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IDEAL FAMILY

First Love

By viewing this video, I was smiling the whole time. Though I'm not really close to my father. But seeing this video that a father who was caring for his daughter with so much love. That made me realize that sometimes whenever that one day I'm thinking myself that my father hates me because he always scolds me. But no, I was wrong. He was protecting me, he wanted me to learn from his past experiences, the decisions he made, he wanted me to be better than him. He worked hard for us. Then, this is the way he is showing me love and I am thankful that I have a father like him. That's why this commercial hits me.

Amor

The second video that hits me was "Amor". I thought that this was about a mother who was something wrong with her behavior. But I was wrong. All this time the mother was practicing her skills for her jobs. As I relate to my personal life, I can see that my mother was working hard for us. It's also the same as I describing the first video above because both my parents are working and I'm thankful that I have my parents who is working hard for us.

So, whenever my parents mad at it's because they are making me learn and realize that my actions and decisions are right or wrong. It's also because they want to help me to make right decisions and learn some valuable lesson because they love me that much. That's why I am very thankful to my parents.

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LOVE LANGUAGE

I tried the test for "Love Language" and it was fun! There are just questions about some statements that how it will fit with you. Well I enjoyed answering and I'm surprised about the results.

I just found out that the result of my Love Language Test as for Teenagers was I'm more expressing my love language in Quality Time. Because, it's true that if some of my friends or my families shared their time for me and I really love that. I feel loved because they spend their time with me. I'm not really into just receiving just to show your love but I'm capable for spending quality time for my friends and my family.

So that's it. That's my Love Language. 😊

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MY OWN KIND OF LOVE STORY

Love can be defined in many ways. Like for instance, it could be affection, couples, staying happy together. Love may be the exciting but same as challenging. It may go under commitment. Love is to test your loyalty to someone. Even love would be just happiness. Love will make you even stronger. These are some definitions of love right? The most common nowadays, will staying in a relationship. However, my definition of love is different. To be honest, I've never been experienced what love is or in a relationship. But somehow I have felt an affection to a person but nothing serious just affection. I have crushes when I am still in Junior High School. I once confessed but then rejected. However, I really don't care but gladly we're still close each other.

Let's proceed to my definition of love. I defined it as my love to my family. When I was a kid, I don't know so much about love that time. All I want was just to play and play for the whole day. As I grow older, I once become a rebellious son but not that really rebellious like leaving or abandoning my family. Just making any mistakes that my parents don't like. For instance, white lies, and I will not mention other because it is embarrassing. Moving on, when I entered the stage of being an "TEENAGER", I became more aware of myself. Also this was the time that I got insecurities to many things. Also, this was time I felt affection as I mentioned above. However, I'm making myself feel down like there were no person that appreciates me. This was also the time that I get scolded to my parents everytime but not day by day. I also think that I have to blame my parents because I think they don't love me. However, through these experiences, I learned more and more and then I realized that there is a person who really appreciates me the most which is my parents. I learned that they we're scolding me because they want me to learn. They let me go to school because they want me to be a successful person. They compared me to others because this is how they say that I am a unique and a special person to them. I just realized that why am I seeking other's appreciation when I have my family who always supports me no matter what. Sometimes I just asked myself why didn't I see them that they are the one who loves me the most. As years go by, I see someone also aprreciates me which is a friend. I will not mention her name. But also thanks to her that she is always with me.

Now that I learned how LOVE works, I am really grateful that I discovered new things. I learned that don't take it too personally, don't think that there will be no one who loves or appreciates you. Also, I learned that God also loves me and protects me always. If they don't love you when you love them, just love them until they love you back. It takes time but the more they know you, the more they love you. And that's all my story. I'm glad that you read it until the end. For that, I will say to you that you are always loved by your family. Don't let your insecurities bring you down. Also you will find your special someone soon! 😊 Thank you for reading! Here is a heart for you! ❤️

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HAPPINESS

Pause For A Thought, What makes you Happy? When are you happy?

Individuals has its own happiness. Sometimes, being with your love someone, having a complete and healthy family, being with friends and other more. However, talking about my happiness, I am happy in a simple life, like being with my family and friends and having strong relationship to each other. I am contented to that as long as it makes me happy.When talking to when would I be happy, I would be happy if someone appreciates me of who I am and just enjoying to each other, having fun or talking something that we could relate into. But the thing that really makes me happy the most is my family. I love my family so much and also they love me so much as well and I am really thankful that I have a complete family because they support my decisions also they teach me valuable lessons in my life.

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PAUSE FOR A THOUGHT

What situation do you consider as Positive Stress? As Negative Stress? Are you aware of your tripping point when it comes to stress?

For positive stress, the situation that I consider as positive stress will be doing things that would make me happy, also talking with my family, watching movies, doing paintings, and also being with my friends.

While the situations that I consider as a Negative stress will be playing online games such as Mobile Legends because there are a lot of toxic players which influences me to fight back from their insults through chat, being hesitant because when it comes to options, I always hesitated on what would I decide because I keep thinking if it would be bad or good.

To be honest, I am not really that aware to my tipping point of my stress. Even if I knew that this situation is stressful I keep doing it if would talk about negative stresses. However, I'm aware that I must think hard if this would suppose to be good or bad. Also, I'm at the stage of improving myself that I must be aware if I am stressed out or not.

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PAUSE FOR A THOUGHT: STRESS

How do you handle expectations? Do you see them as challenges or potential failures? Do you thrive on challenges or do you shrink away with them?

Mostly the way people handle expectations will be either positive or negative effects from them. It's either you will get bad or good result. However, when I handle expectations, I would think that the result would be bad because when it comes to thinking, I always feel like, what if there is corrections, what if it is a bad idea and many "What Ifs". In short, I'm not really sure on how to handle expectations. I'm always thinking negatively.

When it comes to seeing them as challenges or potential failures, I see them as challenges. Because if I expect something, it would be a challenge. I must think that I have to do things right and with all my efforts and also have self-trust.

If you will choose me if I should thrive these challenges or shrink away with them, I would thrive these challenges

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WHICH SIDE OF YOUR BRAIN DOMINANTS?

Which side if your brain dominants?  I am having fun with the activity given and I am learning new things from this activity. From the exercises given from the video, it’s pretty surprising that I didn’t know that the things I’ve done was based on if you use your left or your right side of your brain. I am really glad that I am doing this activity. To conclude, my left side of my brain is dominant.  I learned that being left dominant side of the brain was really into more of logical thinking to problem-solving and also for the right side of the brain I learned that it is into creativity area. That’s why I’m amazed.

The 4 Exercises To Test How Fast Your Brain Is

About this exercises, I am really trying hard to the exercises but you know, It was really difficult to be honest. But honestly, I am having so much fun! But for me the most difficult part of these exercises was the part that I have to change the gesture both hands opposite with the gesture of peace sign and the OK sign but it was fun though. I’m glad that these exercises helps my brain more.

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ENTERING THE MIDDLE AND LATE ADOLESCENCE

Pause for a thought.

How would you describe your  current situation as an  adolescent? Is it a period of stress or  are you slowly  strengthening your identity?

My life was really not good as you expected. I faced all the circumstances that I had. My insecurities, being stressed, and low self-esteem. I keep looking myself down. No matter what I do, I feel ignored. Is it maybe I am an introvert? I can’t answer that for now. To summarize, I am not in a good situation as an adolescent.

 I’m facing lots of circumstances and afraid to overcome it. Gladly, I am really grateful that I have my family and friends to support me. They are always beside me whenever I feel lost or feel blue. They always make me gain courage to myself to face my problems. They are always open and accept everything of what I am. They make me feel that I am a unique and a very special person to them. They show me their love to me and I learned to love back to them. That’s why I am really contented of what I have now. I am thankful to everything of what they gave to me.

 However, for now, I am currently both in period of stress and slowly strengthening my identity. I am still discovering and learning myself more while I am still and adolescent. Hopefully I can overcome my problems.

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PAUSE FOR A THOUGHT

According to what I’ve seen on a website. The song "Forgiveness" chronicles a mother dealing with the death of her daughter at the hands of a drunk driver. It was one of the first stories I read and it stuck with me the whole time and I was waiting for the right time to deliver this message through a song. Now the song is seeing the light of day, and it is my honor to share it. The song is about Renee, who lost her daughter Megan in a car accident at the hands of a drunk driver, a 24-year-old named Eric who was by all accounts a great young man, but made a tragic mistake. Renee's been on a journey of hatred, and bitterness, and she's learned how to forgive the young man who took her beloved daughter's life.   In a miraculous way, after Megan's death in 2001, Renee began giving presentations, and in time, God put it on her heart to forgive this man and reach out to him in prison. She learned that until she was set free of the anger and bitterness she held towards Eric, she was going to be the prisoner even though he was the one behind bars.

 As a result, Eric found his own personal faith in Christ and they developed a unique friendship to the point where she feels like she gained a son, and she even went to the courts to cut Eric's sentence in half. He made a terrible mistake taking the life of two young girls, and yet he's been forgiven. Renee told him that she serves a God who commands her to forgive and she needed to be set free as much for herself as for him. After Eric leaves prison this November 2012,  he'll be standing by Renee's side at these presentations, which is a story the world needs to hear! He'll be a free man, in more ways than one. Renee's story is life-defining as we all need to think about how forgiveness can set us free.

A lyrics from the song:

It's the opposite of how you feel When the pain they caused is just to real It takes everything you have just to say the word... Forgiveness, Forgiveness

As stated from the lyrics above, means that if it was based on my experiences, I’ve been keeping too much anger from a person without realizing that it also causes pain to me a lot. Because of the feeling that you are really mad because of what they said to you. But I realized, forgiving feels much different from how you feel inside. The word “Forgiveness” may be difficult to state to a person but if you try it, it helps you mentally and spiritually. Trying to understand and realize may help you be very peaceful. That’s why I’m keeping it in my mind that, do not take it aggressively but accept and forgive mentally and spiritually.

For the question for today is, Have you ever met a person who is complex that is difficult to fully understand?

My answer will be yes. Well, many persons that I met are complex but to consider, I was the person who is complex. Yes, I am the person. To tell you the truth, I was a hesitant person. I am really unsure in deciding things, what to get, planning and doing things. Actually, I am not really capable to do such things, that’s why I am not into taking such big responsibilities. I am an anxious person. I am facing my fears and in a process to overcome these fears. But I’m glad that I have my family and my friends that will help me and guide me to overcome my fears.

What is your take away with the lesson?

The lesson that I learned for today was, I must be mindful of what decisions that I made. Understanding what are the difference between the feelings and emotions. I learned also what are the differences of Dualism and Holism. Also the Cognitive Development as the process of knowing and the Physiological Development. This lesson will guide us to be more mindful and aware of what we are doing.

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KNOWING YOURSELF

Do you know yourself?

In most case, many people knew about themselves. What they are, who they are and, how they are. They develop more as they grow knowing what are their purpose in their lives. But talking about me, do I know myself? My answer will be no. I don't know as much as other people know about me. I only knew that I am just an ordinary person. No special talents, an introvert, contented if alone, happy to help other people, always complimenting myself at the mirror sounds weird right? Well that's what I am. That's how I knew myself. But on the other hand, I am always ready to learn more about myself. I am still a kid who is curious and would like to explore new things. So that's how I know myself.

How did you learn these things about yourself?

I learned these things together growing my personality. From a kid that who wants to learn things in this world. Also I learned some of my other personalities through people's feedbacks and impressions. But in that way I always feel anxious because I always worry what people talk about me whenever I am not with them. I just accept things what they actually see me compared of what I see myself. Sometimes I let myself feel down because some people I met recognize me as a weak person like for instance not sociable. Yes I am not sociable because as I stated above I am an introvert. But I am always open if you approach me, there's no problem on that.

Where did the information come from?

Some information that I get if what I see and what they see me was getting feedbacks from friends and family. Also by discovering it myself and sometimes, asking opinions from other people whom I've just met but I'm really anxious to try this one.

Do you like what you know?

Definitely! I am contented of who I am. I know more of myself than others who know me. Still, I keep their opinions and impressions to me and thinking and realizing that they see me lthrough that. But again, I am happy that I know myself more and always ready to explore and learn new things about myself.

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