#capable of having children. Untrue and evolution wise impossible. having children is the default setting

[countess-of-edessa]

weird how people think nowadays there’s like…a very specific personality type you have to be to be a mother instead of capacity for motherhood being a default trait almost all of the female population possesses. should having a child just be a thing that someone does by default without considering it? no. but also having children is not something your personality makes you fundamentally unsuited for 9/10 times, mothers have all types of personalities, the most important traits for childraising are unselfishness and kindness and everyone should cultivate those in themselves no matter what anyway regardless of whether or not they have children.

this also applies to men but ive never seen anyone say "it’s okay for men not to be fathers because it wouldn’t make any sense to their personality".

#“Some women just aren’t the type to have children” i mean yeah sure #but that number is way smaller than people think #women who are mothers can also have literally any kind of personality and as long as it’s not harmful to their kids that’s fine #and ‘motherly' is not really a personality trait anyway #this is in a response to a post i saw because i think it’s stupid as hell to imply that only a very small fraction of the population is #capable of having children. Untrue and evolution wise impossible. having children is the default setting #and anyone who is a halfway successful capable adult is capable of it #and also capable of messing it up really badly #as with any important and risky endeavour in life