#Also: if your feminism doesn't include trans girls you are doing it wrong

[spiderfreedom]

So by content not just a transphobe but have Clanvoy racists and trans child molestors in your reblogs. I don't think you fucking get to talk on trans folks and your "Rationalism" So are you a "Gender Realist?"

I am not a "rationalist." I used to read "Rationalist" blogs and was in that subculture, which is why I posted about it. I stopped participating in Rationalist culture because many of them were anti-feminists and anti-Black.

Clanvoy racists

I don't know what "clanvoy" is.

trans child molestors in your reblog

If anyone I have reblogged from is a rapist or a child molestor, please inform me and have receipts. I do not think that rape or sexual assault is acceptable at all.

So are you a "Gender Realist?"

I'm not sure what you mean by this.

I wrote a much longer post about some of my positions just now. I think some people experience sex dysphoria, and they want to transition to alleviate the pain they feel in their body. I think there may be a neurological basis for dysphoria. I don't think there are "woman brains" and "man brains", but I do think dysphoria may be in the brain.

The evidence I've read suggests that HRT has a much higher rate of happiness and success for trans people than surgeries, so I tentatively am okay with HRT for people with persistent gender dysphoria.

I think a lot of doctors are irresponsible, though, and do not actually try to help people. I think many doctors take the easy way out and just put their patients on HRT because it's what they want. Especially in certain gender clinics. I think that's very irresponsible, because even HRT has health side effects.

I think trans people deserve to be happy and to live dignified lives. I think we need much more research on dysphoria and what causes it and how to alleviate it. Many doctors are negligent when it comes to trans people's health.

I am frustrated at how many trans people talk about gender. I have seen a lot of sexist behavior from them. When I try to talk to them about their sexism, they say it "doesn't really count". Or that it's wrong to accuse them of sexism, because "they are AFAB" or "they are trans women", so neither of them can be sexist. I don't think that is acceptable. I care a lot about the rights and dignity of the female people, we have special problems, and I don't like how many trans people talk about us.

Ultimately, I don't think that you can change sex from 'female' and 'male'. But I do think there are edge cases that are complicated to deal with. People who have 5ARD intersex disorder are male, they produce sperm, but because their sex organs are on the inside, they usually grow up being raised as girls. So they are male, but they are raised as girls and experience misogyny. They don't even know they are male until later in life. Do these people "belong in feminism"? I think it's a case-by-case thing. The same for transgender people who transition and live telling people they are a certain gender - if you live like that long enough, you will surely experience things relative to your chosen gender. Do they "belong in feminism"? Once again, it is case by case. The important thing is to respect human rights and dignity, and that includes intersex people, trans people, and also FEMALE PEOPLE!

I think that should answer your questions. You don't answer any of mine, and you don't give me specific questions, so I don't know if I will continue talking to you. You've taken up a lot of time out of my day and you don't interact with any my sources or points or arguments...

[letters-to-lgbt-kids]

My dear lgbt+ kids,

I had a conversation with someone who told me "Even though I know deep down that I am trans, I just keep making up other explanations for my feelings. I feel like I could write down a whole list with all the signs I am trans - but on the other hand I can come up with a whole list of these alternative explanations! Am I allowed to identify as trans even if I can think of other explanations?" and I figured some of you may have similar questions, so I wanted to share with you what I told them:

You are allowed to call yourself trans even if you can "explain away" your feelings in other ways.

Sure, this could also be low self-confidence and that could just be confusion and that other thing could be trauma and the next one could be... But if you need to rake your brain for other possible explanations than "I am trans", if you feel the need to make those lists and you think about being trans so much, don’t you think that "I am trans" may simply be the best explanation?

It's easy to convince yourself that spending hours and energy on making up all those alternatives to you being trans must be a sign that you are not actually trans ("If it was real, I wouldn't be able to come up with other explanations"). In my experience, the opposite of that is true: We often don't see the forest for the trees. You spend all this time staring at the "trees" (your feelings) trying to come up with individual explanation for every single one - but the pure fact that there are even that many trees to stare at is already a pretty big giveaway that you are in the forest.

Of course I can’t (and don’t want to) decide your label for you. But if you deep down know you are trans and just feel like you can’t give yourself permission to use that term, it may be helpful to hear this: I believe you. You are trans. You can trust yourself.

With all my love,

Your Tumblr Dad

#Also: if your feminism doesn't include trans girls you are doing it wrong #Queue is filled until Christmas Day - see you then! #I will log off until then to protect my mental health. I already disabled the messaging feature and blocked/reported those who sent threats

[forbys]

I used to be a libfem, I know all of your rhetoric lol. trans males are still socialized male (also, infantilizing them by calling them "girls" doesn't change anything) whether they identify like that or not. there has never and will never be a trans male who will undergo fgm, they will never be denied abortion, they're not forced into child marriage, forced into sex trafficking, or raped on mass scales. there is a LOT that ONLY people born with typical or mostly typical female phenotyped will

face (and that includes trans females! I'm 100% on board for talking about their problems, which Tumblr seems to be against because something something identifying into male privilege or whatever bullshit) and that's just the facts. we're oppressed for being female, not for identifying as female. can you honestly look at a woman who's faced misogyny all of her life and say "if you had identified as a man none of this would have happened"? in my opinion this isn't even about if folks are trans or not, I don't care at the end of the day. I mean do you really think that feminists are all transphobic shitheads who just LOVE to be mean to trans people? most of us don't care, outside of wanting trans people to be safe (from mostly male violence stemming from hatred of gnc people, mind you) and get better access to therapy. there's nothing wrong with y'all centering trans issues, but don't force feminists to stop talking about female oppression for you. -----------------Literally all I'm against is trans exclusive radical feminism if you support trans people you're not a terf that's literally all it is man feminists are cool terfs are not