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new kind of guy dropped

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one of the biggest things I can advocate for (in academia, but also just in life) is to build credibility with yourself. It’s easy to fall into the habit of thinking of yourself as someone who does things last minute or who struggles to start tasks. people will tell you that you just need to build different habits, but I know for me at least the idea of ‘habit’ is sort of abstract and dehumanizing. Credibility is more like ‘I’ve done this before, so I know I can do it, and more importantly I trust myself to do it’. you set an assignment goal for the day and you meet it, and then you feel stronger setting one the next day. You establish a relationship with yourself that’s built on confidence and trust. That in turn starts to erode the barrier of insecurity and perfectionism and makes it easier to start and finish tasks. reframing the narrative as a process of building credibility makes it easier to celebrate each step and recognize how strong your relationship with yourself can become

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fascinating 2 me that the first generation of kids who have been subjected to this kind of thing are now growing up and posting online independently. very upsetting tho. and this isnt exactly a surprise. who would want this? what is to be expected from a child raised on money made from the consumption of their own image, at the hands of their mother of all things. shit sucks man lol

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I'm realising how much of my fashion sense was formed from growing up entirely with a lot of second hand clothing.

#clothing #fashion #hand me down

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tumblr university is OUT tumblr monastery is IN brother tumblrinus is painstakingly copying out the most interesting prev tags on a manuscript of vergil until the abbot calls him out for not making his proto-gothic script accessible enough and also for his heresies

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4:35 Blaze it sorry traffic was crazy

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Btw that rule about not trusting how you feel after 4pm in the winter or 9pm in the summer (really we should just say after the sun goes down but whatever) is only about negative feelings. if you are chilling with your best friend drinking hot chocolate and have never felt more loved and safe, that is 100% true and you can and should trust

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Well fuck 😭😭😭😭

It looks like we are heading for a National-Act government. Legit feel sick over this.

They want to abolish the Māori Development Minister, Ministry for Pacific Peoples, Ministry for Women, Ministry for Ethnic Communities, and the Human Rights Commission…. Among other atrocities.

😭😭😭

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Looks like the NZ election is going National’s way but with amazing results for both the Greens and Te Pati Māori, which both speaks to how Labour’s centre left pandering has cost them the left vote and also how split left voting has handed National electorates which would otherwise have boosted Labour.

I’m not happy, but I’m not completely angry either. Weird way to feel on an election night

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oh no ... i wonder why that is?

interesting ...

sorry ... what was that about video games and pornography ...?

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having so much love in your heart is beautiful and amazing right up until you’re alone in your bedroom clutching at your chest and whimpering like a wounded dog

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never go a day while im on my period without thinking abt that one quote thats like 'period blood is the only one not borne of violence but is the only kind that is revolted' or something. changed my life

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ADHD study tip

One of the hardest things about studying, or just being productive in general, with ADHD is getting started. It's so hard to just sit down and get something done. I was talking to my brother, who also has ADHD, and we realised we both do the same thing before studying. I always thought it was a bad thing, but after talking to my brother I realised it motivates me to continue being productive.

What we do is something we like to call "productive procrastination". It sounds bad, and yes, to an extent, it can be. Basically you do something not related to your task at hand that is still productive. It gives you that activation energy you need to just start what you need to do.

For example, yesterday I put on an audiobook and for half an hour I did a deep clean of my desk and bookshelves before starting my day of studying. Yes, this was procrastination, but it helped give me motivation. Doing something small makes what you need to do less daunting, because you get that bit of dopamine that keeps you going.

I also find that cleaning up my room really helps. I'm normally a really messy person, but when I study I need a clean space. I used to think it wasn't true, but I now really agree with the saying "messy room, messy mind".

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You're not a bad person for wasting food because you forgot to eat it or left it out or didn't have the time/energy/executive function to prepare it or didn't have an appetite or whatever. Unlearn the guilt your parents taught you.