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[askagni]

Good evening! My husband and I enjoy chastity play, but we've never really gotten too far beyond minimal device chastity. He discovered your site months ago and has been bugging me to read through it. Now that I have... Well, let's just say I am quite... Intrigued. Here is my problem: I really want to have some kids, and we are ready to do so. How do I merge both of these desires without ruining one or the other?

Good morning! Thank you for reaching out!

Kids are wonderful aren’t they? I would like to have some of my own, someday. I very much understand the concern that chastity play could interfere with that goal. I would say that, at least for beginners like you, you can have both!

The first thing to remember is that you hold the keys, therefore you make the rules. This might mean he doesn’t get out as frequently as he likes. It might mean that he gets out more frequently than his enflamed mind craves. But that’s okay. You control the timing.

As you probably know, those five days before ovulation and the day after are your main chances for hitting the mark. I would recommend releasing him for one orgasm about three days before that six-day range. Then shoot for having sex every day of that range, keeping him locked in the off hours.

After that, you can safely keep him locked for the next 19 days before trying again the following month. You can play around with the numbers to see what gives him the best chances of ejaculating all six days.

If you have irregular periods or you’re not able to accurately identify the day of ovulation, you may just want to have intercourse at you’re own schedule. That’s just fine! You can unlock him whenever you want. You can keep him locked all other times.

Many men trying to help their partners conceive, even with good intentions, are often tempted to relieve the pressure on their own, behind her back. Chastity can actually help you get pregnant by preventing that sort of cheating.

Of course, when you do get pregnant and eventually have a baby, there will be many months when you are not up for sex. Wonderful times to keep him locked and serving you tirelessly.

Best of luck!

[askagni]

Kink Outing Stories

Over the years I’ve collected dozens of accounts of people who were outed as kinky by circumstances beyond their control. With the permission of the authors I have reproduced some of my favorites here. (A few I’ve heavily redacted or summarized.) Enjoy!

When I was a freshman my roommate came into my room and said, “Oh my *** Sue! Mark was in your room and he totally saw your vibrator!”

I replied, “Are you kidding me? Where was it?”

To which she replied “I was kidding, girl! So sorry, I didn’t think you actually had one!”

Oh, I had one alright. I actually had three. But I was pissed that she tricked me and I felt weird around her for weeks. We’re cool now. We laugh about it.

Vibrators have this special way of wriggling out into the open.

We heard that we should sanitize our sex toys every so often so we decided to run them through the dishwasher once a month. One day I loaded it up with dildos, plugs and two chastity cages, started it, then went out for a run. I ran into some friends and took longer than expected to get back home. When I opened the machine there was a cup sitting there on the rack that I hadn’t noticed before. I inspected it and, to my horror, it was a freshly used cup, still wet with orange juice. I suddenly remembered that my mom was supposed to come over to pick up our dog. The next time I saw her she smirked and said, “Tell me again why I don’t have any grandkids yet.” -D

Gotta respect him for keeping his gear clean.

My ex and I used to play tie up games long after we had broken up. She would leave me tied up naked in the basement and go out for the afternoon shopping or visiting her sister which was an hour drive away. I was never left tied for more than four or five hours. But on this day five hours passed, then six. I was getting very nervous and I really had to pee. At last, at about the seven hour mark, I heard the kitchen door open and someone come in. A few minutes later the basement door opened and in walked my ex’s friend. She was bright red and she explained that my ex’s car had broken down and she had it towed to the shop but it wouldn’t be fixed until morning. This friend is surprisingly nice to me now days. -R

You know how I feel about ex-play. Exes don’t really care if you are humiliated because it no longer reflects upon them. So much riskier. So exciting!

It was the second floor but the first floor was half underground. That means the second story windows were at eye-level of anyone walking on the sidewalk. And being a college apartment, it was a busy sidewalk at all hours of the day. Anyway, I got home late from the library and it was dark. I went inside and since my roommate was gone for a week I just stripped naked, except my chastity cage, of course. After lounging around for an hour or so I got ready for bed. Only then did I notice that the blinds were slightly open and turned “up” so that anyone on the sidewalk could see right in. Who knows how many people saw. When my friend started calling me “KinkyKade” I knew she was one of the ones who saw. -KK

Open blinds are a common one. I probably have half a dozen more like that. Check your window dressing folks. Or don’t.

When I wore my husband’s chastity keys on a necklace to a block party, my nosy best friend demanded to know what they were for. I stupidly replied, “Oh, they’re for a filing cabinet.” She was skeptical, to say the least. Later, whenever she’d see the keys on my keychain she’d say, “You know, one of these days I’m going to figure out what those keys are for.” She started getting more and more vocal, bringing it up in public conversation. Finally one day I just blurted out, “They’re the keys to Dan’s chastity device, okay? I lock up his dick for fun. Satisfied?” She smiled like a cat and said, “Very.”

Don’t keep secrets from your besties.

All the basketball players had to get a physical each year before the season started. Junior year my girl and I were starting to explore chastity. We kept it on for one week intervals but in summer she wanted to go longer because I wouldn’t be able to wear it as long during the season. I said, “You're going to let me out before the doctor visit, right?” and she would say, “Yeah, Of course. But I bet they’ve seen it all before. It wouldn’t shock them.” Sure enough, when the day arrived, she had been mad at me for something and, even though we made up, she still said, “Looks like you’ll be going to the doc in the lock.” Direct quote. 

The sports doctor was a woman, which was actually a little easier. I think it would have been more embarrassing if it were a man. She was attractive, I remember she had straight brown hair. She was maybe 45. When she did the whole hernia check she had me move the robe aside. I was blushing like crazy and looking up at the ceiling. But she didn’t flinch, didn't say anything at all. Just finished her check. At the very end, before I got my clothes back on, she sort of waved her hand over my crotch and said, “Is this painful at all? Is it causing you any trouble urinating?” I squeaked, “it's fine!” It was actually a big relief to address the topic and that she wasn’t angry or freaking out. She said, “it looks like your skin in there is healthy. May I ask if it is consensual? Can you remove it if you want to?” I didn’t realize then that she was maybe trying to decide if I was a victim of some kind of abuse. I just said, “Well, it’s my girlfriend’s idea. So no, not really. But I��m fine with it.” She asked me some more questions about how long I wore it and gave some advice about letting erections happen at night but besides that it wouldn’t be a problem. Then she smiled and stood up and said, “Aright Mr. Roberts, you’re all set. You can get dressed now. We'll call you when your lab results are done. Have a great season! And take care of your girlfriend!”

Doctor visits are one of the most common of all. As a member of the medical field, I can decidedly say that indeed, nothing shocks a doctor and indeed, they do swap stories like mad.

My wife and I met at a religious school in the west. We never got much time alone because men and women had separate housing and there were all these rules about members of the opposite sex not being allowed in the apartment after certain times. So we spent a lot of time going on long walks in the mountains and making out every chance we could. If you’ve never been a conservative 20yo in love then this may not make sense to you, but you get soooooo sexually frustrated when you can’t go all the way. I finally asked my gf if we could try a strap-on because it’s not technically breaking the rules because no genitals are involved. To her credit she was cool with it. I took an uber to a nearby dirty store and bought one.

...

We found a little shady spot far from the trail and put a blanket down. The first time was exciting but kind of so-so because it was so new and we were so nervous. The second time, a few weeks later, was much better. The third time the feeling was amazing. We were getting into a rhythm and she held my hips and thrusted. She even took her top off. She was really getting into it. Then suddenly we heard voices. We turned to see another couple round the bend of a higher, overgrown trail that we didn’t know was there. I still remember the feeling of my wife’s strap-on as it slowly came to rest all the way in. The other couple was about ten yards away when they noticed us. The young man said, “Hey.” and my wife and I both replied, “Hey.” 

As soon as they were out of sight we heard them erupt into laughter. My wife was mad and embarrassed but, to my surprise, she resumed thrusting, harder and faster until I exploded for the first time from a strap-on.

We’re married now and we still live in the same state and we still go out to the woods for pegging sessions. The strap-ons are bigger now and it’s pretty much the only way we have sex, even though there are no more restrictions now that we're married. Years after this experience she confessed that it had become one of her biggest fantasies and she dreams of being discovered again.

You come across interesting things out in nature, don’t you?

Have you ever been unintentionally outed? What’s your story?

#kink #outing #chastity #pegging #strapon #strap-on #nature #secret

[askagni]

Is there any safe way to get out of hypnotic chastity? I listened to a chastity file a year ago and don't remember the hypnotists name. Now I can only get hard when I'm dozing off or just waking up. The second I am fully awake... BOOM! I become bonerless for the rest of the day.

Mmmm, yes. That’s a familiar situation. 

Once you’re snared by hypnotic chastity, it can be insurmountably difficult to free yourself. That difficulty really depends on your hypnotist. Do you know who she is? (In your case no.) Do you still have contact with her? (Also no.) Do you know what she wants or what her intentions for you are? (Sigh. Nope.) Getting in your hypnotist’s good graces is the best way to earn release.

If, as in your situation, you no longer have access to your hypnotist, it may be quite challenging to break free. Did she implant triggers in your head that make you go soft or that make you unable to touch? Are these triggers things that happen in everyday life so that you are constantly triggered to be chaste? Things such as seeing a pretty woman, hearing a bell ring, trying to touch yourself or even just waking from sleep. Did she set it up so that every time you are hypnotically compelled to be chaste the suggestions are reinforced? Are they getting stronger and stronger? Did she implant the suggestions that you are not able to seek help from or even listen to other hypnotists? Did she wrap all of this up in an amnesia suggestion so that your conscious mind can’t quite remember what she said when you were deep in trance?

If so then, my friend, you might be stuck. The more you try to escape, the deeper her hooks will sink into you. Honestly, the best chance you have is to just embrace chastity as your new reality.

Enjoy!

[askagni]

What happens to permanently locked lost boys who upset you? Do you cut them off? On this theme... what is the cruelest thing you’ve ever done to a chastity?

I don’t get upset. Not by boys, anyway. There is something very satisfying about pressurizing a boy’s head with twisted chastity lust until it inflates like a balloon and he just floats away into the stratosphere. Without a way to depressurize or deflate, I can’t help but wonder what heady adventures the currents of desire will bring.

[askagni]

How many boys do you have locked up? You probably don’t have an exact number but is it like a hundred, five hundred, a thousand?

The boys I currently hold keys for? It’s closer to a hundred. The boys I’ve ever locked or helped lock? Probably above five hundred. I ran a chastity website for years so lots of keys went through that P.O. Box.

[askagni]

Interview with Listen to Lisa

Hi fellas. You may recall that last year I introduced you to my friend, Listen to Lisa. Back then I told you I’d be doing a little interview with her so you could get to know her better. Many of you submitted questions and I finally got them to her and she’s responded. Let’s hear what she has to say about chastity, hypnosis and herself, shall we?

What's your favorite food?

I love Thai food! But if I had to narrow my favorite food to one dish I’d have to say mashed potatoes and gravy. I make a killer chicken gravy.

If you could visit any place in the world for a week, where would you go?

Hands down... Disney World. Are these answers sexy enough yet? Haha. I could have made up some sexier foods and destinations, but I have to be 100% candid.

What drew you to hypnosis?

Even as a young lady I knew that I had a knack for utilizing the power of suggestion. Before I knew what to call it I was doing it. Using my words, my tone and my non-verbals to influence a favorable outcome came naturally to me. Before committing more time to this I worked in the mental health field for nearly a decade. I’m sure you can already imagine how many skills are easily transferable between the fields. Therapy techniques I’d been mastering for years only proved to make me even more potent when it came to mind control and covert suggestion. But most importantly I was drawn to hypnosis because it was and still is a major turn on for me. I often sit back and gush at the thought that somewhere in the world one of you are listening to me at this very moment. I envision the way you look when you cross the barrier between autonomy and mindless stroker. 

What is a Fuck Boy in Training (FBIT)?

A fuckboy is a man who is a play thing for me. It’s a term of endearment but also a term which I proudly admit is used to objectify. I know it’s very unpopular right now to suggest someone be objectified- primarily when it comes to women right? Well I’ve found that the type of men who flock to me have been waiting their entire lives for a woman to objectify them. They want to be of service, they want to be used, they yearn to be played with.

If you are my Fuckboy you’re in a very elite circle of men who have proven themselves worthy of my time, my attention and most importantly they’ve earned the privilege of helping me satisfy my own sexual needs. Now, a fuckboy in training is a newcomer who hasn’t yet earned their capital “F”. They are in training, they are being groomed, they are having to consistently prove themselves worthy. They are being put to use and bit by bit I’m teaching them how to please me. Only I will determine when a fuckboy in training (FBIT) has earned Fuckboy status. But earning that comes with incredible perks and most importantly real purpose. It’s fair to say that I have way more FBITs than I do Fuckboys at any given time. But training is most of the fun anyways don’t ya find?

Do you offer real-time hypnosis sessions over the phone or skype?

I do yes. I don’t do any cam work, but I do use Skype as my primary platform for messaging and for hypnochat. In fact, I find hypnochat is much more potent and enjoyable than live phone calls. If you’re not sure what hypnochat is, it’s essentially a tool I created to skillfully control and mindfuck the...participant. Using a messenger platform (preferably Skype messenger) I use a combination of text, audio clips and visuals to completely control you. I take you down deeper and deeper (Listen to Lisa) until I can easily manipulate your strings and turn you into my dutiful little puppet. Oh my did that trigger you random reader? Ahem, so yes hypnochat is by far my favorite medium.

Do you offer custom recordings? Are they hypnosis?

Yes I do offer custom recordings! Hypno is my speciality of course, but what exactly Hypno means depends on the person. That’s why I’m very methodical when it comes to asking the right questions before creating the content. There is no cookie cutter approach in my method, it’s all very personalized.

Do you offer real hypnosis?

I’m still trying to figure out what that means exactly. I’ve heard the term and have asked some of my FBITs (Fuck Boys in Training) what they mean by that and I’m still not clear. So, since I’m not really sure how to define it I’ll just say this: Those who walk away from one of my recordings or from an interaction find themselves affected deeply. Sometimes for hours, days WEEKS my words stick with them. I’m met daily with messages from my listeners who tell me they just can’t get me (or my triggers) out of their head.  I’ve noticed some hypnodommes spend an inordinate amount of time in the “Induction Phase” i.e.. “breathe deeply until the count of ten, you’re getting more and more relaxed, now your toes and relaxed, now your ankles are relaxed- and on and on. I find that repetitive and dull and only so effective. I like to get to the “meat” of the content so that the overall experience is much more interesting and potent.

Where can we hear a sample of your voice?

Check out my YouTube 

Do you use hypnosis for the purposes of chastity play? How long do you keep boys locked up?

I’ve used elements of chastity in my recordings and directly with my FBITs for quite some time i.e. restrictions on masturbation, denied orgasm/play, planting ideas and triggers which make it so the subject can’t cum unless I’ve unlocked him. Some of my very intense recordings have made it so that you actually physically feel the chastity device there, or are unable to touch because you literally can’t penetrate this mental forcefield I’ve created.

I’ll be honest that it’s only been more recently that I’ve become more knowledgeable of the world of chastity- thanks to Agni and this blog for sure! I do have a mental chastity recording for sale and am working on more as we speak. I also have many FBITs who engage in regular hypnochat that involves mental chastity. I’d say the longest I’ve kept someone locked was about 17 days.

What is your philosophy on male chastity?

Well, like I said, I’m still leaning more about this very exciting (for lack of a better term) kink. I’m not sure if I’m worthy yet of spouting my philosophy. What I will say is that chastity genuinely excites me. Some of my happiest FBITs have been denied release for quite some time.

My wife isn't interested in chastity. Will you be my key holder?

I’m always open to discussing how my Hypno skills relating to mental chastity might work for you, but I don’t think I’ll be moving into a physical key holder position any time soon.

My wife is interested in chastity but cages don't work for my body. Would you be willing to work with me toward hypnotic chastity such that my wife could control the "keys"?

Yes yes yes! I’m working with several people right now who have asked for the same thing.

What are your biggest turn-ons? Anything unique or quirky?

I’ve always had a fetish for male masturbation. I’ve always been really turned on by watching, listening or telling a guy how to jerk off for me. My Niteflirt profile goes into a lot more detail about that https://www.niteflirt.com/Listen_to_Lisa. I talk about this a lot too, but I’m aroused on a daily basis whenever I think about the fact that a complete stranger is listening to my voice at this very moment. That I have complete control over someone I’ve never met and don’t even know exist yet. I’ve offered an add on to my audio recordings for a while now that no one has jumped on yet. For an extra cost I allow you to send me a video of yourself listening to my recordings. I’d love to be a fly on the wall watching you Listen to Lisa. I hope someone bites soon because it would most definitely be some good masturbation material for myself!

Do you work with people outside of the US?

As long as they have a way to communicate and are able to utilize one of my various payment options, sure.

What's the cruelest thing you've done to a sub?

This probably depends on what one thinks might be cruel. I’ve put out there since the very beginning that I am not the bitchy bratty sailor mouthed type Domme. I don’t get into yelling or degrading or intense humiliation. Now don’t get it twisted, when you’re on my time I have no problem setting the pace and tone and telling you exactly what is expected. That being said, a few things that come to mind are: forcing a FBIT to taste their precum/eat their cum, keeping a FBIT in chastity much longer than they anticipated. I’ve also turned many FBITs into clickboys- unable to stroke unless they are actively clicking (tributing).

What's the nicest thing you've done for a sub?

Lisa takes care of her FBITs when they are deserving. A good fuckboy in training is deserving of pleasure. And I’m good at birthday presents for loyal FBITs.

I see you do findom? Do you always do findom or can someone opt out of that and just pay for other content?

I’m in no way a Findom specific Domme. That being said, using money or other Findom related tactics is just one of many tools in my belt. Again, I’m very proud of the effort I put into getting to know newcomers and therefore figuring out which buttons feel good when they’re pushed and which buttons are likely to make someone shut down/break trance. But let’s be honest here, money is power and giving up money is so closely related to giving up power. It’s not for everyone, but some come to enjoy engaging in that type of power play to some extent. I don’t kill the goose for the golden eggs. It’s not advantageous for me to be irresponsible with my skills and cause someone to hurt themselves financially. It’s a delicate balance but you’re in good hands with Lisa ;)

Do you have any fun stories about femdom, chastity or hypnosis you want to share?

Well a story that comes to mind is something that happened quite recently. I needed to rent a car and made some arrangements online to rent an economy model for the day. When I got to the Enterprise that day I was met by a very vulnerable young man at the counter. I can just sniff it out ya know? The moment I met him I knew he could be very easily manipulated. Long story short, I drove out in a 2018 Mustang convertible but only paid for my economy package. In the system I’d still paid for the rental, but he handed over those Mustang keys completely unaware that had been brainwashed. For all I know he didn’t even bat an eye when he saw me roll out in that $300 a day ride.

Find out my Top 5 Hypnosis Tricks

Thank you Lisa!

#chastity #lisa #listen_to_lisa #friend #hypnosis #hypnodomme

[askagni]

Do you ever actually wear any of your keys? Like in your profile picture. If yes, how often?

Of course! I do it all the time. I admit that I get a little sloppy these days. When I started I had one precious key (not counting the spare buried in the garden, I think it’s still there). I would wear it EVERYWHERE. Then I got a second boy and I wore both keys. (Talk about jealously from Boy1!) But as I got more boys and that first boy slowly became like all the rest and I couldn't very well wear a chain mail shirt made of keys. So I started rotating and taking turns. Over time I just sort of lost track of whose keys I was wearing.

I’ve made bracelets, anklets, earrings, necklaces, hair pins, nipple clamps...you name it I’ve put a key on it. I think my favorite was a pair of sandals. Oh, and there is a belt that has a key near the buckle. Creativity.

Wearing your keys to tease the hell out of you is fun and all, but I mostly do it to spark conversation with other women. Gotta spread the good word.

I say I get sloppy with my keys because we know boys, that the true key is in your head, isn't it. It’s tucked deeply away in those brain cells somewhere you can’t get to it. It keeps you coming back again and again, each time losing more autonomy until you don’t ever feel the need to walk free again.

[askagni]

Do any of your locked boys ever complain you are not mean enough as a key holder? In terms of length locked, humiliation or any other way?

Hee hee. I don’t think I’ve ever gotten that complaint. At least not for serious. Maybe early on in the game before the reality sets in, boys might try to provoke an extra punishment from me. But when the punishments get real, so do the humility and contrition.

[askagni]

Join the rest of us on bdsmlr.

Cum to the dark side, Luke!

[askagni]

I seem to only get hard when I am tied up or being thrown around. Is this the cause of hypnosis?

It’s possible. Have you been listening to any hypnosis files lately? One of the devious things erotic hypnotists like to do is prevent you from recalling what went on in the session. They can’t erase it, but they can do an excellent job of not letting you access it.

If you find yourself salivating whenever you see a banana or getting hard when you hear a bell, you might have been hypnotized. If you find yourself getting up off the floor after apparently humping the furniture to climax, you might have been hypnotized. If you find mysterious charges on your credit card that you can’t quite focus on long enough to remember what they were, you might have been hypnotized. If you find you go to grab your cock and forget what you were about to do half way there, you might have been hypnotized. If you find that cleaning house is becoming more enjoyable than sex and you’d rather just do that, you might have been hypnotized (and your wife probably had something to do with it.) If staying locked in chastity longer and longer is all that gets you hard anymore, you might have been hypnotized. If you find yourself inexplicably drawn to listen to hypnosis files, even files you’ve heard many times before, you might have been hypnotized.

Any of this sound familiar?

#YMHBH

[askagni]

Long time, first time. I (28yo) have mild porn induced ED. Do you think a cage will help?

A cage will definitely help restore sensitivity as long as you leave it on for a few weeks at a time and when you do take it off, only for one day.

As far as ED, I don’t think a cage is going to cure ED. But you just might be so horny when you do get let out that you’ll be able to keep it harder longer.

[askagni]

I’m very intrigued by your blog. When you’re out in the world interacting with new people, how do you decide who is going to receive your particular kind of influence? Do you prefer a challenge of initial resistance or do you prefer guys who willingly walk into your world thinking* they know what they’re getting into. Thanks, N.

Very good question. I’m basically always prodding. Always looking for a weakness. It’s a weakness of mine. I take on too many guys because I can’t help turn down an opportunity.

I enjoy locking the easy prey because, well, it’s easy. But I also enjoy a challenge. The alpha macho guys aren’t as much of a challenge as you’d think. They’re just as willing to put their dick into dark places for a pretty face as any guy. The athlete, the mathlete, the businessman, the insurance adjuster, the programmer, the cosplay nerd. (I use the term nerd with much love.) It's all about the same.

I do enjoy locking writers, philosophers, economists and scientists just a bit more. The tend to get so philosophical when they're experiencing crushing desperation. I love to see those sweet minds grapple with the sexual suffering.

The real challenge is locking up a gay guy. That’s a personal fav and I’ve done it many times. If you thought sucking dick to get unlocked was mean, you should see when I make a gay dude lick pussy. Very delightful.

[askagni]

I've read and re-read all of your posts probably 50 times now. I keep refreshing several times per day tot see if you will post anything new. I am so tempted to buy a device but know based on your writing that I'd end up as someone's version of a lost boy. It scares the crap out of me but turns me on so much so I'm stuck in this middle point of wanting to cave into it but grateful I don't have a keyholder or I'd dive right in. Sigh I feel like I need to either do it or stop reading

Teetering right on the edge. All it would take is for a cute girl to say, “that’s pretty hot. Would you wear it for me?” Then you’d topple head-first down, down into the bottomless abyss of chastity bliss.

[askagni]

I am 21 years old and I want to be locked. I have never had sex before. And also I have never have a girlfriend. What do you think?

I think that if you want it, nothing can stop you from getting it. I think your penis will find it’s way into a cage one way or another. I think you’ll love it more and more as time goes by. You may look back someday and wish you would have at least had one girlfriend and maybe a little sex, but you won’t worry too much about it. Your cage is your ever-faithful partner. Or perhaps you are her faithful servant.

When the time eventually comes, 80 years from now, that they lay you down in your grave, you will have the unique distinction of being buried with your partner right there with you. (The mortician might be a little confused but who cares.)

[askagni]

I can swear I saw someone identical to the cartoons on your blog. Are you in Cali ?

Why, yes I am.

[askagni]

Do you think that 18 years is too soon to start chastity? Some other keyholders told me that they didn’t want to lock me because of my age, what do you think?

Hmm. Hmmmmmmm.

Hmmmmmmmmmmm.

That’s a tough one. 18 is certainly the very lowest you would want to go. Personally, I would wait until you’ve done at least 3 of the following:

1) Turned 21

2) Had a girlfriend for at least 3 months

3) Had sex at least a few times and orgasmed from sex at least once

4) Have an in-person keyholder who is excited about locking you up but also cares about you and your wellbeing

That last one is the most important. It’s sort of a wild card that can substitute for any of the others.

Don’t rush into chastity too young. You have the rest of your life to struggle against a cage and wish and wish and wish you could cum one more time. Don’t let sexy times interfere with your childhood (which ends in your early 20′s). You only get to live that once. Don’t waste it!

[askagni]

Gah, I submitted a post instead of AMA. Ok here goes: My dominant isn't too keen on chastity devices since she wants access to me at all times (we use the honor system and I'm a very good boy). After reading your blog though I've noticed one of the big differences is I can get hard while a device I can't. Am I missing out on some mental aspects of chastity because of it? Also, any part 2 of "Will chastity ruin my boy? (My experience)"?

The short answer is yes, you are missing out on some aspects of chastity by not using a cage. The more nuanced answer is that there are pluses and minuses to each of the three forms of chastity and no matter which one you pick, you’ll miss out on something. Here are a few of the benefits of using a cage:

5) The inability get erections. It’s a total mind trip when you want to get hard but can’t. When a cage stops your erection it feels very tight, as if you are erect, but at the same time you can tell you haven’t fully unrolled the hose. It’s a unique sensation.

4) The weight of the metal as a cool reminder throughout the day. I’m told it feels very good to feel your encased balls swinging like a pendulum from time to time.

3) The ring behind the balls feels like your mistresses’ smooth but firm hand. I’ve found that sliding a ring back there instantly calms boys.

2) The inability to feel your cock or feel anything through your cock. You can grip that cage all day and the sensation will never equal gripping your bare shaft. It’s almost like it’s not there. Over time, without the friction of underwear, the skin gets more and more sensitive so that when you are released you feel every tiny caress. It can restore some sensitivity from years of over masturbation.

1) The loss of control. This is the best aspect of having a cage. The feeling of knowing that there is nothing you can do to escape, the feeling of being conquered, the feeling of having no choice and no freedom. It’s simultaneously highly exciting and strangely relaxing and reassuring.

Hypnosis chastity can offer this last benefit, with benefits of its own. Plus, the keyholder has full access to the goods should she want to use them.

There are many more small benefits from cage chastity that caged boys will probably add in the comments. Right boys?

Best of luck to you and your wonderful keyholder!

PS I really do need to give you guys part 2. I’ll get around to it. Promise. ;)