#dont fuck someone who doesn't have the same belief on abortion as you do

[rhaenyras]

a big part of my job is coming to grips with cases of single mothers who have been completely abandoned by the father and co-parent of their children, and usually these women have no way of contacting these men whatsoever, not even to get their signature and speed up the paperwork of the children's ID and other documents.

and this is just the beaurocratic side of it. i dont even wanna think about how hard life in general must be as a single mother, even financially.

and i am sorry to say that the law does nothing to protect these women, especially those who never married the man who fathered their children. they are prevented from requesting ID cards, passports or any form of identification for themselves or their kids, so long as the other parent won't sign and hand over his consensus. meanwhile mra and incel rotten logic will have you think that a woman's reproductive organs and capacities are a priceless asset that can be conveniently employed for social climbing, so a pregnancy can by no means inconvenience a woman's life & status in any way, shape or form. they truly don't see how carrying an uterus is the same as walking around with a red tag on your back. completely engrossed in their male victimisation delusions, they view themselves as the "gender that's at a disadvantage", since engaging in prostitution - apparently - isn't as profitable for them as it is for us women. and also their mating pool is not as diverse and as wide as the women's. (see also: their uncanny belief that every man on earth is entitled to have sex because - according to them - it's a basic need as much as food or shelter).

on the other hand, you have the anti-abortionists and anti-choice propagandists, for whom life is a miracle, a gift, and the woman's own will and psychological wellbeing is secondary to all that, if not tertiary.

women are therefore stuck between the proverbial rock and the hard place. legally impaired from the day their first cycle comes around. institutionally brutalised. unless they seek refuge and legal safeguarding in the holy matrimony of course, which is, in its own way, a prison designed by the patriarchy and the church.

as someone who chose to terminate her own pregnancy, i have been called a murderer. that's because society expects women to make lemons into lemonade, and even when the pregnancy is unplanned, we are still expected to keep it and regard it as a blessing, REGARDLESS of what the father's reaction will be. in fact, the father doesn't even need to be in the picture at all. he will never be blamed for not having actively taken part in the rearing of the children he fathered. he will be as free as a bird. and yeah, the signature law goes for him as well, he won't be able to apply for any documents unless the mother of his children signs for him. but that's about the whole extent of the predicaments he'll have to face for having fathered children he didn't intend to raise or be there for. the importance of the father's presence (or the lack of it) as a major factor in the woman's decision to end the pregnancy (or not), is watered down to nothing. at this time, in this stage, the woman might have very well impregnated herself, because the father will no longer be held responsible for whatever happens next.

and let's say that the woman actually chooses NOT to be a mother, so she gets an abortion, or leaves the child in someone else's care. this fucked up system (that supposedly favours women! sic!) will brand her like a cold ass bitch at best, or guilty of infanticide at worst. and this only in the best case scenario where abortion care or adoption are actually viable options.

so you can imagine my frustration when sometimes men will also come to me with complaints like "UGHhHr i know i have a kid, but I haven't seen him or the mother in years???? how am i supposed to get her signature??? why do i even need it??? we weren't even married, i Am A gRoWn Up, a FrEe MaN"....... and you may very well imagine that i would like to smash his shit head into the concrete and scream in his stupid face IT'S CALLED ACCOUNTABILITY, YOU FUCK FACE. IT'S WHEN YOU DO SOMETHING, THEN FORGET IT EVER HAPPENED, BUT BOOM, IT COMES BACK TO BITE YOU IN THE ASS WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT.

#so let the punishment fit the crime #and yeah we are on the receiving end of institutional violence from birth #and there are FACTS and actual LAWS to prove it #but still men will say that we are using the new wave of feminism to play the victims that we aren't lol #AND THEY DON'T????? COME ON. GIVE ME A BREAK #im old and i wanna rest my eyes #i dont need to see your shit #feminism #rant.txt