#rather than creating a agab or gender presentation battle because you feel the need to fight to prove yourself valid

[oatmilkappreciator]

transmeds would probably call me a trender despite the fact that I am legally, hormonally, and mentally a Trans Man because I have long hair and painted nails and enjoy wearing colours, I de and retransitioned more than once. and also I don't really care about being called invalid or a trender by one of my own who's too afraid to be kind.

governments and politicians are trying to eradicate us the world over and your concern is another trans person being mean to you and saying you're not valid? I think we have bigger fish to fry. and on the flip side some bitter, lonely kid who rightfully fears not making it past 18, is making up rules for how to be trans and talking about it on their blog because the whole world is telling them they're wrong and they're desperate to find a way to make it right. I obviously don't find it tasteful but that person is not our enemy.

anyway the true threat to the trans community is those who are trying to eradicate us, our supporters, and our safe spaces. we'll have time to argue with the Blair Whites and accept the apologies of the Storm Ryans - but only if we aren't legally forcibly detransitioned, groups disbanded, and the internet sterilized to a point where we can't find each other again. I would rather have a cohort of angry trans people who don't get along than to be alone.

#sorry y'all. I've been around the block a few times #I just don't believe that ostracizing any trans person for any reason is something that will help them or the cause #and as we know accusations and callouts can ruin lives especially transfeminine and POC can have IRL consequences #so. if you're mad someone in your same community was mean to you #let's use those community building skills and understand you still are in community with these people #we need each other. #say so when someone hurts you so we can make our community stronger. don't run to tumblr to gripe to strangers #do something and create the community you want then!! #create kind and expansive ways to say 'that hurt my feelings and I didn't appreciate that' #rather than creating a agab or gender presentation battle because you feel the need to fight to prove yourself valid #transmedicalism