#and if anyone tries to treat you like one they're an entitled weirdo who's actively dehumanizing you & i advise you to drop their ass & run

[angorwhosebabyisthis]

> posts a fic i'm proud of about dark subject matter to do with five and his abuse, which came from a very personal place, on AO3

> gets a comment

> it is, Course, a hate comment from an anti, demanding on anon to know why i would 'spend my value as a writer who's read Legacies' to write it

> roasts their ass like a thanksgiving turkey and immediately goes to write more of the thing

#LL tag #antis cw #the entitlement is unreal and it Will get you made fun of sorry #like for one thing first and foremost my art is for me; unless i am specifically writing something as a gift for someone else #which i do when i do it because it brings me joy #but also i do find happiness; joy; and fulfillment in posting art that i made for myself; and it being meaningful to other people #i've got LL fics that are ten years old that people still mention having loved now and then; and that i still get kudos on #and it is so humbling in the best way; i cannot express how much my opinion on it is not 'lol go fuck yourselves i don't care' #.......BUT. your 'value' as a writer/artist/etc in fandom is not something you '''spend''' #you are a *person* who shared your time and effort and a little part of your soul #that nourishes people it resonates with; until they have enough left over to maybe share some of theirs right back #a fandom that is good for you and treating you decently will leave you with more of yourself to share; not less #the value you are bringing to a fandom is *you* #what your value to the fandom is *not* is #'someone who's read the thing i like; puts words on paper; and is therefore categorically capable of making content for me to consume' #'and ONLY content for ME to consume' #'if you write anything i don't want to read you are personally taking food out of the mouths of me and my starving children' #writers and artists in fandom are not ATMs for the fandom to leave empty #and if anyone tries to treat you like one they're an entitled weirdo who's actively dehumanizing you & i advise you to drop their ass & run #anyway i just have a lot of thoughts about the subject and i am grateful to people in fandom who aren't Like This #whereas anon can use the block button or cry themself to sleep at night every time i post another fic about five being an abuse survivor #the salt files #abuse mention cw #grooming mention cw

[delusion-of-negation]

1 Minors with DNI are a fucking riot, because they're the ones who always go into blogs explicitly telling them to fuck off. And when you ban them from your page, they have a massive tantrum because they feel entitled to look at all that nasty adult shit, but they'll also throw a tantrum because they themselves went out to look for it. Minors have been the largest demographic to go into my DM's and complain about things, where I explicitly made it clear it's 18+. One time one of these oversized

2 tried to do a NSFW sexually explicit RPG with one of my OC's, and then flipped when I told them to take a hike. I'm not even an RPG blog. Only thing more annoying is when a minor joins an adult only Discord, lying about their age, and then throwing a public tantrum in #general about how the adults are being NSFW-nasty, and complaining that this explicitly 18+ server doesn't cater to 15 yo old snot nosed brats, calling everyone names, and then harassing people in the DM's after being kicked.

not to tone police, but calling 15 year-olds "snot-nosed brats" does not sit right with me - it feels like you're buying their narrative, but you're casting them in the villain role instead of the hero role, and in doing so missing the bigger picture. both they (the people who pull this crap, not 15 year-olds in general) and you paint 15 as uwu literal tiny babies who cannot even hear the word sex - I have worked as a volunteer for an lgbt+ youth group back when lgbt+ sex-ed and lgbt+ help for teens was basically non-existent in my country (or at least this area of it), and I have friends who are young, and I was a kid myself once, and I have read shit, and so on and so forth, and I think that framing is actively dangerous. teenagers are not babies, and a huge source of the problems they face in life are from being too controlled, too isolated, and not given access to resources and information. teen pregnancy is treated as some kind of epidemic of bad parenting leading to teens "acting out" and not being celibate, when in reality it's an epidemic of lacking sex-ed and forcing them into secretive behaviour, which leads to unsafe sex, which leads to more likelihood of pregnancy. when you buy into bad framings I think you miss the reasons they act the way they do, and the real rebuttal to their claims - instead of being like "you're not a baby, you're a teenager, act like it, take responsibility, and stop expecting strangers to parent you" a lot of people's response is "ew baby, get away from me! you're so icky! I hate you!" and that's unhelpful.

teenagers coming to your blog (as I mentioned in both of those two posts above) and hounding you, despite their own dni being very explicit in saying they allegedly don't want to talk to you, seems to me like them obviously trying to bait you and cause trouble - like if they come to my posts and then add those shitty tags, it's them thinking they're vagueing me and making me feel bad for what I like or support (when it's not somebody who somehow genuinely was totally oblivious), when in reality it's just frustrating and really childish to have somebody show up, be bitchy, then immediately block you. same with nsfw rp requests, then "throwing a hissy fit" about it, and coming into adult servers to complain - they're being, for lack of a better term, drama llama attention whores. that's it. when they lie about their age and try to do it in secret, and all that shit, it's also a problem, obviously - they're far above old enough to know better than to lie and manipulate people. but when they do all this bait so brazenly and openly, that's them trying to cause trouble and annoyance, trying to play the victim in a scenario that they engineered. I think people forget that 15 year-olds are wholeass people, they can manipulate, they can intentionally harm, they can abuse, they can even rape (despite some people I've seen claiming that it's impossible), and they have personalities and reasonings behind their behaviour, ultimately they're not uwu precious babies or "snot-nosed brats" having a mindless temper tantrum, there's more to them. what they're doing is intentional attention-seeking behaviour and attempting to engineer scenarios where they either annoy people or, worse, trick people into doing some dodgy shit.

I don't say minors can't interact with my blog - I claim absolutely no responsibility for my followers, who interacts with my posts, etc. I do not monitor that sort of thing. my blog is not a safe space, it's not ideally for minors, but I can't monitor that effectively or reliably, and claiming that I do will only leave me liable when, inevitably, I can't spot every single one and something slips through. minors can interact here, I can't stop them, just don't be an ass. but tbh I just don't think this behaviour is what most people think it is, I think it's them wanting internet drama to fucking entertain themselves. the alleged "moral" reasoning behind it, or them being "dumb kids", is really not a large part of the actual motive behind each scenario.

edit: I meant to link this thread of the above post, not the other one