#also i'm autistic and i got what he meant soooo

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I think that sometimes when people in fandom hear other fandom folks tell them to "please read other stuff besides fanfiction" they feel like that is rooted in some kind of insult to fanfiction. A belief that is inferior to "real" books. And while I can't guarantee that no one means it like that, most do not. Because the advice is true, but not because of that.

I'm thinking of the Hideaki Anno interview where, upon being asked for advice in getting into the anime industry, he said "my best advice to you as a creator is to please have diverse interests in things besides animation."

That man made Neon Genesis Evangelion. Do you think he hates animation? Do you think he sees no value in it as a medium? Clearly that's not the answer.

No, the answer is that only ever interacting with one kind of art, no matter what it is, is always going to be limiting. You should know how to love multiple things in multiple ways. And that goes for fanfiction, your favorite genre of original books, movies, anime, paintings, anything. Hell, it goes beyond art and into your other interests, hobbies, and the people you interact with.

No one can ever graps the full spectrum of human experience, obviously, but you should be able to find beauty and enjoyment from different sources. You need it. You can't sustain yourself on only one meal forever, no matter how tasty or nutricious. You need variety.

If you find yourself only getting your sustenance from a single source, please try to find another. It could be anything, there are so many ways to attain meaning, but find one.

#fandom #art #that anno quote goes on to be a bit weird about autistic people but he is completely right on this #also i'm autistic and i got what he meant soooo #also since this is about creation as well as general wellbeing i guess this tag is apt #writing advice

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May I ask how did you go about with your adhd diagnosis? Or what even made you realize to ask about being tested? If it's okay to ask cause if you don't want to talk about it, it's also okay and understandable:)

hi nonny! <333

uh so okay so like, i think really it was like my first few years of therapy [i started in 2011] i don't know how it got brought up but i think it was one of those confluence of events things. i think my primary therapist had mentioned it all while i was telling her i was thinking about growing up and school and how much of a disaster college was for me, and that combined with —

in 2013 Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder/Selective Eating Disorder was added to the DSM. i think it was after or around the same time I was in my first eating disorder therapy journey but the therapist at the time i don't think really understood it or knew much about it. i also have anorexia, but not nervosa, just where I stop eating sometimes either due to stress or just... because I don't want to eat anymore.

in believe it was 2015 when my primary therapist mentioned it, and we looked at it together, and then I went home and did some research and in that research I saw studies and online pieces talking about eating disorders in general pairing up with ADHD, like, if you're ADHD or are autistic you have a higher chance of also developing an eating disorder.

so like that had really stuck in the back of my mind for the following years and I tried operating under the assumption that I had it but it turns out it's hard to do that when you don't really know, because I'm crippled with doubt a lot of the time [like, what if it's something else? what if this is just a normal brain and I'm just deeply uncomfortable or something?]

after like, two years of my therapist going 'ask your psychiatrist to give you a recommendation' I finally asked her and she referred me to a hospital that specialized in that kind of thing. so I was able to make an appointment, and was tested forrrr I think between 4-5 hours. i really just REALLY just wanted an official diagnosis. i had to put my mind at ease. i had taken the online tests and surveys but like, that's a survey or a test set up by someone online that i don't know who they are or their qualifications, and that wouldn't really settle my 'i need to know' itch.

so after the test, the doctor came back in with the data and gave me the lay of the land, saying based on the results, I was ADHD-Inattentive. This also enabled me now to feel comfortable asking for medication [which, the first attempt didn't work out so great, and the second attempt didn't work out so great because it was with the same medication lol, but the third try is going well! never be afraid to ask to change your meds if you don't feel like they're working as well as they possible can or if your side effects are too discomforting]

it took a while to build up to get tested, and women often aren't tested when they're younger because we don't tend to be as hyperactive, if at all, and i kept that in mind before being tested, like "well if i was ADHD certainly someone would have noticed by now" but no. no one noticed. my father once told me i didn't have adhd, i was just bad at communication — so it's things like that i feel like invalidates our theories about own own self and makes us feel like we're blowing things out of proportion and shouldn't get tested.

but, if you're able to, totally get tested. it's hard to find someone sometimes, and it can be expensive — but the peace of mind it gave me hearing someone who studied this their entire life finally give me a diagnosis that explained SOOOO much of my life... i was really grateful for that. i perferred in person because i knew who i was talking to, what his background was, i was in a solid testing environment, and he was able to explain what it meant for me and how my brain worked and broke down my results for me.

but it sucks because not everyone has access to this kind of testing and it can just be so difficult. so nonny if you're thinking about it, and you're able to, it's 100% worth it just for the peace of mind alone.

#ADHD things

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Ok I meant to answer you're question about what I thought of the show ages ago but I forgot.

I LOVED IT OMGGGG! I got so many kitty vibes from Wilhelm and Simon! The touching! The softness! It's those vibes exactly! I want that energy in TWP.

COMRADE SIMON!! We stan! That speech he made at the very beginning about the differences in attitudes towards "tax evasion" vs. "Welfare fraud." Legend behavior.

Sara!!!! My girl!!!!!! An autistic/adhd character PLAYED BY AN AUTISTIC ACTRESS!!!! THIS IS SO HUGE!!! I would die for my problematic queen. I made an entire post on her but the gist is, I get where she's coming from and understand why she feels the way she feels but dear God girl make better choices and stay the hell away from August.

Speaking of.... I wanna run August over several times. Vroom vroom motherfucker. The fact that he

- filmed MINORS HAVING SEX AND TGE POSTED IT ONLINE

-kissed Sara behind Felice's back when they were still dating WITHOUT HER CONSENT BTW

- Wanted to blame Simon for the drugs because he knew it would be easy because Simon's family is lower class and doesnt have the same social standing as one of the "members of the society"

- Also it didn't escape my notice that the cult like faternety type group with all the rich, mainly white boys is called The Society. This shows commentary on class is vv interesting. Especially the little things like two girls just randomly advocating for THE DEATH PENALTY. The rich people audacity.

-Anyways back to August, when he tried to excuse his actions with Wilhelm and get all teary like no bitch you can't manipulate your way out of this one. And again with Sara! When he said "Wilhelm has everything" I wanted to scream! Like he's fucking closeted and clearly suffering from panic attacks and extreme anxiety you moron.

-Anyways!! I also think that Wilhem might be autistic because he just feels autistic. Like the vibes are there.

- The girl group is so sweet? And to have the popular girl be a Black girl who isn't "stereotypically attractive" with a more medium sized body and bad acne. As someone who has really bad skin I needed that. Felice is kinda awesome imo.

Let me see what else??

-Simon and his mom speaking Spanish consistently throughout the show. It sounded pretty natural to me? But I'm not a native speaker. (Or even fluent honestly lol.)

- Simon and Wilhelm are honestly so adorable and in love and it made my heart ache. (I am so touch starved I swear..)

-My only main beef is the outing plotline and the show using an outdated medical term for Sara, aspergers. It's literally just autism. Also it's kind of offensive because Hans Asperger was a n*zi who literally killed autistic children because they weren't useful to capitalism. SOOOO yeah.

As for the outing plotline, I feel like the cishets have like three plotlines that they use for queer stories. Outing/coming out, one of them dies, or one if them bullies the other until they both fall in love. It's tired.

But overall I really loved it.

HI SORRY I HADNT REPLIED

I wanted to correctly talk to you about this series so I logged in through my computer to make it easier for me :D

LOOK AT THIS POINT IVE RELATED THEM TO LITERALLY EVERY COMFORT SHIP I HAVE LIKE. I've compared this to kitty, I've compared this to Thomastair, I've compared this to my friends to ocs who she has obsessed me with (youd actually like them if you liked this tbh) IVE COMPARED ME TO MY OCS

BUT AT THE END OF THE DAY I JUST LOVE THEM

IF KITTY DOESNT HAVE THIS ENERGY IN TWP WHAT WAS THE POINT

what was the point cc??

S I M O N

OH GOD WHEN HE SAID THAT I WENT OMG YEAH

new favorite character

Great

SHES PLAYED BY AN AUTISTIC ACTRESS?? Sorry I hadn't known! Haven't actually gotten to obsessively look at the cast I've been trying to get over the last episode BUT THATS SO COOL. SARA IS AMAZING AND I ADORE HER. I'll read your post after this! But of course STAY THE HELL AWAY FROM AUGUST GIRL PLEASE

Tbh I understood where she was coming from with everything with Simons image falling apart and her having to suffer when she had just started having friends , just after finding he had been lying to her. But love, AUGUST?

A U G U S T ???

WHO JUST FOUND OUT OUTED YOUR BROTHER

Also random and stealing this from @marzzinaa i totally hc Sara as a demi girl for some reason

Im kinda sad we didnt see her speak spanish as much we did simon :(

But oh well I LOVE HER AND YEAH STAY AWAY FROM AUGUST GOD

FAE WE RUN HIM OVER TOGETHER BROOM BROOM

You already said it all, I just agree

Ok I'll bring a machete you bring whatever you wish and we kill him sound good?

ALSO YEAH I TOTALLY NOTICED HOW THE ECONOMIC DINAMICS CAME INTO PLAY AND HOW IT BASICALLY LET YOU KNOW HOW THE PRIVILEGED ELITES COULD GET AWAY WITH ANYTHING

meanwhile they wanted to pass off to Simon who came from a lower class family the blame

Also I'd like to mention how that would also play into the stereotype latinos are all drug dealers

Which I love how they didnt make his dead beat alcoholic man the latino parent, when I first read the description I thought they might do that, but im so glad they didnt

I think it might have been a comentary idk i liked that they DIDNT make the poc parent the dead beat

THE FRIEND GROUP WAS SO COOL AND I LOVED ALL OF THEM AND YES FELICE WAS JUST <3

I love how they didnt make her stereotypically perfect AND YES MID SIZED REP WAS AMAZING TO SEE

Also im so glad you got to see that represented!!

So I am a native speaker and him talking to his mom MADE ME CRY

it was WONDERFUL I WANT MORE OF IT

pls most her phrases reminded me to my own mom

Autistic wilhelm you say?? omg tell me more (if you want)

Oh thats awful, well I'll just refer to Sara as autistic and hope the showrunners fix that next season because if they dont-

Yikes

Oh yeah, thats valid critisism. But in my opinion they actually wrote it pretty well so I wont really be complaining about an overall media problem with queer stories rn. If so I'll be here all day. But yeah its an overall problem but it wasnt done bad in my opinion so!

I'll shut up, for now

IM SO GLAD YOU LIKED IT FEEL FREE TO KEEP TALKING ABOUT IT WITH ME PLS ITS MY OBSESSION NOW IM GONNA BE ANNOYING ABOUT IT ALL MONTH

#young royal spoilers #young royals