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my dead goth son and his friendly neighborhood personified concept of insanity

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Mary Oliver, from “Hum Hum”, A Thousand Mornings

#depressionhope

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mustloveherbs

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Listen up!

You see a post like this? Where OP might hurt/kill themselves? You hit that button that I circled

Hit that.

Click Suicide or Self-harm Concern

Yes.

Fill in the rest of it, and hit submit. The "content you reported" will fill itself in

Tumblr will follow up and help them.

Warning: this is only for mobile. If anyone knows how to do this for desktop, please add it!

This could SAVE SOMEONE'S LIFE.

YOU HAVE NO EXCUSE NOT TO REBLOG THIS.

I DON'T GIVE A FUCK IF IT DOESN'T GO WITH YOUR BLOG'S THEME.

And yes, REBLOG. Liking does no shit at all. This isn't ig.

You reblog, people see it. You don't, people don't see it. This shit's that simple.

This could save someone's life. It's not a joke.

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Pierrot le Fou (1965)

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still thinking about this youtube comment i screenshotted ages ago

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people vaguely saying 'the horrors' as shorthand for 'life problems, don't worry about it' in conversations where the problems are not going to be delved into has got to be one of my favorite new Ways Of Speaking that has emerged. like it's polite and vague and succinct enough for impersonal conversation but also extremely honest. it's very funny. The Horrors. we all know of them.

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240219 kazuha ʚ♡ɞ smart le sserafim comeback showcase

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Romance Novel Tropes & Subgenres: a comprehensive list

This is a list that I made for myself so that I can try out the tropes that I like the most! If you're a romance writer who's confused about which trope they can do best, here's a list for you:

Friends-to-lovers

Enemies-to-lover

Forbidden love

Secret identity romance

Billionaire romance

Royalty/celebrity romance

Second chance

Soulmates/heartmates

Best friends' brother/sistercousin

Office romance

Anmesia/mistaken identity

Wedding fever - runaway bridges, best men, wedding planners

Fake relationship

High school/college romance

Sports romance

Holiday romance/flings

Forced proximity

Erotic romance

Religious/spiritual romance

LGBTQ+ romance

Historical romance

Fantasy romance

Romantic comedy

Young Adult romance

Social media/dating app romance

Belated love realization

Bad boy/Bad girl

Opposites attract

Work rivals

Age gap/reverse age gap

Damsel in distress

Revenge gone romantic

Dating service gone wrong

Love triangle

Unexpected abay

Arranged marriage

one-night stand gone romantic

blind date

childhoos sweethearts

Men in uniform

Long distance/pen pal relationships

Bully romance

secret admirer

Accidentally married

Sharing accomodation

Ugly duckling finds love

Suspect and investigator

Political marraige

Inheriting a property/shop

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adjacent advice: if you need more confidence, get a cool jacket or a haircut or something and think about how cool it makes you. this is loser advice, but we're all losers here. swallow your pride and roleplay as a cool guy and you'll become a cool guy.

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writing be like

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momom.bake

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On of the less intuitive things about love, I've found, of any kind, is the importance of needing things.

I didn't realize it until recently, but I've always seen love as something requiring sacrifice, selflessness, patience, and generosity- to ask for nothing is to be the best person I can be, small and quiet and never in the way, always happy and helpful, self-sufficient and present when desired.

It's only as an adult, now, that I'm beginning to see the selfishness of wanting nothing.

I cut my friend's hair in my kitchen the other day. They wanted a trim and I had the skills, so I offered, and was genuinely excited when they stopped hesitating over "bothering me" and took me up on it. It was a peaceful afternoon, and we had tea and chatted for an hour or more.

My brother and I shared popcorn at the movies a while ago. When I came time to pay, I pulled my card out like a wild western sheriff and slapped it on the machine before he could fight me for it first. The satisfaction was delightful.

Someone called me crying on the phone the other day. Kept apologizing for disturbing me at work, talking about how they were bothering me on my lunch break. I was telling the truth when I told them that really, I was flattered and honored and relieved, knowing that if they were hurting I would know, that I didn't have to worry in silence. It felt good to hear them slowly come down, and to know that they knew it would be better soon, and to hear them laugh wetly on the other end. We're getting together for a visit next week.

It's hard to need things, if you've trained yourself not to. It's hard to want things, when you don't know how to want anymore. Trusting people is difficult, and so is relying on them, but I don't know where I'd be without the people who rely on me.

I've heard a lot of people say, "Nobody will love you unless you love yourself". I've had a lot of thoughts about it. It's not right, but it's not wrong, either, I think.

"Nobody will love you unless you love yourself"... I've always taken that to mean, "You will not be lovable until you develop a positive view of yourself as a person".

Now, I think it's sort of inside-out.

"Nobody will love you unless you love yourself"... because nobody can show their love to you in a way that you can accept until you treat yourself kindly, and learn what you need, and what you want, and how to ask for it, and then give that vulnerability away.

Love, for me, is someone I ask for a ride to the airport. Whether they end up doing this or not is irrelevant.

It's not needy, or selfish, or taking up energy. It's giving the gift of being wanted, and needed, and thought of. It's giving someone the security of being part of someone's life.

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Watching a soft person come out of a family of insensitive and hard hearted people is like watching a little beam of sunshine come out on the rainiest days.No one ever actually moved the clouds for them,no one ever taught them kindness,it was a choice,one that they made every day.They didn’t just survive the bad days,they came out of it as a softer person.It’s not like the issues didn’t effect them,and it’s not like they didn’t cry rivers over it,but they knew better than to continue the cycle of pain and sadness.

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You touched me without even touching me.

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