#bc having kids means giving up both my bodily and societal autonomy

[nickyhemmick]

really curious to know what makes some men actually want to be fathers

#like it’s so strange to me that guys in their 20s will tell me they want a wife and a family #when they can barely respond to a text message more than once a day #like what is it abt being a father that excites u? do u actually want to raise little humans? or is it just a societal thing u have #romanticized and think u shld do? #ITS SO WEIRD #like I’m 21 I DO NOT think abt marriage or having kids #bc having kids means giving up both my bodily and societal autonomy #and being married potentially means my financial autonomy as well #why wld i choose that? #to give u (men) this future - I am giving up more than u ever will #so that is no longer a fantasy I have or want (not saying I never will but I am not delusional abt it either) #so it really fascinates me when early 20 year olds I meet say they want children and have thought abt it #and abt how many they want #and then they’re shocked when I say I don’t think abt kids or marriage #LIKE SIR?? I CAN BARELY FEED MYSELF??? #also u are NOT emotionally intelligent enough to have a child anytime soon #(me to these guys lol. ok maybe one has like 4 years and he wld be emotionally ready ngl) #but the rest? whew. thank god I dodged that bullet 🙏🏼 #tala.txt #been thinking a lot abt this lately…..