#there is so little good advice compared 2 the utter nonsense

[bedazzlecunt]

i really do have to emphasize that like. horny tumblr is a fucking horrible place to learn about kink. at least half the people here have never had sex (or done kink without sex) beyond sexting on omegle, and even the ones who do have any experience with sex and and kink and IRL kink spaces (including myself!) are mostly engaging in fantasy and theatre and performance. that's fine! that's fun! there's nothing wrong with that. but i do worry so much about all the 18 yr olds i see on here who've never had sex, many of whom have never been in a relationship, and who are building ideas about kink and sex and health based on the most deranged fantasy-of-the-sort-you-literally-cannot-do-safely-irl tumblr posts. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do not take any tumblr posts as actual kink education, including and sometimes especially the ones claiming to be actual kink education. there are actual books and groups and dungeons for that.

#wren speaking! #im not saying that theres 0 good advice but i am saying that like #there is so little good advice compared 2 the utter nonsense #'how to safely choke someone' you cannot safely choke someone. it is literally impossible #'aftercare guide!' clearly written by someone who has never so much as gotten 2 third base let alone done aftercare #'what to do if you cant communicate with ur dom' the only thing To Do in that situation is not 2 play