie Belan

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My bf studied japanese in high school and often says "gambate!" (not sure of spelling) to be like. encouraging. I think it means roughly "let's get this bread." However, as someone who took spanish in high school, it always sounds like a command to me. And as near as I can tell, in spanish it would mean "go shrimp yourself."

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The minimum number of players is of course 2 people, and the maximum is unlimited. Each player takes turns to say the word “penis” louder than the previous player. Most players begin the game with a whisper, but some go right into yelling the word “penis,” forcing other players to yell it even louder. The person who cannot yell it louder than the previous player, whether it be due to voice projection, laughter, or embarrassment, loses. 🍆

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it feels like a lot of "progressive" online spaces have really latched onto this ooo boykisser pastel stockings kitty femboy image of GNC men and i have to admit i have concerns about how those spaces would respond to GNC men who either can't or simply don't want to look like that