#I’m also a little leery of the fandom’s obsession with the older teens parenting the younger ones

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I was never gonna be on board with St4ncy, but one of my main objections is that I really feel like the show has actually done a really solid job of communicating “Steve is adrift and lands on getting back together with Nancy as a solution to his problems despite not really knowing who she is or what she wants.” There’s the fact that he did the same thing with Robin in S3 (not picking up that she was a lesbian). There’s the implication that they haven’t spent much time together in the 18 or so months since they broke up (so he has no idea how she’s changed since then). There’s the fact that so much of the ship-teasing is cheerleading from other people (the timing of which suggests that Steve is driven in part by the encouragement of his friends). There’s his focus on what role Nancy played in his personal journey three years previously (not on who she is or what’s happening now). There’s his statement at the beginning of the season that he doesn’t know what he wants. There’s the pie-in-the-sky nature of his love confession to Nancy (talking about a scenario that she has stated she doesn’t want that could only take place in the distant future and involves no consideration of practicalities).

I don’t think he’s wrong to shoot his shot, per se, but he is absolutely living in la la land and he does not know that girl. The only thing that makes me think that they’d ever end up together is that, sometimes, shows are poorly written.

(If they were meant to end up together, I also think there were better ways to set that up. Lloyd/Diane from Say Anything and Nick/Lindsay from Freaks and Geeks are decent models.)

#anti stancy #I’m also a little leery of the fandom’s obsession with the older teens parenting the younger ones #so while I don’t think Steve is wrong to want kids #the fact that he is focused on that at 19-20 when he is otherwise aimless #kind of just makes it seem like he’s lonely #I think if he were a girl people would be like oh honey no