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official-cisphobe · a day ago
people's misconception about neurodivergency is a huge part of why a lot of people are surprised and even defensive when they learn things like epilepsy, Tourette's, schizophrenia, and ocd make you neurodivergent.
neurodivergency ISN'T "autism and things that are similar". autism and ADHD aren't the standard for being neurodivergent.
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anexperimentallife · 2 days ago
Among the more ridiculous bits of disk horse I've seen recently is the assertion that neurodivergent and mentally ill folks using spoon theory is "appropriating" terminology from physically disabled folks.
And listen, as a Certified Cripple(TM) who also happens to be a Certified Mentally Ill(TM) and a Certified Neurodivergent(TM), that may not be QUITE the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard, but it's close.
If spoon theory helps you describe your situation, use it. If anyone complains, stab them with a fork.
As for fully abled NTs using it, idgaf. Unless someone can give me a compelling reason why spoon theory shouldn't be normalized, I'm fine with it, as long as they get where it comes from and grok that they (generally, but not always) start each day with a shitload more spoons than we do.
Like, if a fully abled NT friend were to tell me their partner ditched them, their mom was in the hospital, they lost their job, they failed am important exam, and they didn't have the spoons to make themselves dinner, the LAST thing I'm gonna do is clutch my pearls about them using spoon theory. More like, "Come on over, homie; I got some leftover adobo in the fridge, and you can vent all you want while we eat and watch Ponyo."
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justlgbtthings · 22 hours ago
wait wait wait i just thought of something hold on
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autistic-af · 2 days ago
Medical Professionals: "Only professionally diagnosed autistics count as autistic."
Self-dxing Autistics: "Okay. I'd like to be diagnosed. I have all these symptoms and meet the criteria."
Medical Professionals: "No."
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renxias · 2 days ago
Okay I have a question so often I hear that when it comes to people who have autism or adhd ( myself included) that hyperfixations or special interests once they’re GONE they never come back but are there ever instances where an old hyperfixation returns if a memory about it is triggered ? Or are they just gone forever and never return and that’s that?
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le-bjorn · a day ago
"why are there suddenly so many autistic and adhd kids online this is so weird they're all clearly faking" have u considered that we group together with people we relate to and understand and when you get a bunch of kids on the same social media with similar interests they're more willing to embrace their "weirdness" (as it's perceived by the rest of the world) and eventually find out that there's a name for what they're experiencing?
i dunno. just a thought.
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theconcealedweapon · 2 days ago
Reasons why autistic people struggle to find employment:
Interviews test social skills more than anything else. An autistic person who would easily be able to perform the job may not be as good at talking about it and therefore wouldn't get the job.
If you don't get an interview or if you don't get a job from an interview, they don't say why. Was there a spelling mistake in your resume? Are you missing an important skill? Are you very qualified but someone else is slightly better? Who knows?
And that's just the struggles with getting the job. There's also the struggles on the job such as lack of accommodations.
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autiefutaba · 2 days ago
Important PSA for NTs/allistics:
Seriously, stop fucking doing this, and stop getting offended when we refuse to make eye contact. It’s very stressful and even physically painful for many of us to make eye contact. We don’t need to make eye contact to show you that we’re listening to you. We have our own ways of showing you that we are paying attention and that we care about what you’re saying. Don’t be an ableist dickwad.
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maddwizard · 16 hours ago
Actually horrified when under posts made by people with autism or other neurodivergent people who are proud of it and trying to spread awareness about its symptoms, people comment shit like “you’re obviously faking it because I have autism and I’m embarrassed about it, no one would actually expose themselves like this” like bro not everyone beats themselves over the head with self hatred??? And it’s not your business to spread that hatred to others???
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neurodivergent-noodle · 2 days ago
it is perhaps more helpful to move the conversation away from “it’s okay not to be productive” to “we need to have a long hard think about what counts as productivity”.
if you’re ill (chronic or otherwise), it is productive to spend a day sleeping and resting up. your body needs you to rest so that it can heal.
but something that is true for everyone is that things like healing from trauma, learning new things, practicing hobbies, building relationships… are all productive ways to spend your time. just because you’re not making money doesn’t mean you’re not being productive.
looking after yourself is productive. looking after others is productive. hell, playing with your pet is productive.
productive means being in a state of producing something. that’s all it means. and when you’re doing the things your body needs you to do… you’re producing your own well-being. you’re producing neural pathways. you’re producing happiness.
if you can feel a sense of productivity from non-traditional productive actions… I think that’s a lot more helpful for your mental health than just claiming that productivity isn’t important. of course it’s okay to not be productive. but I know I feel better when I think of happiness as something I can produce.
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darcy-wu · 2 days ago
A lot of Cartoon Fandom communities have ableism (communication/transparency) issues.
People who are autistic/neurodivergent need help understanding when we do something wrong. But rather than communicate and be transparent with us, abled/neurotypical people would rather treat us with the respect of a baby blowing bubbles out of its mouth. By not communicating with us, and by being opaque with us when they do chose to communicate with us.
Thing is we ND folks have difficulty understanding, and need to ask what kind of mistakes we made. In order to learn what we did and avoid doing so in the future. But we can’t do this if the abled folks round us can’t be bothered to take the time and realize that our brains are wired differently, and we need help to understand things.
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galaxy-spiral · 2 days ago
i don’t wish to be neurotypical, i just wish the world was more supportive of neurodivergents.
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justlgbtthings · a day ago
i love rocking back and forth. its literally free
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autistic-af · 15 hours ago
Please remember: just because you have never experienced a certain ableism, does not mean it doesn't happen to others. It just means you've been lucky.
Please respect disabled experiences. ❤️
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butterflyinthewell · 10 hours ago
Neurotypicals make up social rules as they go and then break them while they punish autistic people for breaking the made up rules the ‘wrong’ way.
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Finally figured out a workaround for the ongoing problem where I recommend a piece of media to someone, forget that it's got something triggering in it, and then get confused when people stop consuming the media partway through.
New policy is tell people up front that I am the absolute worst at remembering which things people may find upsetting, and that if there are things that particularly upset them they should look up the media beforehand.
Sharing in case my fellow autistic people with low cognitive empathy and a tendency towards the morbid can make use of the same tactic.
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autiefutaba · 2 days ago
To continue on the whole eye contact thing, for me in particular the aversion is often with strangers or with people I don’t feel very comfortable with in general, but sometimes I don’t even always make prolonged eye contact with people I’m more comfortable with as a trauma response. Yes, I actually have trauma from forced eye contact, and when someone forces eye contact onto me I get very stressed, anxious and flighty.
If I do willingly make prolonged eye contact with you without being very uneasy or uncomfortable with it, that means I really love and/or trust you. I actually make eye contact with a few select people who I’m comfortable with as a sign of profoundly deep trust, ease and even love towards them. It’s actually part of my own quirky autistic love language, I say/do things with those people that I wouldn’t normally say/do with most other people, including voluntarily making eye contact. I also often blink at them like I would with a cat, which is kind of funny to me.
Does anyone else relate to this?
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highkey-nicole · a day ago
Today i learned that neurodivergent people struggle a lot with english because it's a high context language, meaning it's way less direct basically.
Always confused me because i grew up with german and russian, which are very low context, so direct.
An english person would say 'The dishwasher needs to be emptied' to which a german might respond with 'by who?'
Because in german, if you want someone to empty the dishwasher, you say 'Empty the dishwasher!'
So, it's not you. It's the language.
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aspen-mayne · a day ago
Autistic routines are stereotypically understood as doing the same thing, at the same time, day after day. However, I'd like to share other ways routines present themselves.
-I drive the same way to my parents house. I also drive the same route to the grocery store. In fact, when I am driving, I will take the longer way to any place, just to stay on roads I am familiar with.
-When I wash my face, I go specifically from my right cheek, left cheek, chin, nose, then forehead. I do this with my facial scrub, my face wash, and my lotion.
-I load the dishwasher in the same way each time. Bowls, cups, measuring cups, the apple slicer, small lids, and sometimes storage containers go on the top. Pots, pans, plates, and strainers go on the bottom. Even within that, all the different dishes go into the dishwasher a certain way.
-I eat my work lunch in a specific order. I start with eating all of my fruit. Then I eat my cheese stick. After that I eat the hot part of the meal. Finally I drink my juice box and eat my cup of jello.
-In reference to the point above, I eat pretty much the same thing for my work lunch every day.
-When I go shopping, I always start with non-food items first. I try to make each trip a single loop around the store. Having a grocery list helps a lot with this.
-I tend to only go to the same stores. Our Target in town didn't always have a grocery section, so I don't ever go there for groceries, even ten years later.
-When I go to bed, I always settle down on my left side, but when I finally am ready to sleep, I roll onto my right side. And I quickly fall asleep after.
Anyone else have any examples of how routines may show up that isn't necessarily in the stereotypical sense?
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