#OHHHH and the idea that their members are upset about them dating too i just!!!!!!!!😤😤😤😤

[bandsanitizer]

the way that it doesn’t just make me sad but angry that idols are expected to apologize not just for disappointing fans and their members but for harming them by so much as even having a dating rumor bc is it that bad they found love? or something that could become that? is it that bad for the people you supposedly love and support to be happy? yes I know the industry basically runs on the parasocial relationships but isn’t it high time to recognize that someone else’s happiness is not an attempt to ruin yours? that even if it is painful or difficult for you, that is not the responsibility of the idol. they should not need to apologize for their own happiness and events within their personal life which half the time come out as leaks (read: invasions of their privacy) rather than on their own time. and to go as far as to say it implies they don’t deserve their job or should leave their group… artists experiencing things in life? the emotions of affection and infatuation and love and endearment and everything else that comes with a romantic relationship? that’s only going to give them the capacity to create greater and more enriched art. i’m not saying they’re in a relationship to do (and I certainly hope not) but if you need any reason at all to refrain from causing these idols harm in the way you claim their happiness has so deeply harmed and disappointed you, then take it as them living. that life needs art and art needs life.

#i just 💪💪💪💪💪💪 #i actually don’t give a shit about if romance makes them a better artist tbh #i just think everyone deserves happiness and if they’re in a relationship then hooray for them #sick and tired of them needing to apologize for harming and disappointing fans #like the fact that dating rumors exist almost at the same levels as WAY MORE MESSED UP SHIT TO DO is absolutely gdkshckksjfjjdbfk angering #this is mostly about people’s reactions to josh but just in general tbh #esPECIALLY when it comes from leaks or like ‘so and so was seen in this blurry ass photo with a GIRL’ and i’m just!!!!! #fans be like ‘i’d be okay if they were private about it and didn’t rub it in our face’ #like bby!!!! people taking pics of them on dates when they got have their face covered and didn’t consent to the photo that got plastered #all over the internet is not them being obnoxious about it!!! it’s an invasion of their privacy #like fuck don’t you think it’s painful for the artist to know the expected norms and HAKFHKDJFKDJ i can’t even complete the sentence it make #me soooo upset just like !!!!!!!!!!!! and this isn’t even just the kaypahp industry #western fandom toooooooo but gfksjfksjfjsjfjjd BYE #alison speaks? #probably to delete #OHHHH and the idea that their members are upset about them dating too i just!!!!!!!!😤😤😤😤