#and my ex's entire online presence was apparently immediately scrubbed afterwards

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#Just read a disquieting rumour that my ex was faking being indigenous. #Which... #I mean #I didn't see the evidence #All that I know is that this call-out post went up about 9 months ago in indigenous facebook groups #and my ex's entire online presence was apparently immediately scrubbed afterwards #which i'm only learning just now because honestly i've broken off all contact with them and with the rest of their friends #but like...it kinda wouldn't surprise me? #but the thing was they were an extremely militant decolonization activist #like they would go on long angry rants about appropriation and 'pretendians' and how terrible they were #but also like...they didn't really identify as indigenous until i think a year or so into our relationship? #and at the time i just figured ''whatever they're reconnecting with their roots'' #(I'm not indigenous; I don't know how these things work) #but then they started speaking sporadically in a fake accent when around other Native people and going on about how 'Rez' they were #and like...'Rez'. Mate. #I know for a fact that you grew up in a $10 million house in Hawaii #(at least I assume it was a fact) #And they were a big fan of using social justice arguments and language as a pretext for abusing me. #And if it was a lie then. Well. It would be very much in character for them let me just say. #Like they lied constantly to other people. I just...I guess I assumed that I was an exception? #Or that they wouldn't lie about the big stuff. Especially when they acted so vociferously angry about it. #But yeah. Trying to assume the absolute most marginalised social identity they can for clout sounds very much like something they would do.