#idk if my experience is really that universal- I think I’m pretty atypical as far as gender fluid people go but you know

[sexygaywizard]

I've asked other genderfluid people about this cause I want to have different points of view. I've already been told to look up different kinds of genrderfluidity, define what genders the character flow through, keep away from the genderfluid shapeshifter character trope, adding scenes when the character isn't sure what their gender is at the moment... I just want general advice about what you would like to see in a genderfluid character and what good representation would look like to you.

Are there even enough genderfluid characters for there to be a trope about us? Lol. Honestly if I could shapeshift it would be SICK AF I would never have dysphoria ever it would be dope. Since I was a kid whenever people asked me what superpower I wanted Ive always said shape shifting.

The only thing I would say is super important to me to remember is that gender fluidity is not just about shifting between binary male/female genders. Most of the time I feel non-binary, and sometimes slightly more feminine and sometimes slightly more masculine. It’s not that I’m “not sure” about what my gender is- I know exactly what my gender is, it’s just not an easily describable binary gender. Maybe I would be “unsure” of how to explain it, but not of what I’m feeling. Rarely if ever do I feel like a totally binary gender, I think gender fluidity is often much more in a gray area- I mean if you’re fluid it’s pretty rare that you would be all the time totally on one side of the spectrum or the other, right? It just kinda makes sense that you’d spend most of your time in the middle, just different parts of the middle. Or maybe not on the scale at all.

Also even though I’m gender fluid, my presentation physically doesn’t usually change too much besides like, some days I bind and pack and some days I don’t (if I was amab, maybe some days I would wear breast forms and shape-wear and some days I wouldn’t). But I always dress pretty femininely bc that’s what I like wearing and would like wearing no matter what kind of body I had. Most days when I put on my outfits I feel like I’m doing drag- my presentation is entirely superficial and doesn’t have to do with the gender that I “feel” that I “am” that day. I just tell people I’m feeling more like it’s a he/him day and expect them to respect it regardless of how I’m dressed. Whatever gender I feel like, I'm still me and I still like the same shit, it's not like experiencing various genders means I have multiple personalities. I think maybe that's a genderfluid trope, or maybe just a common misconception- that genderfluid people are like all over the place, personality wise? And I def do not find that to ever actually be true.

#hope this is what you were looking for #idk if my experience is really that universal- I think I’m pretty atypical as far as gender fluid people go but you know #gathering different experiences is important so I hope you will still take what I say into account #I answer