#like shrug guess i'll die.png; and in [this day & age]? what a shock that would be. shock Not meaning ''sixty''; though it can

[unproduciblesmackdown]

rhetorically: is there a standard for how to treat people based on universally recognizing their personhood, or is there the idea that how we treat people should be determined by our assessment of their vibe or whether we like them based on their harmless behaviors

ppl will posit "politically, you should lend this support to even individuals you don't like" while also positing "if you don't [engage in behavior they deem likable] how do you expect any support XD"

are people required to move from a status of "less deserving" to "adequately deserving" based on others' assessments of their likability, what essential job interview performance are they supposed to do with whom to be judged, who's getting to judge, why are they getting to judge.

the application of the twin experiences of being autistic in general and being abused interpersonally (and, i mean, societally) wherein ofc you're not "likable" and ofc the abusive treatment towards non normative nd existence is framed as "well what do you expect when you Won't Just [do things the way i want you to / think is correct]." people questioning what "community" or "relationship" is meant to mean, politically.

thinking how common social isolation (not the quarantine sense) actually is, and how people may recognize this isn't ideal and don't posit that like i guess all these people are losers who bring it upon themselves and also shouldn't have any support in their life if they have no personal friends, while also apparently embracing the idea that people they think act wrong will put other people off and isolate themselves. like how abuse needs isolation and the people abusing aren't the more isolated ones, even if you think "well ppl who are bad and act wrong? will be alone b/c no one likes them." like how behavior that abuses & harms is framed as disabled (with a pathologized view of disability ofc) while it's disabled ppl more likely to be abused & harmed, actually.

all like about how you have to Prove Yourself win people over and mask and talk and be popular and approved of and not Weird and [interpretations of nd existence as rude / hostile / mean / etccc] and/or perhaps you have to seem sympathetically admirable or sympathetically pitiable and if you don't make eye contact and befriend everyone around you how do you expect to not be left to die

#jumping up in the air freezeframe and i didn't even bring up [the family] or [the romance] for their own probably longass tangents #i mean they weren't kidding that [ableism] can [be fucking everywhere with complete earnestness & casualness] #while anyone goes ''disability justice? that's so new you can't expect anyone to care to even know much less adopt it'' #what's next; not using someone's singular they/them/their pronouns? Yeah That Too. i mean what do you expect? & no one cares? #like shrug guess i'll die.png; and in [this day & age]? what a shock that would be. shock Not meaning ''sixty''; though it can #and i don't expect ''wow but they were so beloved & popular & charming & etc so i guess it's tragic'' #loveless people of the world and i mean Loveless as a term i'm not being figurative. you know what tf is up in general.