#has a different experience than him that he can't relate too and thusly never wants to ask for help because all it will do is make him feel

[thediktatortot]

It sucks how a fairly large demographic of Gen Z that makes up the online community they have are REALLY just falling into the same emotional patterns as Boomers usually do in every day life.

Asking for help isn't a childish thing. It's okay to ask for help, it's GOOD to ask for help if you need it. Not asking for help isn't an 'adult' thing to do, that's just plain ol setting yourself up for failure.

Let's do away with the Boot Strap theory and start accepting help and helping each other in our communities.

#I just saw a post where a trans man in the comments was going off about how 'he never asks for help because he isn't a child' #and he doesn't like to associate with other trans/queer people because he hates the fact that he's trans and he hates that everyone else #has a different experience than him that he can't relate too and thusly never wants to ask for help because all it will do is make him feel #bad about himself for not being the right kind of trans man #MY DUDE #THIS IS WHY YOU NEED COMMUNITY #THIS IS WHY WE ALL NEED COMMUNITY #WE ARE OSTRACIZING OURSELVES BY INFIGHTING AND MAKING QUEER HAVE CHECKMARKS WE HAVE TO HAVE BEFORE WE ARE DOING IT RIGHT #Jesus fuck #Like don't get me wrong that guy has some things he needs to work through because I feel really bad that he wont even associate with other #trans people for the fear of 'getting advice' #but this is why we need to stop telling people how to be queer #Queer just is #You are either Queer or you are not #and there is no right or wrong way to be Queer