#- using the word trans to describe himself. and those things can coexist. there can be a gray area between cis and trans

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gerard way gender rant in the tags bc this is my blog so i get to talk abt what i want and it's been on my mind for a hot minute

#like... it just feels weird that ppl are taking them wearing a dress to mean that they've come out as transfem? #please tell me y'all haven't forgotten that clothes don't equal gender right. like a dress is not inherently Female #it just leaves a weird taste in my mouth. it would be 110% fine if he WAS transfem but it feels weird to just assume #he has talked abt how he relates to trans women and that he's struggled with gender and that's valid!! im not denying any of that!! #but they've talked about how they dislike applying labels to himself and i feel like im the only person who finds it weird that ppl are - #- so quick to jump to the nearest label the moment he wears something more gnc than he usually does #also like.. its one thing to say that they're probably not cis. which is very true #but another thing to be so adamant that he's a 100% binary trans woman that it comes off as more intrusive than anything #they probably aren't cis. they've struggled with gender and use he/they pronouns and use some typically feminine terms to refer to himself #and it's fine to look up to him when it comes to gender!! i admire the fact that he's so open about it and i find comfort in knowing that - #- in a way he's kinda like me!! they love their trans fans and don't rlly consider themselves cis but also hasn't said anything about - #- using the word trans to describe himself. and those things can coexist. there can be a gray area between cis and trans #idk man. it just feels weird. i dont like how ppl force labels onto someone who has made an effort to avoid labels. #are they probably queer? absolutely. im not denying that. is it still weird that folks are being oddly invasive about his gender? yeah. #we're allowed to talk about his relationship with gender/sexuality + how he's always been focused on making a welcome space for queer folks #but acting as if it's Written Fact to assume he's a binary trans person is just. weird. #to clarify: this isn't me being mad at anyone in particular. if you're one of the folks who talks abt them being transfem then whatever. #im too tired rn to have any kind of beef with y'all. in the end we all basically know nothing. the only one who understands his - #- relationship with gender is gerard themself. im no expert. im just some queer teenager on the internet. #ive just seen it being passed around and i needed to type this out for myself so i can figure out WHY it was making me uncomfortable #nobody's obligated to agree with me or to even pay attention to this. im rlly only writing it out for myself and myself only. #im keeping the reblogs turned off though bc i don't wanna start fights over it

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Character Sheet: Evan Butchman

Character Chart Character’s full name: Evan Butchman Reason or meaning of name: He wanted as generic a name as possible so he wouldn’t be profiled for his Palestinian heritage Character’s nickname: Grumpy Bear (by his friend Cherry), Bubbo (by his friend Penny) Reason for nickname: Grumpy Bear because of his trademark cynicism. Bubbo because Penny calls everyone that. Birth date: April 3rd, 2000 Physical appearance Age:15 at begin of story, 18 at end  How old does he/she appear: 15 Weight: 126 lbs Height: 5″6 Body build: Fairly skinny  Shape of face: Combination of round and blocky Eye color: Hazel Glasses or contacts: None Skin tone: Olive Distinguishing marks: Bags under his eyes, messy hair Predominant features: Messy hair, dead look in eyes  Hair color: Black Type of hair: Uncombed Hairstyle: Uncombed Voice: Fairly deep but can go higher pitched if scared or angered. Overall attractiveness: Middle of the road Physical disabilities: None.  Usual fashion of dress: Like he just put on whatever was closest in his closet Favorite outfit: Black hoodie with three red arrows pointing diagonally down, and jeans Jewelry or accessories: Chest binder Personality Good personality traits: Funny, activist, refuses to give up, smart.  Bad personality traits: Depression, apathy, single-minded occasionally Mood character is most often in: Sad. Sense of humor: Dry wit Character’s greatest joy in life: Someone using his correct pronouns Character’s greatest fear: His father somehow coming back Why? His father is very close-minded and not accepting of trans people What single event would most throw this character’s life into complete turmoil? - Getting arrested  Character is most at ease when: At home, away from most people Most ill at ease when: Surrounded bypeople Enraged when: Authority figures exploit their power, when people spout racism, when he sees a pedophile Depressed or sad when: Most of the time Priorities: Dismantling capitalism and overthrowing the government Life philosophy: “If it benefits the rich, the poor should get it too.” If granted one wish, it would be: End prejudice Why? He hates prejudice and would much rather force prejudice to leave than “peacefully” coexist with his oppressors Character’s soft spot: He tends to have extra pity on those that have rough home lives, like he did Is this soft spot obvious to others? He only makes it known if he’s aware you’re in a rough spot  Greatest strength: Very intelligent for his age  Greatest vulnerability or weakness: Naturally cynical and will automatically assume the worst about most people until shown they’re good people.  Biggest regret: Not spending as much time with his girlfriend as he could have before she died. Minor regret: Once gave money to a corrupt cop once he found out that cop’s mom was abusive Biggest accomplishment: Getting the schools of his state to recognize Indigenous People Day instead of Columbus Day Minor accomplishment: Organized a protest  Past failures he/she would be embarrassed to have people know about: His rally to stop the War On Drugs ended with him getting arrested Why? He’s worried that’ll affect his social life Character’s darkest secret: He killed his abusive dad by accident because he didn’t want his dad to kill his mom Does anyone else know?  His mom Goals Drives and motivations: He wants to make the world a better place for all marginalized folk and minorities Immediate goals: Graduate high school Long term goals: Overthrow the government and establish socialism How the character plans to accomplish these goals: Riots. Lots and lots of riots.  How other characters will be affected: The classmates will graduate with him, and his riots will fail Past Hometown: Creek Valley, USA Type of childhood: Abusive father, supportive mother Pets: None First memory: His dad calling his mom a racial slur  Most important childhood memory: The first time he stood up to his father Why: It showed he wouldn’t take his crap any more.  Childhood hero: The Wachowskis Dream job: Political activifst Education: Elementary School Religion: Muslim Finances: Working class Present Current location:  Creek Valley, USA Currently living with: His mother Pets: None  Religion: Muslim Occupation: High School Student  Finances:Working Class Family Mother: Anaisah Handal Relationship with her: They love each other very much, even if Anaisah accidentally misgendered him when he first came out to her  Father: Jakob Butchman Relationship with him: Fearful, strained, they hate each other  Siblings: Jillian and Memona.  Relationship with them: They don’t talk much on the account of one having moved out and gotten a job at a sex toy store, and the other currently in college, but they get along. Spouse: Dated Christina Angelico until she died of cancer at the end of sophomore year Relationship with him/her: Strained at first due to vastly different political leanings but grew closer over time Children:  None, he’s a kid Relationship with them: N/A Other important family members: Favorites Color: Blue Least favorite color:  Pink Music: Rage Against The Machine Food: Mahishi Literature: 1984 by George Orwell Form of entertainment: Stand-up comedfy Expressions: Anything sarcastic Mode of transportation: Bicycle Most prized possession: His Antifa flag Habits Hobbies: Laying in bed, listening to music, playing video games. Plays a musical instrument? Nope. Plays a sport? Nope How he/she would spend a rainy day: The same as every other day Spending habits: Volunteered to pay for therapy bills himself so mom wouldn’t have to  Smokes: No Drinks: No Other drugs: No. What does he/she do too much of? Mouth off to authority figures What does he/she do too little of? Spend time with family  Extremely skilled at: Political activism Extremely unskilled at: Basically everything else Nervous tics: Shaking and twitchy left eye Usual body posture: Slouched and laid back Mannerisms: Stuffing his hands in his pockets Peculiarities: Gets really panicky if he does something a cop can even slightly misconstrue as violent crime Traits Optimist or pessimist? Pessimist Introvert or extrovert? Introvert Daredevil or cautious? Daredevil Logical or emotional? Bit of both Disorderly and messy or methodical and neat? Messy Prefers working or relaxing? Relaxing Confident or unsure of himself/herself? Confident, unless he’s being reminded of his father. Animal lover? He doesn’t really hate animals, but he’s not one to keep pets Self-perception How he/she feels about himself/herself: Like he’s making progress, one step at a time. One word the character would use to describe self: Depressed. One paragraph description of how the character would describe self: “Man, a whole paragraph?  What is this, a school essay? Well, I hate most people, most people hate me, so it’s a mutual sort of thing there.  I, um, I hate cops. And capitalism. As if you couldn’t tell from all that crap above this section. I can be a bit....moody at times, but that’s a side effect of just seeing how much of a dumpster fire reality actually is.” What does the character consider his/her best personality trait? His refusal to back down from any of his beliefs What does the character consider his/her worst personality trait? How unintentionally condescending he can come off. What does the character consider his/her best physical characteristic?  His flat chest What does the character consider his/her worst physical characteristic?  His vagina. He’s saving up so he can officially complete the transitioning process when he’s 18. How does the character think others perceive him/her: He just assumes everyone hates him, aside from his close friends. He doesn’t really care, though. What would the character most like to change about himself/herself: Depression, and the body he was born into. He’d much rather have been labeled a man, as that’s what he truly wants to be. He was merely assigned female at birth.  Relationships with others Opinion of other people in general: Hates most people, authority figures especially. Except for his friends Does the character hide his/her true opinions and emotions from others? No. He can be very blunt. Person character most hates: The principal of his school. Either that or Trump. He’s not too fond of Larry MacDougal, either, but he doesn’t outright hate him.  Best friend(s): Penny Dropsocket, Cherry Beamshine, Christina Angelico, and Soon Yi Kim Love interest(s): Christina Angelico (deceased), (may give him another love interest, will have to wait and see) Person character goes to for advice: Penny Person character feels responsible for or takes care of: Himself. Person character feels shy or awkward around: Memona (his older brother) Person character openly admires: Malcom X, Martin Luther King Jr., basically any civil rights activist Person character secretly admires: His art teacher ,Mrs. Etcherson. Most important person in character’s life before story starts: His mom  After story starts: Christina, even though she’s dead;