#idk I'm not completely married to that bit but the material is definitely there!!

[notyourdaisybuchanan]

Rewatching The Bear 2x03 is actually crazy and feels so clarifying because like...

The ep starts with Carmy speaking at Al-Anon about fun, and how maybe he needs to have more of it. He acknowledges that fun is complicated for him because as a kid his family tended to ruin things for him, even though this was often unintentionally done. He says that he thinks if he had more amusement or enjoyment in his own life then it would be easier to provide that for other people. (Big note here that part of the purpose OF a restaurant is to provide amusement and enjoyment for people. Then add in Luca's conversation with Marcus in 2x04 about how the best food comes from being open and inspired, and spending time in the world. So Carmy having fun could theoretically make him better at his job.)

Anyway, Carmy gives that spiel at Al-Anon. Then we get a brief interlude of Syd looking at articles about recent restaurant closings and being stressed.

And then we're immediately back with Syd and Carmy cooking together in his kitchen. She fucks up a dish again, and he suggests they stop cooking and do a palate reset.

Like... this all happens within the first five minutes of the ep. This man has been musing about how he needs to have more fun.... and then he suggests spending the day eating in the city with Syd..... ergo that's his definition of fun. This is literally him making an attempt at doing something for amusement or enjoyment!! He planned this!! I fully believe he had this idea even before Sydney fucked up the dish. This man said I need to have more fun and you know what would be fun? Spending the day with my business partner eating delicious food. So he sends her home with plans to meet in an hour.

And then. AND THEN. Claire calls. First of all when she asks if he's busy, he looks at the white board and the very first thing on the To Do list is "call fridge guy" so like. lmao. I love foreshadowing. And he literally is busy!!! Not with unpleasant tasks to do but with something FUN. Something fun that he planned FOR himself.

And what is it that Claire asks him to do? Is it something fun? No. She asks him to HELP HER MOVE her mom. Like, the least fun task in the history of anything, the thing that people historically HATE being asked to help with. And he doesn't look excited about it! He looks torn. He looks...weird idk. Like ohhhh it's actually so crazy that Carmy bails on a truly fun day with Sydney in order to do a manual labor favor for Claire.

This is so ripe for analysis you simply cannot tell me it doesn't mean anything.

Carmy thinks about how he needs more fun, plans a fun day for himself, and then, when someone he tried to avoid asks him to do a not fun favor, he says yeah, I'll do that instead.

#Almost like he feels a sense of obligation. #Almost like he's self sabotaging. #Almost like Claire's connection to his past to his family to Michael is... allowing his family to ruin something fun for him yet again. #idk I'm not completely married to that bit but the material is definitely there!! #anyway this is my first post-s2 sydcarmy analysis but certainly not the last!! #this show is nuts everything is so intentional and carefully crafted I'm having a field day #apologies if this post comes off like I'm yelling I kind of am bc I was so excited while writing it lol #the bear #the bear meta #sydcarmy #sydcarmy meta #the bear s2 #chefs kiss #sydney adamu #carmen berzatto #sydney x carmy

[princesscandijane]

Hello!

So I've been into abdl for about 2 years, recently I found out what a sissy is... and.. wow. I ordered a chastity cage immediately.

I want to become a sissy, but other then chastity, Idk where to start. I eventually wanna take hormones to look more feminine but honestly, I'm terrified of what others would think. Ever since a couple months ago after finding out what a sissy is I can't help but view myself as one in my head, but obviously just starting out I don't look like I wanna look. You inspire me to want to become a diaper caged sissy, I hope one day I can be as brave as you

Hello! First thing I should tell you is that there is no true definition of a sissy. Sissy is a very general term for a kink. Just as rock music is very general term for music genre. There are many different types of sissys with wide variety of possible sub-kinks involved. Sissy is also self diagnosing and self defined, and there is no single right way to be a sissy. Not all sissys wear chastity. I am one that does and I advise chastity, because for me it makes me feel really horny and I love the denial, which has me do more naughty things 😉 Some find it uncomfortable, don't like it, or enjoy cumming. Those sissys do not incorporate chastity with sissy, because not all sissys wear chastity. A lot do because it is fun, and adds to that subservientness of it. What your definition of a sissy is what a sissy is. Even though I think all sissys should eat their own cum 😜 there are some with no desire to ever have cum. It doesn't make them any less of a sissy. On top of all of that every sissy has their own circumstance. I am single, no kids, and live alone. So I have a lot more opportunity and I am not as worried about storing things. When I had a roommate i had to keep everything hidden in a box in the back of my closet and had limited time to do anything other than watch porn. Others are married with children and keeping it hidden from their spouse, which will effect how much they get to indulge, but it doesn't mean they aren't sissys

So with that said, the first place to start is to figure out what you like. What types of clothing do you enjoy? Is there a look you want to emulate? Are there certain materials you like more than others? Buy things see how you like them. Some things you may have been excited about turns to be a let down, I spent many of monies on many of clothes I thought I could pull off but could not 😞

Also there is a bit of sissy things that live in fantasy only. Such as, have I fantasized about being made to go on a full days worth of errands dressed in my maids uniform wearing my diaper so I don't have to worry about potty breaks? I have humped in my diaper having those thoughts, but those live in fantasy as I am not going to expose the unconsenting general public to my kink, and two that would socially and financially ruin me.

As I stated there are many types of sissys, I have heard of there being 24/7 lifestyle sissies. I am not one of them, this is kink only for me. I live alone and get to indulge a bit when I am home, but my outside life is completely separated from my kink. I don't let my kink life interfere or mix with my vanilla life.

If you are terrified of what people would think if you started taking hormones than I would advise really reconsidering that route. You only found out what a sissy was a couple months ago, and I can't imagine how exciting all of it must be 😝

Things I do suggest for sissys is to use it as a reason or a motivator to take better care of yourself. Eat healthier and exercise regularly(plenty to do without bulking up or a gym) that will help with looking more fem. Exfoliate and moisturize. I recommend shaving, and wrote a post on that, but there are many sissys that still cannot(due to social embarrassment), or they don't want to. If you don't shave, then be cleaned up and groomed. I have seen sissys with full beards, but they were well maintained. Give yourself manicures and pedicures. You don't have to have your nails painted, but having them maintained. I've only done them at home, and they feel really nice. Draw a nice hot bath and relax. If you can, pamper yourself before you pamper yourself 😛Lots of what I do for my look involves those things there.

I would not call being safely hidden through the anonymity of the internet brave lol I do hope you do become the sissy you dream to be! Have fun and enjoy the journey!😃

I am far from an expert, but I hope this helped you out or any of the other sissys that I inspire 😘❤❤❤