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@ninotbh

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"cost of living crisis" give me a FUCKING break it's called "unprecedented corporate greed and income inequality" fucking cost of living crisis like it's just a natural or unexplainable phenomenon Christ

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so for those of you who don't know, I was recently diagnosed with ADHD-I. So far, I think my favourite thing that I've learned is the idea of "embrace the pivot".

Have you ever found a productivity system that works for you (whether it be your Google calendar, bullet journaling, agenda-ing, etc), and you're so pumped because it's like finally! Now I can actually get some stuff done! But then time passes, days or weeks or years, and the novelty of it runs out, and then it kind of just... Stops working. It can be so frustrating, because this thing that used to work no longer works for seemingly no reason.

But, that isn't a failing of the thing, that thing worked for a certain amount of time, and that's good! I used a massive agenda in my first year of uni, and it kept me on track for all my assignments. My second year agenda? Barely touched it. Instead, I started to use a bullet journal, and that was the thing that helped me through most of the year. But as time went on, my spreads got less creative, and in the final term, I didn't even want to touch it because it was too much work. So I switched to Notion.

The agenda didn't fail me, and neither did the bullet journal, it just worked for a certain amount of time. And when that time inevitably runs out, you can just say, "thank you for serving me for so long, I'm going to pivot to the next thing." And then you do it without feeling like you should try harder or like that thing failed you.

This doesn't just have to apply to productivity either. Systems, tools, habits, hobbies, coping mechanisms.. They all serve their purpose. It's okay to let them go when the time comes.

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someday you’ll be in a better place, with people who love you, and you will look back on all this and think “i’m glad i never gave up.”

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things are going to be difficult. But you

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Sophia Joan Short

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tonight it is the end of the world. i know. you are allowed to feel this way. but tomorrow morning, you will wake up, the sun will rise and you will drink your tea. and you will be okay. the world will keep spinning regardless of the feelings that are overwhelming you. allow yourself to breathe and take in the world around you. it is okay. you are safe.

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I know it will pass, but it's heavy

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I see (and agree with) your “you’re one bad month away from becoming homeless (so start redirecting your loyalty from billionaires to the working class)” and I raise you a “you’re one accident, one insect sting, one sudden mysterious illness, one virus from becoming permanently disabled (so start redirecting your sympathy from the able-bodied class to the disabled)”.

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thinking about this again

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healthy relationships are created, not found.

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i have a little switch in my head. its two settings are “do everything immediately” and “do nothing at all”. i do not control what the switch is set to, and there is no third setting

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Talking to doctors like:

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Eventually you’ll end up where you need to be, with who you’re meant to be with, and doing what you should be doing.

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Please don’t say that, “Well, it could have been worse...” I want you to stop and remember that it should have never happened at all

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freedom is important