#and That Alone with no elaboration or even Mention of ANYTHING at ALL inbetween 'absolute total absence of romance always everywhere'

[aroperyton]

i admittedly think about my akoiromanticism more than i do my greyromanticism, and i think thats bc its a lot more hard-set and easy to explain than my greyromanticism and a lot more... to the point? like instead of thinking out the whole sentence, my brain is only on repeat for the end of it, "...and even when i DO experience romantic attraction, i can't date, which is seen as THE expression of romantic attraction, so all in all romance just doesnt have much payoff or is worth the effort to me, and THATS why i id as aromantic!" but i'm still very excited when i see the greyro flag included in posts instead of like, the demisexual flag and thats It for aspec but-not-just-aromantic-and-asexual identities, and am mentally cheering us on every time i see it (imagine me cheering for u if u wanna, other greyro ppl :P!), and still suuuuuuuuper think arospec discussion centers Heavily on just never experiencing romantic attraction and never caring abt it at all, which is fair and im not like Mad about it cause you dont really have anywhere else you can have that, ....but i really do feel like there isnt as much room or acknowledgement of the nuance and varying in aroSpec identities and experiences and feelings etc. even when we do experience romantic attraction its not the same as an alloro person would, and when we aren't it doesn't mean we're Biding Our Time for the Next Crush cause we're Secretly Alloro, it means!! we're arospec!!!!!! i wish there was a chance for more discussion of experiencing romantic attraction in an arospec way, and experiencing total lack of romantic attraction when romantic attraction is still a thing that can happen, etc

#rambling.txt #as always dont take what i say here as a word for word exact guide on what i honestly mean cause wording is hard XD #but anyway i wanna post abt aroSpec stuff more cause that and allosexuality while being arospec #was what i needed the most when i was questioning/coming to terms with my aromanticism #i think it can be good for questioning ppl cause if ur like 'well im not sure if i do or not' #or 'well i might be but what about that one person when i was 14' etc etc #cause if you are genuinely really hung up over That One Person When You Were 14 you arent gonna see like #'signs youre aromantic; you experience no romantic attraction you never understood romance or dating or marriage you n-' #and That Alone with no elaboration or even Mention of ANYTHING at ALL inbetween 'absolute total absence of romance always everywhere' #and 'literally alloro lol' #is like.... not gonna help you a lot lol. but maybe thats just the ocd talking cuz i would not dare Touch an identity- #-if i didnt absolutely 101% know i for sure Could fit the definition of it instead of just Generally Vibing With It