#oh also one thing i forgot to mention is that agab is . generally very exclusive of intersex people

[ghostbnuy]

the thing is i think that like. afab and amab as terms arent like. a bad thing?? like if you're talking about urself and ur assigned gender happens to be relevant and is preferrable to another descriptor (eg if ur dysphoric abt ur body to some it may be easier to say ur agab rather than describing ur features) or describing a situation where thats relevant then like. sure! its just like any other word u just use it cus it makes sense- (note this only applies if YOU'RE using the term when you're talking about YOURSELF)

the problem is that when other people use or ask for someone's agab there's some kind of weird implication that it somehow changes how you behave, and that based on that you can put people into a new binary which shouldnt exist and negatively effects all trans people

people ask if you're amab expecting that to mean you're inherently more patriarchal, dangerous, "masculine" - and if you're afab expecting that to mean you're inherently more quiet, sweet, "feminine" - and BOTH of these fucking suck!!

#im only talking abt transfems in the tags purely because thats my own experience - thats not to say that it doesnt affect all trans people #please feel free to add on your own experiences too if you want to share!! /gen #the amount of times transfems have been accused of being inherently more misogynistic for being amab is fucked up #as if thats some kind of inherited trait from how you're born like what the fuck are you talking about #and its always without any proof as well obviously its just the terfs and radfems making bullshit claims again #except that it also often comes from other queer people telling us that we need to unlearn bigoted ideas that we dont even have #because we're born as boys?? like what the fuck does that even mean what are you implying?????? #its so annoying when people tell us to 'unlearn our misogynistic ideas' that we apparently magically absorbed (because we're men ofc) #when we fucking experience it ourselves #like. what r u talking about #oh also one thing i forgot to mention is that agab is . generally very exclusive of intersex people