#so tell me again how an entire maladaptive attachment style is related to one disorder and that alone

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tfw an ex-mutual talks down to you very rudely for disagreeing/being mad ab their fringe psychology beliefs. Lemme guess, you also believe ODD is a real actual disorder.

Sorry you feel the need to make fun of people because they don't listen to your youtube guy. If I agreed with every conflicting psychology researcher and academic I would have every mental disorder in the book and so would you.

Codependency isn't always (but absolutely can be) about "seeing others as an extension of yourself" as referenced in cases of NPD. Sometimes codependency is about traumatic attachment. That is decidedly not narcissistic because neither party has NPD. Sometimes codependency is born out of necessity; ie-- there is one person you have had to depend on your entire life. You got stuck on a remote island for a decade or more. You were in a cult and knew only one person outside. A million scenarios but I won't write them out here.

Furthermore the claim on my own mental state is even more absurdly and rudely armchair psychologist. I don't feel connected to people, let alone see them as an extension of myself. I don't *understand* some people's anxieties and motivations at all and wouldn't claim to. Because they are very much not me. I am me, they are they (about 8.5 billion of them to my knowledge). I can never hope to truly get into their brain universes and unfortunately no one can get into mine either. We are all in a state of internal isolation to some extent because you cannot feed someone your dreams, no one can personally experience what is not their own experience. If I saw others as extensions of myself, would I take the time to study the motives, fears, and ways of showing love to those closest to me? I'd just assume they were like my own, no? But I will ask my therapist quite bluntly if she thinks I have any cluster b disorder if you are so certain. And about her opinion on all this shit. I'll even send her the video, if I can find it on my own again. She is a licensed psychologist with an extensive education and experience in the field. So you know.

Truly insane the level to which some people believe they know exactly how everyone's brains tick. All the same. Almost similar to your claim about seeing others as an extension of yourself. Huh. Maybe I'm just being dramatic and it's again another iteration of "if you haven't personally experienced it, you can believe anything about it simply because you don't understand." But hey, you armchair diagnosed me first. So, I think you have a cluster b disorder despite probably never having been professionally diagnosed with anything remotely similar. I believe it wholeheartedly. You see the world, and people with their complex minds, as black and white. A symptom of, you guessed it, NPD. You defer to any authority that will back up your point of view. Spoiler: there will always be one, because there is no such thing as a unanimous academic vote on what is true and what is false. But most importantly you talk to people who (what a scandal!) haven't read and immediately believed the things you have read and immediately believed like they are inherently below you (see: you talking to me in the most condescending and unnecessarily mean way possible over an academic dispute).

#anyway most psychologists are extremely biased #and psychology is nowhere near a complete science #to say every x is y in psychology is wild to me #sorry i dont agree with everything i read lmfao #armchair psychology #yeah actually this is angering #because it very aggressively decides one phenomenon in psychology can only be tied to people with one mental disorder #not even hallucinations (and even psychosis) are exclusive to schizo spectrum disorders #people with bipolar or bpd can also hallucinate and even enter psychosis #and even 'mentally normal' people can hallucinate from extreme stress or sleep deprivation #so tell me again how an entire maladaptive attachment style is related to one disorder and that alone #im convinced some of yall dont hang out w enough people w different kinds of mental disorders/healthy areas #you can easily debunk every generalizing argument the moment you just spend time around a diverse group of people