wearing a collar not as a sign of submission or ownership but as a sign of restraint, a symbol of self-control. wearing a collar when you top because you could be breaking them, you could be taking them apart piece by piece with hands and teeth but you're behaving. Wearing a collar when you dom because to show that you are tame, that even with all the punishment and sadism you are still being controlled. the jingle of the hardware with each thrust or blow a reminder that there could always be something worse. A reminder that this is still you acting domesticated