#THIS IS WHY YOU NEED COMMUNITY

[thediktatortot]

It sucks how a fairly large demographic of Gen Z that makes up the online community they have are REALLY just falling into the same emotional patterns as Boomers usually do in every day life.

Asking for help isn't a childish thing. It's okay to ask for help, it's GOOD to ask for help if you need it. Not asking for help isn't an 'adult' thing to do, that's just plain ol setting yourself up for failure.

Let's do away with the Boot Strap theory and start accepting help and helping each other in our communities.

#I just saw a post where a trans man in the comments was going off about how 'he never asks for help because he isn't a child' #and he doesn't like to associate with other trans/queer people because he hates the fact that he's trans and he hates that everyone else #has a different experience than him that he can't relate too and thusly never wants to ask for help because all it will do is make him feel #bad about himself for not being the right kind of trans man #MY DUDE #THIS IS WHY YOU NEED COMMUNITY #THIS IS WHY WE ALL NEED COMMUNITY #WE ARE OSTRACIZING OURSELVES BY INFIGHTING AND MAKING QUEER HAVE CHECKMARKS WE HAVE TO HAVE BEFORE WE ARE DOING IT RIGHT #Jesus fuck #Like don't get me wrong that guy has some things he needs to work through because I feel really bad that he wont even associate with other #trans people for the fear of 'getting advice' #but this is why we need to stop telling people how to be queer #Queer just is #You are either Queer or you are not #and there is no right or wrong way to be Queer

[madohomurat]

trans women are everywhere and are so eager to be seen and heard but only if they feel safe around you. if you hardly ever have trans women interacting with you, especially online, then consider there might be a reason for that and you should address it

#the same thing happens with black people #black people are everywhere! especially online! black gay and black trans people! #but when your community is suspiciously devoid of them then theres something wrong and you need to acknowledge it #even if its not intentional you need to think about how theres minority groups who do not feel safe around you at face value #this is why loud and outright support and solidarity is so important #black people and trans people and etc minority groups will assume you are unsafe unless you explicitly state otherwise #you can't just sit there and say 'well they didnt approach us so its not our fault for not including them!' #like did you TRY to get them to approach you?? #cy texts

[uncanny-tranny]

"What if I'm not trans, what if I'm choosing to be trans for [list of reasons]"

I am grabbing you by the shoulders and shaking you like a can of soda. If, for whatever reason, you looked within yourself and decided to be trans - you're still trans. We (as trans people) don't need to have an "I always knew" story. We don't need to have the ~magical transsexual gene~. It's incredibly hard for so many of us to figure out why we're trans, and if being trans was always a choice, the reasons for choosing to be trans would be complex. If being trans is always a choice, that doesn't negate that we deserve human dignity and respect for who we are.

It shouldn't matter if you chose your trans identity or not, becayse you still are a person. You breath the same air I do, and you deserve to live how you want, on your terms. You watch the same sunrises and sunsets I do, you are here. I, for one, welcome you no matter what your inner reflections are about your transness. You have a place in this world, you have inherent worth.

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #i have many 'i always knew' stories but like... #...if you met one trans person you met ONE trans person #cisness isn't the default and we don't need to justify why we're trans #if a cis person doesn't need to have all the answers as to why they're cis the same principle applies to trans people #if transness is a choice for some people then i for one welcome them in my spaces #i WANT to break bread with transsexuals-by-choice. i WANT to fight for all of our rights. i WANT them in my community

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

As an Autistic Person, I Often Need Time Alone…

It doesn’t mean I don’t like you!

Neurodivergent_lou

#autism #actually autistic #autism and alone time #why we may need to be alone #it doesn’t mean ”I don’t like you” #autism and processing #unmasking #routine #communication #sensory overload #special interest #avoiding burnout #neurodivergence #neurodiversity #actually neurodivergent #feel free to share/reblog #neurodivergent_lou (Facebook)

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Why would you—That's not—I just wanted to ask for help, why did you have to go and make it awkward???

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#poorly drawn mdzs #mdzs #wei wuxian #xue yang #Its such a relief to not have to draw so many characters once again. #Redrawing the specific font from the English translated mdzs books was surprisingly fun! #Maybe I'm alone in this...but I think characters switching to a different font of speech for *emphasis* is peak comedy #you can't communicate voice changes of sound very well in non audio forms so this is the best I can do. #Anyways...rip Xue Yang. You finally meet your idol and he brushes you off #Rather— he doesn't live up to the expectations you built in your head #Kind of an on going issue there Jester (I refuse to call him king or sir) #XY is constantly making people out to be the versions he needed them to be to feel justified in his actions #but struggles to pivot when confronted with the fact that these ppl are *more* than just one surface reading! #wwx doesn't actually think xy is flirting. He's just tired of all the fake fans + wants to get out of this convo. #button mashing the A button to skip the unskippable cutscene #Lan Wangji is in the next comic btw. I've missed him dearly. I'm sorry he's been gone so long </3 #edit: poorly spelt MDZS strikes again. This is why I need more time to write my comics. So I can actually proofread B*( #edit2: I cast 'Power of Technology' and fixed my error. Everyone reblog this version instead please

[tiredyke]

people on this site really will straight up say “why should i listen to lesbians or care about lesbophobia when it does not materially impact my life”

#yeah why should any of you care if the so-called progressives you’re so chummy with hold conservative ideals on lesbianism #why should you care if your besties think lesbians just need to meet the right guy or they might change their mind later! #it’s not like this ‘community’ has ever been our allies so why should that change now #maybe the early catholic church had the right idea! maybe telling lesbians it’s super cool to date men is actually helpful!

[zitrovee]

College made me evil

i had a comic assignment for my creative writing class but im. not a comic writing guy. a funny one, to be worse. im not funny. thats what i made

portuguese cause i forgor im brazilian and made the comic in english and posted it and then i had to post it again in my actual language wtf

#cassandra cain #bruce wayne #batfam #batfamily #batman #batgirl #idk what im doing with my life #i need to finish a whole screenwriting asssignment #and a debate for my philosophy class #and a book chapter for my history of communication class #im a cinema student btw #why the hell am i making comics #you know whats worse. i didnt need to draw ir #i could use a internet template i misread it and drew it i couldve saved so much work #cass looks funny tho #idk man im not the funny type of guy im a vine compilation guy idk #brart #brartist

[advancedlupineurology]

imdb is insane for putting this as the image for curriculum unavailable. wdym imdb care to elaborate or explain

#abed nadir #danny pudi #troy barnes #community #curriculum unavailable #community s3 #why do they look like that meme of the elderly lady and the retirement home worker #the “okay grandma let’s get you to bed” #you know the one #anyway i think i need one of those sticks to bite down on?

[ultimateinferno]

Every so often I remember Lirin was a doctor while Dalinar was Blackthorn, and his entire worldview makes a shit ton of sense. I can go on and acknowledge that he was a subject of Sadeas but really... nah. That man absolutely witnessed first-hand the casualties of that war.

#lirin did nothing wrong #yes even after the scene during the siege of urithiru. kaladin did not need to kill that singer #teft wasn't in any immediate danger at that point when they were being gathered. kaladin was the person who escalated everything #i don't (wholly) condemn kaladin beyond it being the first foot soldier he killed since oathbringer iirc. #i don't need him to act perfectly logically he wasn't in a good headspace #but lirin wasn't entirely unreasonable either. #cosmere #cfsbf #stormlight #stormlight archive #the way of kings #words of radiance #oathbringer #rhythm of war #lirin stormblessed #dalinar kholin #it's also understandable why he's fucking weird throughout the rest of RoW #talking to someone close to you after a heated argument is fucking uncomfortable as shit #and sometimes it's really tempting to refuse to acknowledge it instead because what the fuck do you do when that shit happens? #if communication was easy we wouldn't need diplomats. #we also see first hand how much lirin is lying to himself when it comes to resistance #both in hearthstone and in urithiru he keeps sticking his hands into the conflict and covering up resistance #despite the fact that he claims he doesn't believe in it. he is naturally a defiant person he just decided to not be super obvious about it #i think a lot of people don't like them because their own relationship with their parents is frustrating #and project their issues onto kaladin when they see them collide #lirin and kaladin are the same person. #a friend of mine who projects super hard on kaladin told me that if he ever met his clone even if they were identical in personality #he'd hate him because he's super bullheaded and stubborn #but also deeply fervent in his beliefs. #anyways i'm probably running out of tags

[dolls-self-ships]

just saw someone on a self shipping post say to not use the word "obsessed" to describe their feelings for their f/o bc it's harmful to those with ocd and as someone with severe ocd please shut the fuck up and go outside oh my god

#tbh this is why i dont interact with the selfship community that often bc so many of you need to touch grass #like im serious #i love self shipping dgmw but holy fuck some of you its like walking on eggshells #'dni if you ship with abusers or problematic characters!!!' like huh???? wha?????? #im no proshipper like i dont like p*dos either but #not wanting people that ship with villains is like. #... youre blocking out like a huge chunk of the community babe #the purity culture in the selfship community is something else

[royalarchivist]

Quackity: Lately, I have been participating in events and projects, and unfortunately it's become clear to me that my presence and name have only been used to attract the attention of my national and international community with the objective, as I see it, of generating more attention towards controversies - destructive controversies, and a rupture that is very clear in the community. [...] In advance, I ask the organizers of any type of events and projects like this to please show more respect to me and my community, because I've shown lots of sympathy and cooperation in these various projects and events, but it's become clear to me that their only interest is in using my name. My name and my community have been used to attract all this attention for distorted purposes, and I will no longer allow that to happen. That is not what my content is about - not me nor my content nor anything I’ve done.

Here's Quackity's commentary on respect and his reasoning for distancing himself and his projects from future events and awards shows.

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Quackity: Before I leave, I would like to talk about something that is very serious for me and something that I would like to tell you about. Because for me it is a very serious topic and it is a topic that- well, I had my mind on and I want to express it- [reading Chat] yes, thank you. Merry Christmas, Merry Christmas.

Anyways, lately I have been participating in events and projects, and in these events and projects, unfortunately it's become clear to me that my presence and name have only been used to attract the attention of my national and international community with the objective, as I see it, of generating more attention towards controversies - destructive controversies, and a rupture that is very clear in the community, and this is what I want to say: I'm NOT ok with these types of dynamics or stuff like this, and I want to make it very clear to my stream, my community, and everyone that, for this exact reason that I just mentioned, I want to make it clear that I want to distance myself and any of my projects from the Esland Awards, which you all know is coming up.

Sadly, the Esland Awards have been an event with a history of much controversy, a lot of division, and a lot of divisions within the community, and as you guys know, as you know, my content has never been characterized by seeking controversy or divisions or anything like that. It's for this exact reason that I don't want to be involved with these awards.

In advance, I ask the organizers of any type of events and projects like this to please show more respect to me and my community, because I've shown lots of sympathy and cooperation in these various projects and events, but it's become clear to me that their only interest is in using my name. My name and my community have been used to attract all this attention for distorted purposes, and I will no longer allow that to happen. I don't want it to happen. That is not what my content is about - not me nor my content nor anything I've done. That's what I want to make very clear here.

That's about it. I'm going to continue with the projects I'm doing and I want to thank my community so much for the support and love. I appreciate it very much, but I wanted to make this clear - I wanted to make this clear. This is just a topic I wanted to address quickly.

Thank you for all the love and support, I love you all so much.

#Quackity #QSMP #December 23 2023 #Translated #I tried my best but as always; if you have any suggestions or corrections please let me know #For context: Quackity and the QSMP have been repeatedly snubbed and undermined but very recently (as in like. the last 48 hours) #the ''Hispanic rewind'' aired and they were VERY rude to Quackity and his project #like straight up in the video itself they were rude about his project (and many other projects). It was basically a Spain-centric video #Then the creator double-downed on it on Twitter and was an all around asshole about it #I don't like sharing ''drama'' here but this is a matter of respect and communities so I think it's important to share #Especially since I know some people will ask ''hey why isn't Quackity / the QSMP nominated at this award show?'' #The Esland awards are a whole 'nother can of worms but the dude who did the Rewind is tied to that too #The Eslands have had a lot of problems though so frankly I can't blame him #I wasn't planning on posting this but I wasn't seeing any translations or clips floating around on here #despite the discussions people were having #so here it is for folks if they want / need to reference it #Anyways. Good for Quackity #He never speaks up about this kind of stuff but this was long overdue #k I just updated the wording on this I didn't like how I phrased a few things

[dreamsy990]

some of the less nice thoughts about being aroace

extras below the cut

sketch

closeups on my favorite panels

bonus: adios

#doodles #kingdom hearts #roxas #axel #olette #aromantic #asexual #aroace #do i tag pence. hes in the background of one panel #ehhhh sorry pence no tag for you #also not tagging soriku and namixi #i mean by the logic of 'theyre in one panel so i wont tag them' i also shouldnt tag axel but. he has dialogue so #anyways i have a very irrational love of olette whenever i need a random side character in a kh comic? olette #i think she uses webmd. anyways im done talking about olette #so let me clarify about this comic #im aroace. this is all just things ive thought before #im not saying in any way these thoughts are real. theyre just thoughts #thats why it ends with 'but there isnt. its just me.' there IS nothing wrong with being aroace. even if it feels like it sometimes #im not trying to send a message im just trying to express a feeling ive had for a while #anyways. the aroace community is super positive and i like that. but not everything i feel about it is that positive #sometimes it feels like im missing something yknow #this comic seems like its about roxas. but its about me. congrats youve been fooled #drafted something similar to this for aro week but didnt finish it in time so this is spiritually part of asaw 2024 #btw sorry im not posting as many drawings lately #schools kinda stressful im pretty tired and busy most the time #i am throwing this drawing to you like a slab of meat to a pack of hungry dogs. take this meager ration in these trying times #alright i think thats it bye now

[smiggles]

Why furry art is cool, a comprehensive guide from the view of a non furry

Art is cool and furries are sick

#thats it #jk theres like a huge novel i could ramble about #on why i think furries are super important and vital to society #and how theyre anti capitalist by nature #and self sustaining #and insanely unique as far as communities go #but also #the art just looks cool #what else do you need

[sxturdaysun]

i am once again saying that there is nothing wrong with being a non-sharing selfshipper. there's nothing wrong with blocking people who share one (or multiple) of your f/os. there's nothing wrong with telling doubles not to interact with you. setting boundaries for yourself and your online space is a moral neutral and has nothing to do with being "insecure" or some other negative. if you find that insulting or belittling, that's on you; not on the person setting the boundary. quit trying to make non-sharers into bad guys.

#*with the obvious disclaimer of: so long as they aren't harassing anybody #but god man. i am so sick of coming online and seeing people act like setting boundaries or not being comfy sharing is a moral failing #just because they are and ''seeing people tell me to dni hurts my feelings :('' #like. okay. that's for MY comfort. maybe reexamine why you're so upset about that that you feel the need to make #an entire post talking about how every non-sharer is insecure and mean and belittling. #self ship community #♡ — ok to rb #bonus: being insecure isn't a moral failing and i find the implication that it is kinda gross! #you're not somehow better than other people just because you're not!

[astraltrickster]

I want to introduce a disability concept that I've been calling paradoxical stigma.

What is paradoxical stigma? It's the stigma against:

1) The actually disabling traits of a disability that's in the spotlight for the parts of it that are convenient to accommodate, and/or

2) The diagnosis of such a disability itself,

Due to the assumption that the spotlight renders it "destigmatized" and no longer in need of support.

As of right now, at least around this corner of the internet, the most obvious examples of this are autism and ADHD. It's become disturbingly common for people to treat those like Diet Disabilities That Don't Actually Count. It's been really interesting to watch the popular attitude about these disorders shift from "autism is either a tragedy or an excuse depending on 'severity', and ADHD is just a myth used to drug kids into complicity instead of teaching them actual skills", to "actually these are real disorders that affect people in all aspects of their lives", to "I GUESS they're real disorders but honestly EVERYONE has them can't we worry about more SERIOUS ones?" and...not in a good way.

It comes up...partially as a legitimate backlash to people with these disorders who think that invisible disability and/or neurodivergence begins and ends at their experience, and...yeah, that's a problem all right, in fact if I had a dollar for every asshole who looked at my struggles with things like keeping my space clean or not fucking up my medication doses DUE TO ADHD and went "well I have the same diagnosis and I don't have THAT problem to THAT extent, obviously you're just lazy and careless", or saw me having an AUTISTIC meltdown and called it "bullying" or worse because I get loud and insisted that I NEED to CONTROL that CHOSEN BEHAVIOR if I want to not be a Bad Person, or heard about how AUTISTIC overstimulation defense measures play into my trouble with cleaning and insisted that well THEY'RE autistic too and don't have that specific problem so this is clearly weaponized helplessness because I just don't WANT to learn to do better, I'd...probably have a lot more assistive tech. I also get really, really frustrated and upset when people use RSD to mean "if you ever criticize me that's the height of ableism, no matter how much I'm actually fucking up and hurting you" - especially since it's so often invoked as a defense against being lightly criticized for ACTUALLY harmful behavior and as much as it sucks there IS no substitute to make that more emotional-dysregulation-friendly beyond basic kindness in criticism. That attitude exists. It's bad.

And yet, theoretically, I think we could all agree that the response to that should NEVER be to reinvent the old "ugh, those aren't REAL disabilities, those are just EXCUSES that LAZY PARENTS make for kids being kids, what they need is DISCIPLINE" stereotype of the 90s-2000s, just now aimed at those same kids as adults, in ostensibly supportive spaces - or arguably worse, to revert all our understanding of support needs to the externally judged high-functioning/low-functioning dichotomy.

What really sets this apart as paradoxical stigma, rather than just garden-variety lateral ableism, is that 1) we CAN theoretically all agree that reinventing those stereotypes is a terrible response, yet many people do it anyway, and 2) these stereotypes are invoked not only because of that intracommunity misbehavior, but both within and outside of disabled spaces, because of the illusion that you can bring up those disorders and have them taken seriously because fidget toys and stim videos and weighted blankets are popular now. An event having quiet rooms, or backlash to Autism Speaks being visible outside of autistic spaces, will be taken as "proof" that autism stigma is over forever and anyone who complains about it is just a whiner who doesn't know how good they have it...even when what they're complaining about is, say, being barred from migration. Paradoxical stigma is enacted by people who think that they, alone, are standing up against someone who's throwing others under the bus to continue to progress their own limited agenda...when in fact they're speaking a very popular shitty opinion, that MANY of the people making that claim would disagree with HEAVILY once separated from the "crab bucket reflex".

As a personal example, the result is that when I'm looking for assistance, I'm...hesitant to bring up those diagnoses, because I know I'm going to be written off as "obviously a high-functioning low-support needs scammer who just doesn't WANT to CONTRIBUTE TO SOCIETY and EARN things" - even by people who otherwise agree that people should be allowed to survive even if they truly are the living strawman lazy bum who has nothing wrong with them but just WANTS to lay around eating junk food and doing drugs all day, AND that disability deserves to be respected, isn't black-and-white, and affects everyone differently; somehow when these combine in the context of my diagnoses that have had a very sanitized version of themselves "destigmatized" on TikTok, they cancel out into blatant reactionary sentiment indistinguishable from what I'd hear from my shitty token Republican uncle.

So, that's paradoxical stigma. Feel free to use the term if you find it useful.

#disability #serious tag #and yes it is applicable to issues other than disability #if youre seeing parallels to this in how same-sex marriage passing nationwide in the us #was the beginning of a big downswing in support for queer rights because what ELSE could these entitled freaks POSSIBLY want #you are correct! they are VERY closely related! not quite identical because it wasnt almost equally intense within the community as outside #but i wouldnt call you wrong if you wanted to use the same term! #speaking of bringing back the high-functioning/low-functioning dichotomy - it is NOT lost on me #just how many people dont take me seriously as a Real Autist because im usually ''well-spoken'' #therefore i CLEARLY cant have support needs that are hard to aestheticize right??? #as if that kind of misconception isnt EXACTLY WHY we moved away from functioning labels in favor of discussing support needs

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Try Morse Core. Women Love Morse Code.

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#poorly drawn mdzs #mdzs #wei wuxian #lan jingyi #lan sizhui #jin ling #a-qing #ouyang zizhen #nameless red disciple #Girls speak in a series of clicks and trills that even the most adept linguists have difficulty decoding #Thankfully this rhythmic language can be translated to music notes #communication via specific vibrations of coiled metal wire is possible! #but- Ah shucks the guy with the guqin has his hands full. And also bloodied. #We need to resort to secondary girl communication. Blinking slowly at her. If she blinks slowly back - you're in. #if she blinks rapidly that's a threat. Is she does not blink at all you are already dead. #btw: Girls eyes translate lines of contrast to these series of air flow disturbances to create language. So they *can* read what we write. #This has been your daily GirlFacts tidbit. #Jokes aside. I get that the point was she has no tongue to speak with but it really does just come off as: #“5 teen boys in a room with a teen girl and dropping the ball so hard on how to proceed” #This is why men give up and kiss each other btw. (OKAY IM DONE SPREADING MISINFORMATION (for today))