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2024 is the year we stop “consuming” and go back to “reading/watching/listening to/playing” things

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I really believe the biggest gift I can give myself as a woman is the freedom to just be out in the world and be obsessed with learning & making & doing things instead of anything internal even though I wasn't raised to be that way at all

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Think highly of yourself

Talk highly of yourself

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Everyone speaks about self love and self respect, but the real question is how does one go about developing that?

Tbh it’s by sitting with yourself and your truth. We all have flaws, getting comfortable with yours helps to build compassion for yourself and your journey. It’s also helps you know more of who you are and in your knowing of yourself and doing the things you want to do and achieve you gradually develop a sense of respect. It’s quite complex but that is a starting point.

- Xo Femme

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hi!! what do you recommend for fitness/physical wellbeing? i am looking into learning more about exercise and nutrition, just to understand what my body needs, any recs?

Sorry I don’t have one🫠😩 I’ve spoken about my struggle with fitness and this year I didn’t really meet my goal in that area. It’s something I’m working on this year too💗. I’ve mainly been doing Pilates and Tabata on YT and reading about random fitness journeys to learn more.

Xo Femme

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I’m 24 and never been in a relationship, just one situationship, don’t sleep around or date a whole lot...people say a lot that I’m “sheltered” or don’t get it when they talk about their relationship problems which may be true but also understand what’s going on and wouldn’t put up with the things they’re going through in the relationship (cheating, mistreatment,etc) and how it’s hard for them to leave...to me, I would rather he sheltered then put through all that? But also do have some insecurity about never having a bf and just dating in general because it scares me to be honest (growing up with narcissistic dad, my parents relationship wasn’t great) but it does bother me that they say that about me, should it?

What matters is what you think about yourself and the work you put into yourself. If you’re scared about something (re: your narcissistic dad) explore that in a safe space (therapy) and do the work you need. People are always going to have opinions- good and bad- you shouldn’t base your life on them. If not, you’d be stuck in a loop of highs and lows based on the opinions of people that don’t really matter in the grand scheme of things. Decide who matters and have fulfilling conversations that help you do better.

- xo Femme

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I don’t know who needs to hear this, but please don’t break promises you make to yourself just because it’s you the promise is being made to. You told yourself you’d go on a walk with tomorrow morning? Do it. You said you’d set more consistent with your skincare routine? Make it happen. You promised yourself you would work on establishing boundaries regardless of who’s on the other side of them? Follow through with that. Don’t wake up the next day and go “well I don’t HAVE to do this” “it wouldn’t hurt to postpone this” “this isn’t a big deal” because it literally is. Every promise broken is another nail in the coffin of your self-actualization. It’s another major roadblock to developing healthy self-love and self-respect. Weigh promises you’ve made to yourself the same way you would weigh promises you’ve made to others.

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Basic Financial Rules To Live By 💰✨

Create a plan that shows how much money you get and how much you spend. This helps you see where your money goes.

Set aside a part of your money as savings. Try to save at least 10-20% of what you earn.

Be careful with borrowing money, especially if you have to pay back a lot of extra money (interest).

Save some money for unexpected things like medical bills or losing your job. Aim to have enough to cover your living costs for a few months.

Put your saved money into different things that can make it grow, like stocks or real estate. Be patient, as it takes time.

Don't spend more money than you make. Stick to buying what you really need, not just what you want.

Decide what you want to do with your money, both in the short term (like a vacation) and long term (like retirement).

Set up automatic transfers to your savings and bills so you don't forget to save or pay your bills on time.

Make saving money a top priority before spending on other things.

Regularly look at your money situation, adjust your plan as needed, and see how your investments are doing.

Pay your bills on time and use credit wisely (like credit cards) to keep a good credit score, which can help you get better deals on loans.

Save money for when you're older and don't work anymore. Use retirement accounts to help with this.

Think before you buy things. Don't buy something just because you want it; think if it's necessary.

Keep learning about how money works and how to make smart money choices.

Only use your emergency fund for real unexpected problems, not for things you just want to buy.

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i will no longer be embarrassed i will no longer be a victim of insecurity i will no longer plague my mind with worries i exist i am allowed to exist i am allowed to take up space i will not let others dictate my experience i will live i will live i will live

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THIS

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don't let your priorities get out of whack. don't go out and buy luxury items or a fancy new car if you have other things to do like make sure your health is right (regular checkups, full panel bloodwork, the dentist, etc.), getting your dream body, paying off high interest debt, working on your career and education, and investing aggressively (especially if you're in your 20s, this is the best decade for compound growth). it's very tempting to buy things for instant gratification (speaking from personal experience!) but the joy you feel doesn't last long. If I could do it again, I would use big ticket items like bags, nice clothes, silk scarves, huge extravagant trips, cars, jewelry, etc. as a reward for when I hit other milestones, such as graduating college, getting a job that skyrockets your income, hitting a certain number in investment accounts or business profits, hitting your goal weight, etc. and trust me, you will value it a lot more when you have put in the work to set yourself up for success.

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build a circle of friends who are genuine. who are safe energetically. who are mature spiritually. who hold space and not animosity. who hold compassion and not judgment. who take time to check on you and your process. who grow through life with you + wish you well.

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i love when i always end up returning home to God. i love when i get back in focus mode. i love when i work towards becoming the best young lady i can be. as this year wraps up, i need guidance and structure more than ever. asking God everyday to guide me closer to the path that is meant for me. living slowly and intentionally day by day.

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I am my own #1, my favorite girl, my biggest inspiration, and my only competition