#like straight up who but gary fucking vee would even have this stupid misconception?

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Sometimes I'll be watching an American TV show and there's this idea that if you're treated like dog shit you'll want to win or succeed to "prove them wrong." Like on Glee Finn describes putting up with Sue's abuse as hurtful but mostly it makes him want to win, and idk if this is a uniquely American thing or not but it baffles me.

When I work hard on stuff and people act like it's shit, or don't acknowledge my effort, or some other thing I don't get motivated. I have the opposite reaction especially if I've worked hard on something and that effort ultimately ends up being for nothing- like why would I try HARDER at something that didn't work? That's a waste of time lol I stop putting effort in at all and put the effort I was spending on something that didn't work out into something that might. Do people seriously believe that being treated like shit or otherwise having your hard work dismissed is motivational?? Because that sounds extremely counterintuitive to how I feel like people work unless I'm built different and I don't think I am in this case.

#winters ramblings #sometimes people talk and im like does that work for you? does working hard on something and having all that work #be for nothing ACTUALLY motivate you or are you lying for some reason? #because ive had jobs where i was hoping to work my way into other positions and worked hard to provei was a good fit #and when that didnt work out i straight up got a new job because i thought it was ridiculous why i didnt get what i was looking for #and i promise you the reasons were stupid. so i was like cool i WASTED two years of my life here and ill not waste a SECOND more #if my hard work will result in no benefit to me. how the fuck do people NOT work like that according to American tv shows? #like also in glee Rachel has this horrible dance teacher who is CRUEL to her and describes it as MOTIVATING her #and like maybe dont be a teacher if you think CRUELTY is motivating for one but this is a CONSISTENT idea I see #and who does this work for really?? people who have only ever gotten pushback from a meanie teacher?? #people so privileged theyve never been told no and that they suck so they actually find the criticism USEFUL?? #because if youve gotten nothing but shit your whole life i HIGHLY doubt another pile of shit will be motivational #like straight up who but gary fucking vee would even have this stupid misconception?