#to do with me being any kind of queer except the non-loaded dictionary kind

[bitegore]

When i say i want to hang out with weirdos I do not mean "I want to hang with gay people and that's my marker for whether or not someone is weird." I'm not saying "weird" and meaning "vaguely aro" or "polyam" or "nonbinary" or whatever. Those are not personality traits. They tell you nothing about what that person is like. If i say I need more weird people in my social circle I'm talking about people who are weird. People who aren't like, going with the grain of any community based on literally anything. I have standards for this. I'm looking for like. People who won't blink if I say i only ever enter my house through the window or when I talk about drinking gasoline and then do it and they see I'm not joking, or people who won't think anything huge of me cracking the top of an eggshell and drinking the whole thing from the top in one mouthful. Or if they do, they do enough same-vein shit that it doesn't faze them. These are not really the same as being part of a very broad group of people who happen to have an exogender or whatever. I have met some incredibly normal (derogatory) trans people and gay people and aro people and nonbinary people. When i say weird I mean weird.

#saw a really annoying post. #red rambles #im being so brave by only saying this #like. why are you convinced exclusionists are the ones who want their circle to be more interesting and permissive 1. 2 no the fuck i dont #mean 'i want to know more aros' when i say 'i want more weird as hell friends' that means nothing! thats like saying i want more friends #that eat chocolate. thats not a fucking personality trait #weird is a trait about a personality! weird is a thing about THE PERSONALITY of the person ARO is a ROMANTIC ORIENTATION #im not befriending people on basis of their fucking genders do i look that boring to you????? #fuck of. #-3x0 #-3x5 #if you think i'm weird because i'm transgender rather than weird because I'm weird and transgender because i'm transgender then like you've #genuinely lost the plot. 80% of the things i do are much weirder than wanting a different appearance and none of them have almost anything #to do with me being any kind of queer except the non-loaded dictionary kind #my gender situation and shit is probably more normal than the rest of my life by far #i dont even disagree with the idea that you have to be more broadly accepting of people if you wanna share space with people like me but for #the love of god. i would rather hang out with a cis straight avowed furry than a nonbinary xe/xem user who thinks that anyone who dresses #differently from the Fashionable Standard or doesn't listen to the same music as them is somehow Transgeessing and Being Soooooooo Annoying #^not a hypothetical