#to be dismissive of my struggles with being autistic because she can do thjngs easily so that means i should 🙄

[autisticlee]

I hate when people who want to "help" me are only doing it to make themsleves happy or comfortable and not me.

when people are basically like "how dare you not take my advice and do what I told you! dont dismiss me and what I say! I don't care if it doesn't work for you/make you happy/makes things harder for you, it makes me feel good when you do what I say and listen to me!"

i've had friends like this. one more recently from an ex friend group who straight up told me I was dismissing her for not even "trying" to do what she says, despite me saying I tried it previously and it didn't work. she always got upset at me if I had any problems with her advice and it didn't work. telling me i'm lazy and dismissive and giving up and making her feel bad because she's "just trying to help"

if you want to help someone, you have to make then happy, not yourself. meet their needs and work out the roadblocks that get in the way. dont call them dismissive for not taking your advice when YOURE dismissive of their needs and struggles. it's not about you of you're "juat trying to help" and especially of you claim you care about the person.

#lee rambles #dont know what to tag this #the ex friend who most recently said this to me was also the same one who claimed to be autistic as a gotcha moment #to be dismissive of my struggles with being autistic because she can do thjngs easily so that means i should 🙄 #she really is good at projecting. being dismissive of me and claiming im dismissive. gaslighting me and saying i am instead #idk what her issue was but she seemed to take out her issues on me??? after she kicked the one she liked least from thr group #who she previously projected her issues onto it seems like she moved to me until i was basically booted from the group through ghosting #and getting uninvited from the group trip for no reason. and she cant even talk to me herself. she sends our other friend to do it #one who i believe didn't actually have an issue with me but she still chose the manipulative one over me so i have issue with her #and they stole my pther friend from me and turned her against me #so i just left and gave up #screw them!!!!! #oops tags got super off topic um ignore these................ #lee rants #i did manage to actually find a therapist that takes my insurance though so i cam discuss these things with her #so the more i write about them the easier i will be to collect them when i need to email them to her once we get there