#ohh ​she would hateeeeee that. would instantly be on the defensive thinking i was attacking her lol

[chemicaljacketslut]

a while ago i discovered that my sister and i use social media very differently. as per usual, i was attempting to peer pressure her into deleting tiktok. she agreed with me that tiktok is bad, but she didn’t want to delete it and brought up the point she usually does that she has friends on there. i suggested not for the first time that she do what i did, going inactive on all social media except tumblr. this was where our communication barrier started.

my sister said it would be too overwhelming to download another social media app. i suggested she talk to her tiktok friends on discord instead, something that had come up earlier in the conversation, leaving her free to replace tiktok with tumblr. this confused her; i think maybe she was reluctant to mix people with different platforms/friend groups. yk i get it, i’m nd too. she then added that downloading a new app would mean making new friends, which would be too many for her comfort level. which confused me, because i talk to one single person on here maybe once every few weeks and that is it. i engage in fandom and interact people through tags or reblogs fairly often, but i have little to no platonic obligations. so i told her to simply not make more friends, obviously, you don’t have to dm people. my sister, though, just became even more confused and said that making friends was the whole point, she can’t not make friends on social media.

and that was when i made the realization that she— and probably most people, if the name social media is accurate— uses social media for friendship and social connection, whereas i use social media to build a bizarre little museum of a home, mostly if not entirely for my own pleasure. which is probably part of why i love tumblr so much, because it is perfect for that.

#i understand her perspective however. please god PLEASE get off of tiktok PLEASE #im in an essay writing mood after finishing my metamorphosis one maybe i’ll write her an essay on why tiktok is bad #ohh ​she would hateeeeee that. would instantly be on the defensive thinking i was attacking her lol #she hates being proven wrong by me probably because im stubborn about it and will go to absurd lengths to win an argument #it’s like my sweet summer child please i am not attacking you im just saying please watch something other than childrens media sometimes #it’s hard bc she just worries me. i feel like she’s being a little bit developmentally stunted #but i can’t try and tell her that without shitting all over everything she enjoys #which is why im SO ecstatic that she’s started to like breaking bad after i made her start watching it lol #bc it has such excellent writing & im hoping it’ll help her learn to think more about her media #instead of everything being boiled down to ‘an evenly character did a bad thing #but the power of friendship conquers all & everything is resolved by the end of the episode’ #there’s a lot of amazing childrens media that deals with more complex topics. but it’s still childrens media #like yeah it’s cool that they made an episode about death or morally ambiguous characters #but it’s made for children to understand. it’s just an introduction #i’ve been rambling too long i’ve just been concerned abt my sister and feeling like im being too pretentious #ghost rants