#she sounds like those who criticize people who use pads instead of tampons

[piracytheorist]

I got bras-plained by the female owner of a clothing store today.

Like, I wear D cup. It’s not that big compared to other cases I’ve heard, but they are big enough to be annoying - and summer is coming, can’t wait for the nights I won’t be able to sleep without a loose sports bra on :) - and in need of specific kinds of bras.

First world problems, but sometimes I still mourn the fact that there was an underwear shop in my town when I was a teenager, and I wanted those cute Hello Kitty bras that they were selling - but they were only going up to C cup, so there was no chance they could fit me.

Fast forward a few years, and I realize any underwire bra feels too harsh and rigid for me, they don’t support them to my satisfaction, and that in the summer it even irritates the skin under the bοοb, and that I need straps at least 1.5-2 cm thick otherwise I’ll be feeling them cut onto my shoulders - so no spaghetti straps for me, and definitely no strapless shirts.

I also don’t really give a fuck about lifting my bοοbs. I wish I could free the nipple - the only problem is that they’re literal sacks by now, and it does get annoying for them to swing around when you want to do stuff. At this point, bras only serve practical purposes for me.

So, big bras, no underwire, thick straps, and secure support. The easiest solution I could find were sports bras. They’ve been much more comfortable, they cut me less, I finally feel like they support the bοοb and not that they’re making them cater to the male gaze...

And today I had a fucking shop keeper tell me I need to stop wearing sports bras.

Her size wasn’t as big as mine, from what I could tell. So it felt really... ugly. It felt like mansplaining, as if I don’t know my own fucking needs.

And it’s not that she just suggested it. I tried on a dress, and she said that sports bras do not compliment that dress, and I was like “Well they’re the only ones that fit me and are comfortable” and she insisted. “I wear a D cup” I said and she said “Oh well I know women with bigger sizes and they wear underwire! If you buy one from [underwear brand]-” and I immediately was like “The sports bra I’m wearing is from [the same underwear brand]” because it happened that the bra I was wearing at that moment was from that brand, to prove that sports bras can be good, AND SHE WAS STILL NOT SHUTTING UP. Like, shut the fuck up lady. Don’t give advice that people didn’t ask for, and if you are so keen to give it, give it and shut up if they rebut it.

Like, I know that “the customer is always right” is bullshit, but when the matter is concerning only the customer, you shouldn’t push. I wasn’t buying underwear, I was just casually trying on a dress. It was none of her business to “offer” advice about bras to a 27-year-old woman she didn’t know. And this is why the saying happened in the first place. Because that clothing store was actually really cute, and though they were expensive, I was actually contemplating putting some money aside to buy a good dress from them, but now that the owner was such a bitch, I was like, fuck it. You don’t deserve my hard-earned money. But if you knew where “the customer is right” applies to, you wouldn’t have lost a potential customer. Good fucking job.

#nette speaks #she sounds like those who criticize people who use pads instead of tampons #or of people who don't do any makeup #how dare you put your comfort above what I and the patriarchy think is right!!1!