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be with someone who wants to know how to love you right.

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being positive isn’t about always being happy. being positive is about doing your best to see the bright side of things even when happiness can’t be found.

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i don’t want to be chased, but waited for. wait for me until i’m ready, and when i finally am, i hope you’ll see it was worth it

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celebrate with thankfulness for what you have rather than moping with discontent at what you don’t.

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what she says: i’m fine

what she means: have you noticed that whenever people tell cheesy stories about going off the grid to find themselves, it always includes elements of feeling freedom from their appearance for the first time? not that they felt pretty or beautiful for the first time, but that for the first time, they didn’t care at all? when I lived on a farm, I didn’t care about how I looked. I washed my face and combed my hair, and nothing else mattered. nobody else cared either. we got along with each other, or we didn’t, but we worked together to get our work done, and we ate well, and we explored the world, and we were mostly happy.

similarly, people joke that hiking or camping or roadtrips “lowers the bar” of what we consider attractive. that after two months on the appalachian trail, suddenly you find people attractive even with messy hair, and no makeup, and when they smell a little funky. and you feel good about yourself even though you have messy hair, and no makeup, and you smell kind of funky.

we like to laugh at this phenomenon as if we’re all just a bunch of hippies forgetting what it’s like to be and look “normal” for a while, but I think what’s actually going on is very said because the truth is

we’re just realizing that when we escape media for a few months, a few weeks, a few days, when we’re not comparing ourselves to impossible images, when we’re not told we have to have this body, this face-shape, this color skin, no acne, no scars, straight teeth, shaved armpits, a “good” smile, the “right” clothes, the “correct” gender presentation,

suddenly, we feel good about ourselves. The truth is, we’re experiencing freedom from the pressures of what society deems “acceptable,” “pretty,” “attractive,” for the first time, and we can then realize how fucked up our modern idea of beauty has become.

it messes me up.

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Working on being a better person than I was yesterday.

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High standards protect you from low quality experiences.

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This page supports BLACK WOMEN being loved, soft, happy, cherished, admired, uplifted, supported, respected, spoiled, and feminine.

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it's interesting. I see the youth worry about getting old to the point where they think 30 is old, 35 is old, 40 is old, while to me, getting older is a luxury I never thought I would have. older means I'm still here. older means I made it through things I didn't think I would. older means I have more chances. I rather like older, thank you very much.

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i appreciate people who are selective with their social surroundings. it shows they’re not afraid to sacrifice quantity for quality. they’re intentional with who they want around, and better yet, can appreciate who they have around. if you know who you are, you know you’re not for everybody—so don’t be for everybody. be picky with who you give your valuable energy to.

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Breakfast at Tiffany's (1961) dir. Blake Edwards

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«"If you don't like a man then don't accept food from him, you deadbeat"

My best friend pays for our lunches one day.

Breakfast is on me another day.

I visit my aunt and she gives me a taco.

I go to my mother in law's and she gives me fruit.

My friend's mom has sent me lunch to school many times.

The party is over and my godmother tells me "wait, I'm giving you takeaway".

Mom has visitors and she figures out how to give something away, she gives away because "a taco is denied to nobody".

It's weird how only men think that feeding someone is a kind of sexual services contract or a debt that someone has with them to secure a sentimental relationship.

How nice is being women and giving eachother sweets, chocolates, cookies, share chips, tea with joy.»

— Capibara Sand

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STOP THINKING THERE IS A DEADLINE. THERE IS NO DEADLINE. TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND TAKE YOUR TIME.

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i highly recommend for women and girls to be intellectually curious and difficult to shame

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"corsets are a barbaric painful tool of the patriarchy" says the era with sitting down pants and waist trainers and push up bras and brazilian butt lifts and preventative botox and full coverage foundation and no makeup makeup and full body waxing and and and and

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It’s not your job to be likable. It’s your job to be yourself. The right people will gravitate.

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i’m really cute & a sweetheart and deserve the whole entire world, if y’all didn’t already know