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hecarried · 5 years

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full name: david sean williams nickname: dave, davey, d age: 28 nationality: american religion: kind of toeing the line between christian and agnostic city of birth: san antonio, texas the current place for living: n/a job title: soldier mother tongue: english birthday: march 9, 1941 what does the character like?: reading poetry aloud, fresh-baked pie, going for swims, laughing until his sides ache, driving with the windows down, spending time with his sisters and extended family, his mom (he’s a huge mama’s boy), his german sheperd (daisy) back home, those cheesy western comic books, rebel without a cause, going to bed early & waking up early, coffee with two sugars in it, talking with people (he’s very extroverted) what does the character dislike?: headaches/migraines, being alone in the dark (it makes his skin crawl), seeing other people upset/hurt (especially if they’re family), scorpions

how would you describe the childhood of the character?: happy. although dave was never super close to his father (who was a bit of a religious extermist/traditionalist + bit of an alcoholic, one might say), the williams family was always very close to cousins, aunts, uncles, and grandparents. he always grew up with several people around their little house who kind of made him forget what a jerk his dad tended to be, to his mom especially. how would you describe the teenage years of the character? at some point when dave was in high school, his dad left their family, leaving just dave + his two sisters + his mom. he learned more and more about his dad’s abusive behaviors before he left though which was the first time he ever faced any kind of physical/verbal homophobic violence from anyone. this made him horrified and angry, but he was all the more assured that he was okay without his father’s presence in his life. he dropped out of high school in order to try and become the breadwinner for his family. how would you describe the adulthood of the character? he was doing pretty good making a name for himself working : he primarily worked on people’s cars and electronics because he likes that kind of thing. however, he was 28 in 1969 when he was drafted, and canonically, died soon thereafter. but that’s stupid and i dont care about that

sisters or brothers: two sisters. dorothy “dottie/dot” williams, a 5′4 firecracker who is 26. she’s a math teacher at the small town elementary school they both went to growing up. she beats dave at arm wrestling every time and can trap him in a headlock with ease. even though he’s the eldest, she acts it better than he does. the other is rose williams, who is 25 and willingly enlisted to be a medic in the war. she’s 5′7, lanky like a stickbug, but absolutely beautiful in her own way with nice hands. she was the one who killed the spiders in the household. both of them love dave, and love to tease him. he does the same right back other important persons: his mom, hannah williams, who is gentle and loving and always understood and loved her empathetic son for who he was; she’s very kind but also a tough mama bear type you know? take no crap do no harm, says hannah! also obviously klaus h*rgreeves, who is the love of dave’s life, the first person he ever felt connected with him on a similar wavelength and loved every part of his dopey, sweet self.

color of eyes: brown the color of hair: dirty blond the color of skin: pale dialect: has a sort of southern drawl, just a little does the character drink regularly?: not REGULARLY, but he’ll drink does the character smoke?: sure, on occasion height: 6′2″ hobbies: reading/writing poetry (the stuff he’s written is SOOOO PRIVATE though like he is killer embarrassed about it and is almost ashamed of it most of the time), other dumb stuff to pass the time on the frontline like yo-yoing and comic-book reading or knot tying. outside of the war though he likes fixing up vehicles on the side. what’s the style of the character? (modern, outmoded): pretty standard 50s/60s style. just button ups and slacks and sort of high-waisted jeans for our beautiful boy. he’s got very little fashion sense which is why he needs klaus –

education: dropped out of high school intelligent or not?: not SUUUPER book smart, but intelligent and introspective and thoughtful and philosophical in his own unique way fears: primarily being hated/mocked, anything bad happening to his family self-perception: he kind of jokingly sees himself as a ditz/klutz/dope. he doesn’t really have Amazing self esteem but weirdly there’s nothing that self-deprecating about it? he just kind of sees himself as Painfully average, if below average a little bit

#BEAR WITH ME WHILE I SET UP SHOP ... AGAIN #headcanons.#out.#biography.#long post /

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naramdil · 6 years

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hi hafsa i was wondering if u could help me with s/t i've always had a rly bad relationship with my mom (we're brown, pakistani and muslim-- shia to be exact) and a lot of the arguments and tension has been abt religion (I mean excluding all the emotional abuse or whatver) she's always telling me all these stupid things like how women cant sing in front of men and similar things that "r absolutely haram" which technically are but how do i argue that its a nonsensical rule? she always turns it 1

it into a religious thing where she’s like wow you are lecturing me about islam and u dont even pray regularly or read the qu'ran daily (i’m really trying to be better) and i just feel so helpless bc she won’t even listen to anything. like ive never even been able to have a casual conversation with her in the 20 years ive been alive. like i dont want to blame her for moving me away from islam but she is the main reason i dont want to be religious bc all she talks abt is how im going to hell for

this or that and i just dont know what to do. are there website or something that can help me be a better muslim that arent rly critical? ive tried looking for websites but they all sound like my mom and then i think abt how she is right and how i prob am going to hell and i just. dont know how to talk to her that not eveything is so black and white but maybe it is and im wrong but yeah she says im too “amreeki” which i HATE bc i literally just said maybe we should have equality like what i just

idk at this point ive accepted ill never have a relationship with my mom and it just makes me so sad bc ive never had a maternal figure so i guess my last question is what can i do 2 help come back 2 islam & learn the good things instead of all the fear and bad stuff my mom kept yelling about bc sometimes i find myself disgustingly agreeing like wow that does kind of sound barbaric but then i feel like garbage bc it cant rly be like that right?? how do i get her to see my way? or just a diff one

hi chanda, I’m sorry for the belated reply I have been waiting to get into desktop so I could see all your asks together. my advice would be to talk to your mom about lighter topics, if possible. do not approach her with the intention to change her mind, she is set in her ways and it is clearly a point of tension for you to remind her that you and her do not think alike. that’s okay. there’s always a clash of generations, cultures, etc. and over time perhaps you and your mom will be able to see each other’s perspectives. but until then, learn to gauge when you should and shouldn’t speak. I say this because I don’t want you to keep getting hurt by the responses you are getting, not because I want you to be submissive, bc I def think it’s important for you to stay firm on your own personal believes. sometimes it’s just easier to quietly listen instead of trying to dignify them with a response.

the next thing is obviously to educate yourself so that you can think critically for yourself rather than just accepting what you are being told is ‘right’ even if it makes you uncomfortable. you’ve already shown interest in wanting to do this so that’s awesome! definitely searching online is not the best, I too always find the most abrasive answers to questions when I’ve done this.

I don’t really know many resources.. like I would recommend listening to lectures on youtube and stuff but the only person I used to listen to was nouman ali khan and even that was like… a lot for me like I have trouble listening to male lecturers for some of the reasons your were saying about lessons being based in fear lol so if anyone can rec better people pls share! also starting to read a translation of the Quran on your own is a good place to start as well. ik I have shia followers and mutuals so if anyone has any resources or advice to help anon learn more pls share them? @khatmal @vayelent @aliofbabylon ?? (ik there are more but a bitch is forgetful I’m sorry)

I wish I could give you more resources and have been more helpful though. I sincerely hope that things get better for you sis. iA someday you and your mom are able to develop a relationship if that is what is best for you, and if it’s not then I hope you’re able to just have the strength to be who you are and just be at peace with how things are. may you find everything you’re looking for and just generally all the best wishes to you angel 💗💗💗

#pls if anyone has resources share them #Anonymous

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peachaidee · 6 years

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Ep Ignis ramblings- mostly figured out how a happy ending could work with all the info presented to us vs the edgy sad end theory. Don’t read. spoilers, etc. just trying to make sense of it...

look i love angst and edgy stuff a lot but i dont know why some people automatically went for it in V2. to me, the story and directing was very obvious it was supposed to be a happy ending even though it was very confusing and it was difficult to figure out how it could work. i dont read reddit threads so idk if this has all been said before... just my thoughts.

after going thru V2 carefully a second time im more sure that the happy end could work out from the information given to us. Who is the "mysterious voice"? Most like the Crystal/Eos since it was the only thing around. It also could have been Luna. same VA in credits?? (Ravus did say her job wasn’t done...also great opportunity to slip future story in there for a possible ep luna, the poor girl needs it).

Anyway, lets just say the mysterious voice was Luna since she is the Oracle. Her powers would allow her to talk about the prophecy spoken by the Crystal/Eos. In V2 when it was being explained to Ignis, she never said Noct had to die. She said as long as the ring was powered up he would ascend, and have enough power to end the scourge, kill Ardyn, and could restore the dawn. This matches with the prophecy Luna tells Noct when they were kids.

I think some people think V2 can’t be real because we can’t forget as it was drilled into us for the entire game that it was Bahamut’s prophecy that we listened to and some people could not get over the requirement that a blood price needed to be made to fulfill the prophecy. Compare Luna’s prophecy to what Bahamut said in order for the Chosen King to ascend. He needed to have the ring full powered, and he needed the powers of the old kings and it can only be achieved by dying alone. This is a lot of requirements for ascension compared to the basic one told by Luna/Crystal. Now Bahamut...this fucker says as far back in the Omens trailer that a blood price must be paid and shows Regis the entire timeline of Omens playing out. I assume the endgame is the same where Noct destroys the scourge but just in a really terrible way. Terrible enough where Regis was like FUCK THAT and presumably does something to change Noct’s fate and asks the gods to forgive him. We don’t really know exactly what Regis did except for the very obvious action of sending Noct off WITH HIS BROS so he wouldn’t be ALONE.

I think that was the important part. Bahamut’s prophecy had everything from Luna’s/Crystals prophecy. The added parts were, BLOOD SACRIFICE and that it was the chosen king who would make his sacrifice ALONE. We hear this in the main game and it was repeated in Ep Ignis when he was shown the visions in the main route. So, by adding the bros into Noct’s journey, Noct’s fate was dramatically changed but tragically even Regis had to fulfill the prophecy in the end. Maybe everybody thought they had no other choice, the outcome was the same, Noct had to die. Bahamut is the war god that belongs to the Lucians so I guess Lucians have no reason to not listen to him and accept everything he says except for Regis who didn’t want Omens to happen.

So basically...what I think the whole story is about....is that fate changes if you have people to share your burden. Did Ignis have an idea how to change Noct’s fate when he suggested that to him? Maybe, maybe not. He tried by suggesting Noct they stop their journey. But later in Ch. 10 Ignis was 100% committed to Noct’s decision because he repeats Regis’ words and only wishes to stay with Noct. Maybe he knew there was no way to change it and he accepted that all the things shown to him were inevitably going to happen. Noct even cuts Ignis off in the last scene like Noct didn’t want the bros by his side (but he’ll have them in his heart), because Noct accepted Bahamut’s prophecy word for word. That he had to do it alone.

V2 looks like a timeline created by the power of love and friendship even though it hilariously hinges on 1 decision Ignis could have made differently but lets say he made the decision to go with Ardyn because he took 1 second to think things through and not be so recklessly gay to save Noct. Lets say he actually processed his future visions, he would choose the option that he doesn’t do in his visions. He would know that Ardyn couldn’t actually kill Noct right then and there. If he could have a chance to change fate he would go with Ardyn. So he does and this is a great timeline because Ignis actually tries to change fate when nobody did in the main game.

The question then becomes why do the Lucian kings know fate can be changed if Ignis sacrifices himself? Wild speculation here but it could be Regis' doing convincing the council to let Ignis sacrifice himself for the ring’s power knowing that fate can be changed that way because he did it himself earlier. Or Bahamut and the Lucian kings are assholes which we know already from Kingsglaive and the like... So did they already know about Luna’s/crystals prophecy? Maybe Bahamut added blood sacrifice and the requirement to do it alone to his prophecy because he's an edgy fuck and has no friends. Bahamut could have told Noct that he could sacrifice any one of his pure-hearted friends in his place but obviously Noct would never ever do that and would die for them all so Bahamut probably thought to make it efficient, only the Chosen King has to die it will be easy. OR, it is also entirely possible that through the events of Kingsglaive, Regis was sacrificing himself to change Noct’s fate.

By the magic power and love and friendship, Noct is able to heal Ignis using the Crystal. He was very determined in this timeline to fulfil his duty compared to the main game where he struggled and was confused in front of the crystal. He only puts on the ring kind of reluctantly in the main game but manages to do it to save Prompto. In V2 he puts it on immediately to save Ignis since he was actively dying. So sweet how in one timeline, Noct buckles up to save Prompto and in the other, to save Ignis.

During V2′s 10 year gap I was very happy to see the bros sticking together more. In the main game and in Comrades it was mentioned that they don’t spend a lot of time together but this timeline had a kind of uplifting feel and the bros felt like they had a better sense of purpose and a better plan with how to deal with the long night. At then at the last battle Noctis had all the bros +1 at his side. He had them walk tall TOGETHER, sharing the burden. I believe that was the message. If you have good friends, if you love deeply and let them share your burdens you can change fate. Of course sacrifices need to be made but you don’t have to do it alone. This is why I think at the end everyone lives. Additional detail is that Noct was still wearing the ring when it was destroyed in the main game.

Some people think V2 retcons all of Ep Prompto which I get...Ardyn uses Ignis as bait instead of Prompto but you can use your imagination to try and keep Prompto’s character development. Like, if Prompto never got into the facility, maybe Verstael would still be alive and he would have sent out all his weapons anyway? Like chase Ravus’ airship down with machines. Or maybe Ardyn wanted to fuck with Ravus and gang anyway and let Verstael do his Ghost in the Shell thing. As far as Ardyn knew, Noct still had the ring so maybe he wanted to stir up shit so Noct would finally wear it. Ravus probably could have told Prompto about his origins if they ever ran into Verstael. I feel like Ravus would know about it.

This ending did feel a bit rushed but overall it felt more like the general theme of FF games where friendship is the best and you say fuck you to fate/religion and it seems right that ffxv showed us that thru different timelines. of course this is how i rationalize everything ignoring that this was supposed to be an entirely different game 10 years, even 3 years ago and even playing Comrades I could tell they couldn’t keep the game and Kingsglaive consistent. Episode Ignis was supposed to be the last of the DLCs until they confirmed they were making more by popular demand. And to me Ep Ignis did feel like it was the end by showing V2. Because of the game’s disastrous release schedule the game ended up so messy but i think the ffxv team tried their best to tie in everything. From Omens which people speculated were story elements from vs XIII, to the main game and them confirming AU exists or that Noct’s dreams are actually real in a way. I felt like V2 was a possibility of a happy ending so I don’t see it as some dark twisted bittersweet ending. Nothing against people who do, its all good fun. I was left feeling so satisfied I actually don’t mind if they stop DLCs. But since they’re making more I feel like they can do a good job because they said they’re taking their time with these future DLCs to make sure they’re good. I hope they can explore another timeline where this time they can save Luna or something. She honestly has it the worst.

tl;dr: fuck Bahamut honestly. Also what he does in Comrades is fucked up

#.#ffxv #ep ignis #ffxv spoilers #episode ignis

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viralhottopics · 7 years

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The Day I Decided My Daughter Will Not Choose Her Own Friends

We helicopter over our kids wardrobes, nutrition, sleep schedules, hygiene, science fair projects and then pride ourselves on how hands off we are on social issues.

By Leslie Blanchard

I will never forget the day my daughter told me that Bethany, a girl in her 4th grade class, was annoying her.

What is she doing to you? I questioned, instinctively protective.

Shes following me around on the playground and sitting by me at lunch! she quipped, as if that would sum things right up and get me squarely on her side of the matter.

You mean shes trying to be friends with you? I asked incredulously.

I realized immediately that I had a problem on my hands. I was raising my own worst nightmare. Smack dab in the middle of my brood of five kids, was a charismatic, sassy, leggy, blonde, dance-y, athletic girl oozing confidence … and apparently annoyance, directed toward another little girl that wasnt lucky enough to be her. Inconveniently for my daughter, her own mother WAS Bethany in grade school. Freckled of face and frizzy of hair, I was an Army brat, always the new girl clamoring for a friend, drawn to the natural confidence of girls like my daughter. This conversation found me vacillating between heartache and fury, but one thing I knew for sure: Mama was about to put her money where her mouth had been all these years.

The battle of two very strong wills ensued at my home the next morning. It wasnt pretty, but I prevailed. My daughter attended a private Catholic grade school, where on any given day, she and a handful of her cohorts ruled the roost. One quick phone call to Bethanys mother that same evening confirmed my worst fears. My daughter and her posse were using everything short of a can of Cling Free to rid themselves of the annoying Bethany.

Im sure there are parents out there who will say I overreacted. But, I firmly believe weve got to start to address our countrys bullying epidemic right at the heart; by re-defining bullying at its very core. To me, the rejection and complete lack of interest my daughter and her clique displayed toward Bethany was the beginning of a subtle type of bullying. It is true (confirmed to me by Bethanys mom and teachers), that there was no overt unkindness or name-calling, etc., just rejection; a complete lack of interest in someone they wrongly concluded had nothing to offer them. After experiencing childhood myself and raising five of my own, Ive been on every side of the bullying social dynamic, and I am convinced this is where it begins. A casual assessment and quick dismissal of an outsider.

We would serve our children well, in my opinion, if we had a frank conversation with them about Social Darwinism and what motivates human beings to accept and reject others. It happens at every age and stage of life, race, creed and religion. It has its roots in our own fears of rejection and lack of confidence. Everyone is jockeying for their own spot on the Social Food Chain. I feel like I have experienced demonstrable success with my children by tabling this dynamic right out in the open. Parents need to call it by name, speak it out loud, shine a bright light in its ugly face. We need to admit to our children that we too experience this, even as adults. Of course its tempting to curry favor and suck-up to the individual a rung of two above you on the Social Ladder, but every single human being deserves our attention and utmost respect. In spite of this, we have to constantly remind our children and ourselves that everyone can bring unexpected and unanticipated value to our lives. But we have to let them.

Its simply not enough to instruct your children to Be Nice! Youve got to be more specific than that. Kids think if they arent being outright unkind, they are being nice. We know better. Connect the ugly dots. Explain the Darwinistic social survival instinct thats often motivating and guiding their impulses. I promise you, they can handle it. They already see it on some level anyway. They just need YOU to give it a voice and re-direction.

As for my girl, I instructed her that she was going to invest some time and energy getting to know Bethany. I assigned her to come home from school the next day and report three cool things she found out about Bethany, that she didnt previously know. My strong-willed child dug in. She did not want to do that. I dug in deeper. I refused to drive her to school the next morning, until she agreed. It seemed that, at least until now, I had the car keys and the power. Her resistance gave us time to have the Social Darwinism conversation. I walked her through my ATM Machine Analogy. I explained to her that she had social bank to spare. She could easily make a withdrawal on behalf of this little girl, risking very little.

Lets invest! I enthused and encouraged.

She got dressed reluctantly and I drove her to school. She had a good daywhat was left of it. But, she was still buggy with me when I picked her up, telling me that her friends mothers stay out of such matters and let their daughters choose their own friends! (Such wise women.) And then she told me three cool things about Bethany that she didnt previously know.

I checked back in with Bethanys mother by phone two weeks later. Its called follow through. (I dont think enough of us are doing that. We helicopter over our kids wardrobes, nutrition, sleep schedules, hygiene, science fair projects and then pride ourselves on how hands off we are on social issues. If I had a dollar for every time I wanted to say, Seriously? You micro-manage the literal crap out of every thing your child does from his gluten intake to his soccer cleats, but THIS you stay out of? No wonder theres zero accountability and a bullying culture!) Bethanys mother assured me that she had been welcomed into the fold of friendship and was doing well.

Bethanys family moved to another state a few years later. My daughter cried when they parted ways. They still keep in touch through all their social media channels. She was and is a really cool girl, with a lot to offer her peers. But the real value was to my daughter, obviously. She gained so much through that experience. She is now a 20-year-old college sophomore, with a widely diverse group of friends. She is kind, inclusive and open to all types of people. When she was malleable, impressionable and mine to guide:

She learned her initial instinct about people isnt always correctly motivated.

She learned you can be friends with the least likely people; the best friendships arent people that are your type! In the world of friendship, contrast is a plus.

She learned that there are times, within a given social framework, that you are in a position to make a withdrawal on behalf of someone else. Be generous, invest! It pays dividends.

But, most importantly, she learned that, while I may not be overly-interested in what she gets on her Science Fair project, couldnt care less if shes Lactose Intolerant or whether her long blonde hair is snarled, shes going to damn well treat people right.

Parentsyour kids are going to eventually develop the good sense to wear a jacket and eat vegetables, invest your energy in how they interact within society. If we insist on being the hovering Helicopter Parent Generation, lets at least hover over the right areas.

About the Author:Leslie Blanchard is a wife and mother of five, who tattles on her husband, her own mother and her children by chronicling the insane and mundane in all of their lives in a fairly public way. Collectively, her family more or less rues the day they purchased her an iPad. Now that shes officially a blogger, Leslie lies in the tub, neglecting her considerable responsibilities and muses about marriage, motherhood, friendship and other matters of life outside the bubbles. Read more from Leslie on her blog A Ginger Snapped: Facing the Music of Marriage & Motherhood.