#then you try to complain about this and people accuse you of gender essentialist bullshit

[musical-chick-13]

Well...it's been a good run for...every ship left involving a woman in this poll. o7

#or more than one woman. you know what I mean. #(except for the one f/f versus f/f poll so we do at least have ONE guaranteed ship moving forward) #like. I know this is NOT a big deal (& I'll definitely forget about it once it's over) but I just...DO so tire of how guy-focused fandom is #then you try to complain about this and people accuse you of gender essentialist bullshit #which is ALSO exhausting #like I do genuinely like hanging out in my little niches with a handful of like-minded people but it does get...lonely I guess? sometimes? #you know that the things you create will be seen as inherently less valuable. you know that even in the Weird Interest™ Spaces you are #still seen as weird. you still don't fit in. the characters like you are discarded/ignored/disproportionately hated the way you are in real #life and it's rooted in a lot of the same ideas. like obviously I'd take THIS over misogynistic shit that actually happened to me but it #certainly doesn't make dealing with the reality of misogyny any EASIER #'I focus on men to escape irl misogyny/creator misogyny' I feel like actively ignoring women is also misogyny. actually. #whatever. nothing is new ever lmao. #In the Vents #at least The Major Evil has been defeated. I CAN at least sleep easy over that one.