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I'm being serious right now, I know preaching to the wasps is useless, but if you're a bystander and you take this shit at face value then you are the most gullible sap in the universe and you aren't my ally.

#it has been zero days since our latest pedojacketing #terfs will just say shit huh #transmisogyny

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Black women and white women are both trans phobic but I have noticed there are unique specificities in the ways in which both groups are trans phobic that relate directly to how each group experiences womanhood. 

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Some gay men have also described being praised by people who know that they are gay fathers, as they react with astonishment over their capacity to take well care of a child without a woman in the household. Likewise, the participants in the present study described how they were recurrently praised, simply for taking care of their children. Such praise was given in situations where they had been read as fathers, i.e., presumably passing as cisgender men. One participant described a huge difference in how he was treated by people who presumed him to be a cisgender man, compared to when he was known to be a transgender man. As soon as people knew that he was transgender, and that he was the gestational parent, he was expected to be the main caregiver, and no one would praise him for his daily duties. Thus, caretaking engagements, which is often taken for granted when performed by women, seem to be similarly expected to be performed by transgender men who are gestational parents. The gender assigned at birth and/or the role as the gestational parent seem to trump the present gender identity when it comes to others’ expectations of a person’s parenting role.

from the study Transgender Men Forming Two-Father Families with Their Cisgender Male Partners: Negotiating Gendered Expectations and Self-Perceptions by Anna Malmquist

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it is certainly a move to do absurdly evil shit, get called out, and then go "you can't possibly believe this, it would be absurdly evil to do something like that" yeah lol. it is

#fuck israel

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gosh yeah it's not like they've bombed hospitals killed paramedics and journalists or bomb struck civilian buildings they knew for a fact had children inside. it's not like we've been watching a nonstop stream of senseless atrocity for seven months now. anyway the dead children were hamas, the paramedics were hamas, the israeli soldiers livestreaming their crimes were hamas, the icj is hamas, antizionist jews are hamas, and then i died and became a skeleton and my ghost is hamas too

#cw genocide #edit for misinformation

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most trans people who people like to call "non transitioning" actually do transition, but people don't want to acknowledge that not all transition is medical

changing your hair is transition

deciding to shave or grow your body hair is transition

doing something different with make up is transition

changing your new wardrobe is transition

changing your name is transition

changing your pronouns is transition

coming out to people is transition

even just accepting your own transness without telling anyone else is transition, as it changes how you see yourself

it's almost impossible to be trans and truly non transitioning, even if that transition might be non medical, non visible or entirely self contained

all kinds of transition are valid.

there are also things that aren't necessarily associated with transition that an individual may consider to be part of their transition, like working out to make their body look different, getting piercings and tattoos and so much more

there are so many ways of transitioning besides surgery and hormones

"non transitioning nonbinary/trans person" is just code for "i don't consider your transition to be real because it doesn't fully fit into what cis people expect"

"some parents would rather have a non transitioning trans child than one who does" like yeah no shit. a non transitioning trans child is a trans child who doesn't come out, doesn't change anything about themself. not their name, not their pronouns, not their hair or wardrobe. a non transitioning trans child is a trans child who never talks about being trans so their parents can pass them off as cis. a non transitioning trans child is a trans child that is in the closet. of course a lot of parents would rather have a trans child who stays in the closet so they don't have to deal with their transness. but you all mean "non transitioning" as in "not medically transitioning" and that's not true either. trans people get kicked out of their house for doing as little as changing their pronouns. and if you say you're doing literally anything as part of your transition/because you're trans, people will absolutely give you shit for it, while a cis person can do the same thing and it's no biggie. social transition is not accepted at all.

there are some weird trans people out there who will completely dismiss people's life saving transition steps as "non transitioning" because they don't fit cis ideas of transness, it's disgusting

when i say "transition" i'm always including medical transition and social transition, as well as anything else an individual may consider part of their transition that doesn't necessarily fit into the two boxes

also can we stop acting like social transition isn't also constantly under attack

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it really is so uncomfortable being a trans man in cis centric conversations of feminism. I just wonder. do they know about people like me? do they care? if I brought it up to them, how would they react? Do they expect me to be their human shield?

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This seems to be a common thread between many strains of radical feminism, and other forms of reductionism for that matter, where solidarity is viewed as appropriation. To think of your specific marginalisation as The One from which all others derive means no one outside of that group can relate their experiences to yours without cheapening what you've gone through. It's a very isolating perspective.

I'm going to have to be very careful about articulating this, but I believe this is an expression of extreme transphobia disguised as an accusation of racism against a 'white queer.' and I want everyone to take note of it.

Like, she is working overtime to give the impression that she is lambasting white queerness, when if you read between the lines, that simply isn't what's happening. There are assumptions baked into this post that are harmful to trans people of all kinds, even if you set aside my white feelings for a second, just look at that 3rd paragraph. "Their identity is a performance" doesn't just implicate me, it implicates my trans black friends who, under this worldview, cannot have any intersecting experiences between their queerness and their race. They are oppressed *only* because of their race, and it follows that any white person speaking about their own experience is just making stuff up from nothing. It's really slick, inserting virulent and unapologetic trans-misogynoir directly into what looks and feels like an epic dunk on an ignorant white.

Please do not misconstrue, I'm not upset on behalf of "white queers," I learned to shut up about ~reverse racism~ when I was 15. describing queer identity as a "performance" is simply far bigger of a claim than you believe it to be.

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huh i wonder why a trans guy would be emotionally unavailable 🤔 what reason could a trans man have to suppress his emotions and refuse to express vulnerability hm it's such a mystery why someone who is TRANS and a MAN may not be super eager to share his inner feelings like what coyld he possibly have experienced to lead him to be like that i sure can't think of anyth

Anyone else kind of uncomfortable with this post?

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breaking news: trans man is a trans man. the police have been alerted

If you’re gonna send me a callout and then a callout ‘debunking’ post uh : idgaf I don’t know these people and I don’t reblog callouts

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it's simple. if you can tell the man is trans then it is a harmful stereotype as it implies that trans men are trans men, who we all know are the worst. the only good trans man is one that looks sounds and acts as little like a trans man as possible.

Just saw somebody say that a trans man drew ‘caricatures of trans men and fetishized trans men’ and when I checked out the art it was just ….. trans men with boobs. Like damn . Trans men,, having boobs?? Crazy idea.

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the woke mob is forcing me to correctly gender trans men. if only id listened to daddy petersons warnings when i had the chance

I’m sorry but this is so funny. These WOKE trans men want to force us to use the word Fundanshi (this word has exist for as long as Fujoshi has)

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I feel like the way trans men get fetishized isn't talked about enough; or maybe just not compiled into one thing, but especially with things like mpreg, which i'm definitely seeing more mention of now adays, I would say it's a pretty well known fetish, and it's literally something that trans men can and have done, the real thing. we can't pretend they're not connected. This is separate from the cuntboy stuff, which is in fact different but also connected.

I'm not against kink or fetish either, in fact finding out that your body is wanted and desired can be extremely empowering and awesome, obviously the issue is the dehumanization , and what I see when people mention male pregnancy, as in a trans man, people react in the same exact ways that they do when mpreg is mentioned. Horror, disgust, disbelief, anger, misogyny, they treat everything we do as a fetish. Even if they don't know about mpreg they think that real life person is a sick freak. There was even that a with the picture of a chestfeeding trans man, and he got called a predator. the picture of Even Hempel is what i'm talking about. There was that post about penises and how they're fetishized, someone mentioned he was accused of having a dildo in his pants. People think that wanting a penis, wearing a packer, is also a sex thing. I'm bringing in the Freud penis envy thing too.

The way gay trans men are treated? Come on. "Fujoshi" alone? come. on. we're fetishized for uteruses and chests and penises or lack there of, for our attraction? literally every part.

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my apologies if this has already been posted here but im sharing this. here is what someone said on twitter along w this image:

the central image text reads: “@everyone I HAVE BEEN RELIABLY INFORMED GUARDIAN JOURNALISTS ARE SNOOPING AROUND ASKING FOR TRANS PEOPLE TO TALK TO THEM ABOUT DIY HRT. THEY ARE PARTICULARLY LOOKING FOR UNDER-18S DOING DIY. SHOULDN'T NEED TO BE SAID, BUT DO. NOT. ENGAGE. SPREAD WIDELY. DO NOT ENGAGE. WE NEED THIS NOTICE SPREAD OUT VIA EVERY GRASSROOTS SUPPORT GROUP AND SOCIAL CIRCLE IN THE COUNTRY.

URGENT. IF THEY GET EVEN ONE TO TAKE PART IT BECOMES A NATIONAL CONVERSATION. TOP ALERT.

Guardian journos are apparently asking trans people about DIY. Trans followers: DO NOT SAY ANYTHING TO THEM. NOT A WORD.

I also know I’ve got cis mutuals who have written for the Guardian. Please know I’ve always thought less of you because of that.

- https://x.com/TownTattle/status/1781045092049928551

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the stuff going on at columbia campus rn is genuinely incredible

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I'm sorry that the free porn was not what you expected. i hope you will soon heal from the pain of seeing a non-passing trans mans ass. I will pray for you 🙏

Do you ever see a post made by a cis person that’s so clearly just them finding any excuse to hate on trans people they don’t like.

Everytime I see a post like this it turns out the trans person ‘getting mad’ is just correcting the person who misgendered them. And since cis people take every single action by a trans person as a sign of aggression , simply correcting people is seen as ‘getting mad’

#transandrophobia