#that is not hyperbole btw literally the most recent one's top comment called it abuse

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love how literally every other r/offmychest post is someone going "my partner just asked about opening up the relationship, what do i do?" and the comments are "the relationship is dead, this is a horrible betrayal of your trust, break up with them you don't deserve this abuse"

#that is not hyperbole btw literally the most recent one's top comment called it abuse #and its like. if ur not into it ur allowed to say no. thats the whole point of asking. #and if they try to pressure you after then yeah theyre in the wrong if its a dealbreaker for them they should end the relationship there #or if they just bypass asking and go straight to cheating and try to spin it as 'well actually im poly so you have to let me' obv #thats shitty too #however them just. thinking it is not . something you should judge their morality on #like in a healthy relationship it goes 'hey wanna do an open relationship' 'hmmm no i like it better as just us' #'no problem just thought id ask' and then everyone moves on with their day #and by FUCKING god is it not ABUSE all on its own just to ASK if it's a possibility #and theyre always like 'its over.... my life is ending ....... she never loved me.................' and its like #oh my goddddd shut up that is not what happened #'she said she still loves me just as much as she did at the start of our relationship but obviously she's lying because #if she actually loved me the thought would never have even crossed her mind' man fuck off #someone being capable of maintaining multiple relationships doesnt suddenly negate everything you have together #fucking grow up