#had a meltdown last night bc i didn’t have time to change my sheets and my mum made fun of me bc she thinks I change my sheets so often

[neuropteran]

is there like a book of idk “homemaking” where it just teaches you simple skills to look after yourself like how to look after good schools, mending skills, basic care tasks around the home & frequency etc that isn’t going to end up being some weird tradfem shit. i just need guidance i was never given on how to look after myself. all these people are constantly going on about “self care” but never saying what that is and the internet can be so overwhelming sometimes. there’s also a lot of steps in being like “remember to do this task once a month and here’s the link to relearn how to do bc it the time spread makes it hard” separate to all other tasks. not sure the best way to structure understanding how to build a routine when i struggle with even the most basic routines (remembering to brush teeth).

#had a meltdown last night bc i didn’t have time to change my sheets and my mum made fun of me bc she thinks I change my sheets so often #and i just!!!! want to get new clothes but I can see my brain is in a place that’s trying to self soothe so I should try to dedicate more #time to repairing things or looking after them just to reassure myself i am only developing and loving my wardrobe #i need a going out fit for my birthday and I know what i want but I’m plagued by guilt regarding the idea of buying a good quality dress #I know I will look after and wear again AND it’s on. Sale so #like what’s wrong with me lmoa #I’ve also gotten a few things without pockets lately and i’m unimpressed with myself pockets should be a deal breaker #I also need to learn how to store winter clothes properly #dot.txt