#and i hate how embedded terfs are in these conversations

[rainydayladybug]

Hey crypto terf I get off to fanfiction: BOO!

Gotta love how “TERF” has conveniently become so detached from the core transmisogyny/intentional exclusion + violent demonization of trans women.. to the point that people think that calling trans people, especially trans women and other TMA people, “TERFs” is a morally superior action. And tangible form of trans allyship.

And it’s somehow NEVER due to stances or topics related to radical feminism, or the core pro-trans women’s exclusion, that would even warrant the mention (or accusation) of “TERF”. Somehow even the hate groups that target us become weaponized against us, with the vague claim that it’s for our own good and our protection.

And for anyone who wants to know what this stemmed from.. I mentioned on a post that hypothetical incest/rape/abuse/CSA survivors are always thrown in the faces of those who criticize the public eroticization + normalization of these topics in fan fiction (somehow always written in the most tacky, immature, harmful ways), because “maybe the author and everyone jacking off to it is coping with trauma!!”.. but that no one seems to care about the actual victims of these traumas who express discomfort (or even just ask for trigger warnings or have a DNI). Instead these survivors get called fascists and, in this case, TERFs. Because our existence as survivors is only allowed in these circles if we comfort, support, and sexually feed anyone who jacks off to our abuse.

And, since no one on this site can grasp any nuance or form their own thoughts, and they think all complex social justice issues / issues of morality are sorted into “PRO” and “ANTI” or “INCLUSIONIST” or “EXCLUSIONIST” (because that’s the only complexity that their still-forming virgin brains can comprehend) criticizing this toxic behavior within fanfiction circles somehow means you’re against all forms of erotica, and loathe + exclude all trans women from your activism. even if you’re a trans woman yourself. not sure how trans women got inherently linked + embedded in your right to *checks notes* write an online novel about Dora and Diego fucking, without criticism.

And for the record, I also have controversial/“problematic” kinks that have formed due to years of sexual abuse. But I don’t stomp my feet like an angry toddler denied fruit gummies when other abuse survivors express discomfort with kinks like mine, and the endless (tacky and horribly-handled) erotica + porn that fetishizes our abuse, and normalizes it and becomes a tool in grooming the kids/teens that have full access to the platforms they get uploaded to.

This site is full of children (who’ve been bombarded from incredibly young + formative ages with violent, unrealistic porn in this digital age) and self-admitted adult virgins who either think sex is “yucky” and talk about it in incredibly immature ways, or their concept of sex revolves around terribly-written + unrealistic erotica created by other adult virgins.. like I really don’t expect to have mature, informed conversations about sex or trauma on here. Like I’ve had more nuanced, mutually-critical discussions about this on fucking Fetlife and in BDSM dungeons. It’s incredibly on-brand for me to be accused, with barely any context and no justification, of being a TERF and a fascist (as a trans Jew) on this performative faux-leftist site, all because I’m not applauding whatever low-quality fictional garbage y’all spend hours every day hyper-fixating on.

And I hate how I can’t even tell you to log off and finish your algebra homework or something, because I can’t tell if you’re a 14 year old just trying to be edgy, or a 35 year old white queer from Portland who fights for the rights of “pro-shippers” more than they fight for actual minorities.

#how thick is your skull to find a blog full of nudity + pictures of (real: OOH SCARY!!) people in kink gear or mid-fuck.. #and think ‘this person seems like they’ll get triggered by the mere mention of fanfiction’