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What’s the vibe of your new style?

Barbie but preppy

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“The moment you feel like you have to prove your worth to someone is the moment you absolutely and utterly have to walk away.”

— Alyssia Harris

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ohh every person you connect with is a gift..

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One day at a time

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This is not a fucking game, this is your actual life. Those mornings wasted scrolling as soon as you wake up for 1 hour plus are over. You’re done watching other peoples lives, because your life is about to become a highlight reel. YOU are the main character. YOU are living the life of your absolute dreams. YOU are finally making the moves you have been imagining. Your wardrobe FINALLY reflects everything you’ve been visualising. When you look in the mirror you feel like an absolute GODDESS, BEAUTIFUL, RADIANT. You wake up and feel so ENERGISED. You’ve created a life that excites you, that motivates you, that fulfils you. Feel it, breathe into it. It’s all yours babygirl. 

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The quality of your life completely depends on the quality of the people you allow to be around you

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Βάλε φωτιά σε ό,τι σε καίει σε ό,τι σου τρώει την ψυχή

Υπάρχει ακόμα υπάρχει κάτι που δεν έχει χαθεί

Είναι η αγάπη ένα ταξίδι από γιορτή σε γιορτή

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via weheartit

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via radiantsomatics

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idk who needs to hear this (myself) but stay focused, you not missing out on anything.

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When you just want one person to grow old with and do the most depraved, disgusting kinky shit with 😫

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Can you PLEASE share the list of characteristics your alter ego/dream self possesses?

*I purposefully made each quality as dramatic as possible because when there truly are no rules to who you can become, why not go all out?

Her Persona:

She is a go-getter. She identifies what she wants and finds a way to get it. The word "no" is simply not in her vocabulary.

She is an incredibly smart and astute worker. She is constantly coming up with new ideas and bringing them to life. Her ideas often involve other people, and she’s an expert at getting support from the powerful and connected.

Her charisma is unique and understated, never obvious. She has immeasurable confidence that makes her stand out from the crowd. In her presence, people feel inspired. They believe in her without quite knowing why.

She is very outspoken. She is always heard and her intense and commanding energy makes sure of this. She loves to debate because she always wins. She can outwit anyone and bewitch even the most neurotic person.

Her words carry meaning and inspiration. When she speaks, the world listens. When she listens, the world puts on its best show.

She moves gracefully and unhurriedly. Her time never seems to be taken up by work or tasks.

Her humor renders itself into a charm that is hard to resist.

She values her friendships and always has someone at her side.

She is always a student and has a knack for mastering new skills.

Her Career:

She adores her career and is the best that’s ever done it. Because she is a business owner, she is always in meetings, always on the move, always on the phone, always delegating tasks, and always on her game. She walks into her office like she owns the world, and never leaves until she’s satisfied.

She is a natural leader and expert entrepreneur. People are always looking to invest and collaborate with her, but she is picky. She wants only the best for her company, and only gets that. She never discusses her personal finances, but it’s not hard to tell that she is a millionaire many times over.

She knows all about the law of give and take. She puts her best work into her company, and her success affords her many luxuries.

She never overworks, but her career comes first. If you want her time, don’t expect it to come easily, she has priorities.

Despite the high powered nature of her career, it fuels her, makes her feel alive. When talking about her successes, she can go on for hours.

She’s always traveling for work, and has mastered the art of making foreign friends. In terms of her work, everything she touches turns to gold.

Her Romances:

She is ALWAYS dating. She believes in keeping her options open and having a great time with men on her level. She has a reputation of being a heart breaker; she loses interest quickly. She’s waiting for her perfect match and until she meets him, she’s keen on indulging in extravagant dates and weekend getaways.

She’s a master of seductive language and often startles many of her suitors with her extensive word bank and ability to nuance everything.

When she enters the room most men present believe it’s love at first sight. And if she uses this knowledge wisely, she can get whoever she wants, and whatever she wants from them.

She provides endless variety—tributes, expeditions, exciting parties. Everything has a touch of drama and is accompanied with a huge display.

Just when her suitors think they've possessed her, she turns distant or angry, making it clear that everything is on her terms.

Her Hobbies and Interests:

She’s an exercise enthusiast and engages in boxing, spinning, yoga, crossfit, and martial arts. Her trainer loves her because she knows how to escape her limits.

She is a master at manifestation. Everything she has, everything she is, is a product of her beliefs. She focus only on what she wants, and ignores the things she doesn’t.

She loves to explore and visit new places. She spends her weekends visiting museums, galleries, historical sites, and cathedrals.

She is a wonderful hostess and enjoys entertaining her friends, coworkers, investors, and partners in new and exciting ways.

Her home is awe-worthy. It's impeccable, warm, yet maintains a high-society elegance which makes it hard to leave.

Despite the fast paced nature of her life, she still finds time to meditate every morning and evening which keeps her cool and level-headed.

Her true passion is helping others: she is a philanthropist to her very core. She tries to fit in several service trips per year and is involved in many charitable causes. Last year she started her first foundation—it’s thriving.

Her Physical Appearance:

Her hair can be described as long, rich, silky, and golden-hued.

She keeps a clean diet to maintain her svelte, model-like figure.

Her eyes are where her true beauty lies. They reveal excitement, tension, and detachment, without a word being spoken. Her demeanor may be poised and calm, but her eyes are magnetic; they have a piercing gaze that disturbs her targets' emotions, exerting force without words or action.

She embodies elegance in every regard. She’s always put together in a pristine outfit. Her aura makes people want to sit up straighter, fix their own hair, and pull their shoulders back.

Her presence causes people to stare in awe. She is a natural beauty, but her energy, style, and confidence make a goddess.

Her voice is rhythmic and intoxicating. She speaks so enchantingly that listeners find themselves entranced not what she said but how she said it.

Lovingly,

Elle

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Lessons I Learned from Boarding School (+Tips!!)

*I've gotten a ton of requests for this kind of post so here you guys go! Sorry for the delay :)

The people you associate with will determine the trajectory of your life.

This is by far the most important lesson I learned in boarding school. Truth is, you don't need to be all that impressive of a person. You don't need to be smart, ultra-beautiful, or enchanting in any way. Why? Because if you only associate with people who possess these qualities, others will automatically assume you are just as top-notch. Having the right friends can grant you the right jobs, connections, vacations, and partnerships. While I've never been hyper-outgoing, when I was in boarding school I physically forced myself to get out there and make friends with elite people because that's the kind of crowd I wanted to be associated with. And my God, I have no idea where I'd be if I hadn't.

Don't trust anyone explicitly.

It doesn't matter how tight your circle is, you've got to keep your deepest darkest secrets to yourself. I've seen far too many people get kicked out of school simply by getting too comfortable and sharing their secrets with the wrong crowd. When it came to matters of alcohol, drugs, or cheating (which everyone dabbled in at some point), the unspoken rule was to keep your mouth shut. Now, as a grown adult I don't tell anyone my secrets unless I can live with the consequences of them getting out. And if I have to disclose something ultra-personal it's not going to be to a close friend because in the words of Robert Greene, “A former enemy will be more loyal than a friend, because he has more to prove. In fact, you have more to fear from friends than from enemies. ”

Build relationships wherever you can.

I don't just mean with the richest, smartest, most beautiful people--I mean with everyone. At boarding school, I learned that you can gain value from literally anyone and by being picky with relationships you're only hurting yourself. Throughout my four years away I built connections with people from different all backgrounds and even grew close to my professors and various members of the maintenance staff. As a result, I gained a globalized perspective of the word, maintained an excellent GPA, and didn't get in trouble for accidentally letting a few boys into my dorm room. So please, don't turn your nose up to people just because they're not your traditional type. Instead, be cordial and build a pleasant relationship with them because they might just be your saving grace at some point.

Don't run from loneliness.

No, I didn't have my entire life figured out between the ages of 14 and 18. I struggled with feelings of isolation and loneliness on a daily basis. In the beginning it was tough, and I wanted to be anywhere but away at school. After a while, however, I decided to relinquish the fear of being alone and instead use that time to learn myself. I no longer sulked at the idea of not being invited to a party on a Friday night, but instead got excited about being able to spend that time watching a documentary. And it was absolutely refreshing. I learned everything I know now about self-improvement, seduction, hypergamy, art, and romance during my deepest moments of loneliness. So please please please don't think your life is over because you're not the "it girl". That time will come and until it does, your job is to face your loneliness head-on and figure out how to use it constructively.

You can't have it all.

At my boarding school, there was this saying that went something like "Everyone wants three things: good grades, sleep, and a social life. But it's only possible to have two at a time. You can have good grades and sleep well, but it'll cost you your social life. You can sleep well and have a great social life, but it will cost you your grades, etc." Having gone through it, I absolutely believe this to be a fact not just about boarding school/college, but about life. It's simply not possible to juggle a booming social life, a successful career, a fulfilling relationship, and a 40-step wellness routine. You are going to fall short in some areas and that's completely okay! Take life in strides, give your attention to a few of these areas at a time. Most importantly: focus on progress, not perfection.

Don't try to prove yourself.

If someone doesn't want you in their circle and they make that clear, don't try to convince them otherwise. Cut your losses and move on, because there will be no changing their mind. Will it hurt? Yes. But promptly exiting will save you the massive headache and embarrassment of trying to make the impossible possible. When I was at school there were times when I was literally chewed up and spit out by certain groups. After a while I just got so tired of trying to fit their mold that I just gave up. And guess what? Life got so much better. So yes, having an elite crew to surround yourself with is important but not at the expense of your mental or emotional health. Find friends that inspire you to be better and appreciate you for who you are, not for who they want you to be.

You can't succeed with a short attention span.

I know we've stepped into a new technology era, but the dirty secret they don't tell you about Tiktok and Instagram is that these apps are designed to get you addicted by ruining your attention span. Going to a boarding school that held classes 6 days per week and required no less than 5 hours of homework per night really taught me to lengthen the Hell out of my attention span stat. I don't know where I'd be in life if I couldn't sit down and work for a few hours at a time without picking up my phone to scroll through social media. And you better believe that the most successful people in this world are not phone addicts and can sustain long periods of focus. So if you feel your attention span diminishing, delete Tiktok and start retraining your mind to quiet down and not wander.

To be successful, you have to be competitive.

I had to learn this lesson the hard way. I wanted to believe that entering boarding school was going to be like joining one big happy family but truly, it wasn't. People were competitive as hell and given the choice between helping me succeed and kicking me down to get to the top, 90% would choose the ladder without a second thought. Now that I'm in college and beginning to navigate more exclusive settings, I'm learning that competition is just a fact of life. So if you want to reach the highest of heights, you have to learn to be competitive. You're not going to get the best job, the most money, the fittest body, etc. without working really hard and excelling. I'm by no means saying you have to see everyone as a threat, but I am saying that in this world, success is earned not given.

Lovingly,

Elle

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PLEASE share your furyher study habits/ a typical study day with us! How do you go about staying on top of your class? With dealing with competitors? Aloof professors? Finding free time all in-between? Going stress free? I'm about to study soon at uni and I belive many of your followers are young too!🙇🏾‍♀️🎓

Okay Anon, let's get into it 👩🏽‍🎓👩🏾‍💻

My general study habits:

I give myself exactly 2 weeks to prepare for tests/exams. I've found that I have to be anal about when I begin or else I just put it off. The first week of studying I'll do 30 minutes per night, and the week before the exam I'll study 1 hour per night. That's typically plenty of time for me, no matter how big the exam is. I also never cram before anything, ever. The night before an exam I'm putting in my usual hour of review and then going to bed early.

I begin writing essays 1-2 weeks before they're due. If an essay is 5 pages, I'll give myself a week to write it and will cover about a page per day. If it's 8-10 pages, I'll give myself a whole two weeks, and again, do about a page per day.

I follow a very strict study schedule: I study at the same time every day, in the same location. I find that following a schedule encourages me to actually get to work when the time comes. No surprises.

I try to work smarter, not harder. If there's one thing that boarding school taught me, it's how to cut academic corners. My majors are very reading-heavy, and to be honest, I don't do those readings unless I know I'm going to be questioned about them or tested on them the next day. I have no time to be reading for 2+ hours per night when I don't need to. Instead, I'll skim for 15 minutes, and during class I'll just go to the parts of the reading being referred to and read them then so I can contribute. But disclaimer, your ability to do this really depends on the class, your professor, and your experience level. I've been doing this since I was 14 so I know exactly how to participate in a discussion-based class having done absolutely none of the reading. Use discretion.

I use Sparknotes, Cliffnotes, and Litcharts. AMAZING resources for someone who needs to fully understand a book to the point of being able to write an essay about it, but has no time to actually read said book. In my experience, I'm actually able to gain more from reading a summary/analysis of a chapter on Sparknotes than reading the actual chapter of the actual book. But again, use discretion.

I get rid of all distractions. I don't trust myself to not grab my phone every 3 minutes when it's on my desk, so when I'm studying I'll throw it on my bed. My desk is in front of a window that faces a central part of campus so when studying I close my blinds partially to prevent me from getting distracted by what's happening outside. I play classical or ambient music in the background because again, I don't trust myself to not start turning up when a song I like comes up on my everyday playlist. If I go to the library to study, I'll find a private room to work in so I don't run into anyone I know that could distract me.

I go to my college writing center to have every written assignment checked. While I'm pretty good at writing at this point in my college career, there's always room for improvement. So before every essay, lab report, etc. is due, I'll have it checked by a writing tutor to make sure it makes sense and doesn't have any errors. And mind you, I worked as a writing center tutor for two years.

I use Quizlet. I find Quizlet to be a lot better than using paper flashcards because it offers so many more ways to study that, in my opinion, work better. And before making a study set I always check to see if I can study from a premade one. Nine times out of ten I can.

I talk to students that previously took my class: This is SO helpful. I always try to find someone that already took the course and can give me some insight early on in the semester. I can't tell you how many classes I've dropped after hearing horror stories from former students.

I meet with TAs (teaching assistants) every chance I get: I LOVE TAs because they're always in a rush, never really trying to explain anything fully, and will be very willing to give you the answers to a problem set/exam if you ask them.

A typical study day for me:

It really depends on where I am in the semester, but I typically study/do homework every night from 8:00 PM to around 11:00 PM, but of course there are exceptions (like currently, it's 11 PM and I'll probably be working for the next 3-4 hours, but tomorrow will be a lighter day for me so I'm okay with staying up late). And on weekends, I typically give myself a break on Saturdays and work from about 11:00 AM-6:00 PM on Sundays with a few breaks for other meetings. I like getting the quick/easy assignments out of the way first then moving over to the hard stuff.

How I stay organized:

I put all of my assignments/due dates in Google Calendar. I have a few paper planners but I find it a lot easier to write things down and cross them off in Google Calendar. Every Sunday night I'll put everything for the week down in calendar and every night before bed I'll check off what I've done for the day. I'm also really anal about how I record my assignments in calendar. Instead of just putting down: "write essay" for Monday, I'll put down "write essay for 45 minutes: create thesis and outline, and find all quotations", etc.

How I deal with aloof/flakey professors:

I just go to office hours every week! That way I have 15-30 minutes of face-to-face communication with them and can get all of my questions out of the way. Even if I don't really have anything to address, I find that by just being there professors will be that much more willing to give me insight into what to expect for future assignments. Also, I do travel a lot during the semester and often miss classes, so attending office hours allows me to catch up on missed work and finesse my professors into not docking my grade for missing a quarter of the semester :)

How I manage stress:

I find that being very organized and not allowing myself to procrastinate prevents me from getting stressed! There are never surprises, never staying up until 3 AM to finish an assignment, never last-minute studying. With an organized schedule, it's also very easy to find pockets of free time!

If I'm particularly overwhelmed and can't help myself on my own, I have no qualms about going to a professor, telling them I'm having some issues keeping up, and asking for help. Putting the ball in the professor's court allows them to come up with a plan for you that typically involves them giving you an extension that won't sacrifice your grade.

How I deal with competitors:

Short answer: I don't. There's really no reason to find out the grades other people are getting. It only distracts me and of course, if they're doing well and I'm not, it's hard to not get down on myself. No one knows my GPA except my mother (because she's an immigrant and demands to know these things), and I don't know anyone else's GPA. I'm not sure what the case is for other schools/majors but generally, one's grade in a class doesn't affect other's grades so there's really no point in trying to figure out how you're ranking compared to others.

Hope that helps!

Lovingly,

Elle

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I truly don’t understand people who don’t want prenups and postnup amendments for their marriage. Do you have nothing to protect? You have nothing you’re building or would like to build later on? Really?

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Delayed gratification leads to a life worth living [mini vlog]