#but bc he's such a fucking doormat‚ the whole thing didn't get resolved

[aeide-thea]

lol just found out the former owner of this property has been surveilling all our mail via usps's informed delivery service, to which he still has access because he never bothered to file a change of address with them even though it's been literal years at this point, and so now i get to put 'calling the post office to get him kicked off because what the actual fuck' on my to-do list for the day!

also: i found this out because he emailed my dad an image of a piece of mail he wants us (me) to forward to him. flames on the side of my face.

#like—i was mildly annoyed when i thought it was just him being lazy #but the fact that his inaction has given him ongoing access to peruse all the mail we receive? #which on the basis of this email he clearly does at least sometimes? #CREEPY. like yeah it's whatever but also it's the principle of the thing! #anyway. as much as anything i'm irritated bc i'm not running on enough sleep #but. greargh. 🦖 #(i mean‚ i'm also irritated bc my dad should have told him politely but firmly *years* ago that we'd forwarded more than enough of his mail #and that it was past time for him to file a change of address with USPS #but bc he's such a fucking doormat‚ the whole thing didn't get resolved #and is now *my* problem‚ unless i'm happy to let this guy keep viewing all my mail. which i'm not. #which is always how this works. #'i can't tell your uncle now isn't a good time‚ so i have to take his call in the middle of whatever we're doing!' #he doesn't respect himself and so he just absorbs everyone else's demands and passes them on to me‚ whom he also doesn't respect.) #anyway. have fully talked myself into a terrible mood now‚ time to stop tag spiraling. #journaling #mundanities #domesticities #…actually i lied‚ what REALLY gets my goat here is that my dad will almost CERTAINLY not acknowledge that anything abt this is an issue #because he just has basically no bandwidth ever and just wants to pretend everything is fine so he doesn't have to Do Feelings #and it becomes this really shitty really gendered thing where like. i get painted as the Crazy Woman Making an Unjustifiable Fuss #even though there are multiple aspects of this situation that it's in fact extremely reasonable for me to be unhappy with! #and it's just like. no fucking wonder i can't deal with anything‚ i can't even evaluate a situation without having my reaction invalidated #ok now that really IS all. grateful for yr patience in a Trying Time if you even got this far‚ lol.