This is Alejandro Ripley. He was a young autistic boy who was murdered by his own mother. Why was he murdered you ask? Because his mother couldn’t be asked to deal with him anymore. She decided his needs were too difficult so she thought she’d just kill him. Sounds totally reasonable right?
I have no words to describe the emotions this case makes me feel. Alejandro was such a beautiful soul and now he is gone from this world. This case is not about his parents who are both to blame, nor is it about “how hard it is to raise a special needs child”, (I don’t give a fuck if it’s hard, you don’t kill your kid!!!), it is about Alejandro Ripley. It is about his life being taken from him. It is about the abuse he endured for just being autistic and nonverbal.
When I researched this case a lot of what was popping up was people sympathising with the parents, saying how difficult it is to raise an autistic child. You can imagine how angry I felt reading all these comments from parents. I don’t give a shit how hard it is for the parents quite frankly because it’s 10x harder for the child. You don’t give up on your child, ever, no matter how hard it gets. You take a breath and you carry on because your child needs you. I know what it’s like to feel like there is something wrong with you and that your parents wished you were different. It destroys you, and I just hope Alejandro didn’t feel like this before he died but I suspect he did. His parents are garbage human beings if you can even call them human. His mother is especially evil and never deserved to have children. I encourage every parent out there who has an autistic kid to stop feeling sorry for yourself and start focusing on the feelings of your child. Of course being a parent is hard, is one of the hardest jobs in the world, but when you decide to have children you are signing up for any sort of child. They might be autistic, disabled, gay, trans or whatever, you sign up for that when you become a parent and you can’t walk away if you didn’t “expect” it and didn’t “want” it. Don’t have kids if you’re not prepared to deal with a child who is different in some way.
I wish I was Alejandro’s mum because I would have given him so much love. I would have learnt his ways of communicating and I wouldn’t have cared about him being nonverbal. I would have taught him to love and accept himself and I wouldn’t have tried to change him or put him in abusive therapies to do so. He needed parents who loved and accepted him for who he was and his parents were the opposite of that. Alejandro had so much going for him in life. He was kind, caring, fun and loving and he could have gone on to do so much in this world. I never met him or knew him but it feels like my own brother has been killed and it breaks me. He deserved so much better. Now all we can hope is that the mother is given the maximum sentence for what she did and the father has a really miserable life with no happiness or love.
All I want to do is give Alejandro a hug and tell him he is loved and that there are people who care about him. That’s all I want to do.