#trans folks are valid and if you dont agree then leave besties!!!!!

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just read myself back and realized this is a bit venty so feel free to ignore this ask - this was just to say i relate to your post from like 6 days ago (?) about being outed by other people

yes absolutely and if one of the first people in the friendgroup/class/social situation is more uncomfortable with you/transphobic-er than you thought, it becomes a race where you have to come out to people before they get to them. it's like some kind of on-going race against the clock. cause you know that if that first person doesn't like/respect your transness they'll gossip about it or talk about it in a way you don't want them to, or even tell people you didn't even want to tell originally, whether it's intentional or not.

I came out as non-binary to someone i was relatively close to, and who seemed very open minded, and they surprised me with how often they'd bring it up on their own without prompt. As if this little factoid that doesn't change much consumed all their thoughts everytime they looked at me. I have been dressing and talking this way this whooooole time and even told them they could still use feminine pronouns if it was hard to switch (it's the "YOU ARE WOMAN" talk i wanted to stop because they'd mention it a lot) and it still was too jarring for them somehow.

anyway all that to say that i support/hope you won't delete posts like these cause i love seeing people express their trans frustration and annoyance on my feed. i get it and when i feel like that sometimes it's nice to be reminded that i'm not being overdramatic or alone in this experience!!! 😁😁 just like you aren't!!! we are here for you

love your blog bye

hey i hope it's okay to publish your ask!

i appreciate this very much, and im glad you felt comfortable enough to tell me about this :)

i'm sorry about your friend :/ that's really shitty and honestly kind of dismaying to find out those kinds of things, or have those things happen to you, i totally hear you.

it's weird when you tell someone you're trans because they immediately stop seeing you as the person you identify as, and rather (for example, in my case) a man who "used to be" a woman. or vice versa. or a nonbinary person who's "actually" _____. yeah man, like you said, "this little factoid that doesn't change much consumed all their thoughts everytime they looked at me." (at least, in my own personal experience) and it's weird because the only thing that changed was their own perception of you. and for some reason that's a hurdle too big for them to cross.

you were very kind to reach out about this and i'll say it again, i appreciate it a lot. i am here for you too!

much love 💚

#lmao the delete later tag is purely so my page doesnt get clogged with vent posts lmao. sometimes i need to get it out of my system to be #able to move on from it and then after a while i can take the post down and forget abt it #but i get what ur saying homie :') #not tagging this because i dont want t/rfs to touch my blog 😌 #went through that once and i DONT need to go through it again tyvm #trans folks are valid and if you dont agree then leave besties!!!!!