#sorry for centering men in my life hashtag problematic hashtag internalized misogyny

[francisforever2014]

i hate the term “female friendship” like it annoys me

#listening to the binchtopia podcast episode on comp het.. v interesting #but that kinda stuff just reminds me that i am not a ‘female’ 😭 #i’m like why can’t i relate to all these stories about female friendships and female comradarie… and i’m like right bc u aren’t one bestie #sigh i hate how cis centered gender studies and feminism can be even though it’s very important #idk how to fix it or if it even needs to be fixed but yeah . it’s both annoying and freeing to not be able to relate to a lot of these #discussions #anyways . who up and wanna have a ‘female friendship’ w me (sex) #also i wonder how many of my ‘female friendships’ weren't fulfilling because of my lack of cisgenderness. like i was always the other #and these cis women were looking for comradarie in another woman and i just wasn’t that. and they could tell #i always used to wonder why i wasn’t getting the same thing out of female friendships as everybody else was or how liberal women make it #sound. and this is definitely a factor . which idk how i didn’t realize it sooner #also ofc being gay and having straight friends when i was younger #but even in my ‘female friendships’ with other lgbt women something is missing #like the most fulfilling relationship i’ve ever had is in fact with a man . #and idk how much of that is just chance like we just happen to click . and how much of it is bc i feel like i can relate to him more than #i ever could my ‘female friends’ #also we have other things in common like he’s an lgbt person of color i’m an lgbt person of color etc . #but idk . i wonder how much gender factors into this #like i’ve had that in common with women and STILL something is missing #sorry for centering men in my life hashtag problematic hashtag internalized misogyny #also not to say that my current friendships with women aren’t fulfilling i love them . and it does help that they’re all lgbt poc #but there’s always this border i feel. like when they’ll be talking about hashtag womanhood and i just . don’t get it #SORRY for the long ass tags omg