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and while it's true, we wouldn't know about this artist who DOES represent us unless they got big. unless they went to LA. but we have the internet for that now do we not? maybe it's time to start letting go of the rest and exchanging it for better

realising how art brings the benefit of social and cultural capital to community, how are we to quantify and pay its benefits and the workers behind them fairly in the absence of local communities it arises in? how are we to tip our artists, when it's a global competition for the monopoly of our entertainment or when pimps, no, far more stages removed than pimps, of those creating art, demand all of our spare money in the name of supporting creative intellectual property? how are we to ensure fair wages, when the system is designed so that the more you sell, the higher the cut of what you sell is? spotify and its awful practices are no anomaly. in fact its injustices might be tame. how are we to let the community enjoy art when we take all our budding artists out of their local communities and ship them straight off to california to follow their dreams or fail? how do we create a local economy without art? how do we salvage what we have? i know my local musicians, but none of them are local anymore, except in friendly nostalgic instagram comments about local places and inside references. wouldn't the streets be better if they were here? wouldn't we have no need for hysteria in the fandom when we see them outside? wouldn't we have the opportunity to connect like normal people, if their only way to earn a living wage wasn't to be insanely busy and known as a face and a brand but not a soul, to millions upon millions of people?

#art economies #decolonise art

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what we have is deeply colonial. celebrity culture always is. because what does it do to Indigenous artists shaping Indigenous culture? it removes them from their land and takes their livelihood and tells them they have to reinvent themselves every cycle of whatever kind of art they do if they want to afford to eat. and it's not just Indigenous artists who suffer from this. we all get solastalgia to some degree if we have to go through more change than we can deal with.

and art only shoots itself in the foot for this. because, if all songwriters are drawing inspiration from LA, surely there is only so much inspiration there is to draw? if all actors are in hollywood surely they all act the same, surely it's like a speciation event in biology when some individuals of a species go off into an island and evolve into a species of their own? if all writers are trying to be on the new york times, surely they are all writing to the same criteria? don't we yearn for individuality? don't we yearn for art that is better, diverse, reflective of each of us rather than a select few?

realising how art brings the benefit of social and cultural capital to community, how are we to quantify and pay its benefits and the workers behind them fairly in the absence of local communities it arises in? how are we to tip our artists, when it's a global competition for the monopoly of our entertainment or when pimps, no, far more stages removed than pimps, of those creating art, demand all of our spare money in the name of supporting creative intellectual property? how are we to ensure fair wages, when the system is designed so that the more you sell, the higher the cut of what you sell is? spotify and its awful practices are no anomaly. in fact its injustices might be tame. how are we to let the community enjoy art when we take all our budding artists out of their local communities and ship them straight off to california to follow their dreams or fail? how do we create a local economy without art? how do we salvage what we have? i know my local musicians, but none of them are local anymore, except in friendly nostalgic instagram comments about local places and inside references. wouldn't the streets be better if they were here? wouldn't we have no need for hysteria in the fandom when we see them outside? wouldn't we have the opportunity to connect like normal people, if their only way to earn a living wage wasn't to be insanely busy and known as a face and a brand but not a soul, to millions upon millions of people?

#art economies #decolonise #colonialism #decolonise art #decolonise music

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realising how art brings the benefit of social and cultural capital to community, how are we to quantify and pay its benefits and the workers behind them fairly in the absence of local communities it arises in? how are we to tip our artists, when it's a global competition for the monopoly of our entertainment or when pimps, no, far more stages removed than pimps, of those creating art, demand all of our spare money in the name of supporting creative intellectual property? how are we to ensure fair wages, when the system is designed so that the more you sell, the higher the cut of what you sell is? spotify and its awful practices are no anomaly. in fact its injustices might be tame. how are we to let the community enjoy art when we take all our budding artists out of their local communities and ship them straight off to california to follow their dreams or fail? how do we create a local economy without art? how do we salvage what we have? i know my local musicians, but none of them are local anymore, except in friendly nostalgic instagram comments about local places and inside references. wouldn't the streets be better if they were here? wouldn't we have no need for hysteria in the fandom when we see them outside? wouldn't we have the opportunity to connect like normal people, if their only way to earn a living wage wasn't to be insanely busy and known as a face and a brand but not a soul, to millions upon millions of people?

#art economies #<-idk what else to tag this

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the more I think about it. the more artists we've lost I remember and read the stories of. the more I realise, the more you get to explore it deeply and creatively the more you're likely to survive it. why the fuck should we discourage that then? is no one else scared of the untimely deaths of too many artists, too many great stars, willing to change anything to prevent it?

yes redistribute wealth. but a healthy, kind artist will. or we can redesign the system to create more equal earnings among all artists. the individual isn't the problem! and borderline abuse from the crowd of a billion who know their name, even if only the minority of loud voices actually giving it, isn't going to help. that's not how you change behaviour you can't control. that's how you drive fear. how you drive art into hiding. how you say no one's pain matters because each individual's must be silenced for the sake of someone else's, the illusive someone who is probably already dead who suffered more than anyone else, and you wished you protected them earlier. why don't you be kind before they even need protecting instead? not shoot down attempts for them to save themselves. because they will. time and again. you have to trust it and please please don't fuck this up consumers of art

coming to the realisation that we generally don't know what to do as a society when artists share hard experiences in their songs. the fans being a little parasocial and dramatic about it? that's how fandom works when you see yourself in it like. a lot a lot. the pity? ends up coming usually from new fans who see the fans' reaction from the outside, know nothing about the artist to be able to place it in their life and what they've been through (and are thus caught off guard) and react to their first encounter with said art. no one actually wants to be pitied, they just want to be honest. and we're so used to a society of faking being fine that honesty, even about completely normal (and yet stigmatised) things sounds dramatic. feels uncomfortable. does this sound familiar? parents when their child tells them what they're going through either going 'it's not that bad everyone experiences that' or I Must Fix It And Fix It ASAP.

like I know it feels uncomfortable at first. but you can just sit there and be like 'cool, this person went through something that vaguely inspired them to make this emotional art. something that surely less talented and creative people go through every day.' and then you can see the reaction of some fans and be like 'they either relate or they care about this artist really dramatically' and decide if this is something you want to get in on or just let it by and go find the kind of entertainment you enjoy. go through the world being kind to others and yourself because there are people out there going through things you don't need to know about and sometimes the best thing you can do is care for yourself so you don't get bitter.

and i'm not here to tell you there isn't a place and time for criticisms, but when you get close to policing how dramatically someone expresses their emotions and how publicly they share the processing of their experience? that's when it's time to look at yourself. go 'is it really harming anyone or might it possibly be helping?' and when you do, remember, there's no 'taking away from real victims' if it's art made for real victims or whoever wants to to insert their own story into it. which most art is!! and 99% of the time when people make it about something in the artist's life? that's the fandom. fans get a bit parasocial! they get an attachment to the artist and end up knowing a lot of their personal details. which no one else has to.

but invalidating people's experience doesn't actually help anyone. you probably had it happen to you before. it probably helped you put together a framework in your head of what you are and aren't allowed to feel upset over. and i ask you: does this framework help you? or does it just leave you frustrated? you can throw it away you know. of course you don't have to be emotional publicly but you can validate what actually hurts you for yourself. you'll feel freer and more equipped to deal with trauma and handle other people's emotions when you do.

and as for whatever someone else might be going through or not? you don't need to validate it either, to take the authority to do either of those things. it's likely you'll never know all the details unless it's someone you're very close with. in fact, sometimes when you hear things there is misunderstanding of information!! such as if it is something someone said once and then changed their mind about later, but you only hear the first statement that went viral and another thing they did years and years later with everything in between missing that frankly, doesn't make sense with the previous thing. I feel like I've noticed people treating anyone we don't personally interact with (yet because of culture end up hearing about anyway) a similar way that it's still acceptable to treat children. and neither is helpful. the person who probably needs to heal is you, and that's okay! we're pretty much all in that boat, and it's a pretty good boat to be in.

#born to draw attention to life expectancies of the famous unfortunately #celebrities are people

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you know i realised something. why would someone want more responsibilities? more demands of your time and your effort? why would you choose to fight to do things you're not allowed to if they make life harder?

but then i realised that women, literally half the population, have been fighting for this for not only the last century but in their own ways in times before. and i realised that lowering demands and having autonomy is as much about not being restricted from doing extra work as it is not having to do it. i realised i wasn't alone in the breakdowns that felt like i had too many things to do, in the times where i had restriction of doing things.

our problem has never been the work itself. it's always been whether we have a choice around it. force buys obedience for only a short time. it is not something anyone can sustain for long. and when we break down capitalism. colonialism or whatever. we'd do well to remember this every step of the way. every step making sure we take hold of the choices we can have. real choices. not the ones we convince ourselves we have.

autonomy is a requirement to our bodies as much as air and water and food even if it does take longer for its absence to cause problems. it will sustain and it will liven us. and we can find it for ourselves in tiny ways, as we go on to fight for it in bigger ways. we will be happier. and it shouldn't take having a disability that requires more autonomy than most to realise this.

#pda profile #in case you're wondering about said disability #anticapitalism #autonomy #liberation #feminism

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#the more autonomy i'm gonna have

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DEAR MAN: Making Yourself Heard

This interpersonal effectiveness skill helps you assert your boundaries, and get yourself heard and understood.

D: Describe

Describe the current situation (if necessary). Stick to the facts. Tell the person exactly what you are reacting to.

Example: “You told me you would be home by dinner but you didn’t get here until 11.”

E: Express

Express your feelings and opinions about the situation. Don’t assume that the other person knows how you feel.

Use phrases such as “I want” instead of “You should,” “I don’t want” instead of “You shouldn’t.”

Example: “When you come home so late, I start worrying about you.”

A: Assert

Assert yourself by asking for what you want or saying no clearly. Do not assume that others will figure out what you want. Remember that others cannot read your mind.

Example: “I would really like it if you would call me when you are going to be late.”

R: Reinforce

Reinforce (reward) the person ahead of time (so to speak) by explaining positive effects of getting what you want or need. If necessary, also clarify the negative consequences of not getting what you want or need. Remember also to reward desired behavior after the fact.

Example: “I would be so relieved, and a lot easier to live with, if you do that.”

M: stay Mindful

Keep your focus on your goals. Maintain your position. Don’t be distracted. Don’t get off the topic.

“Broken record”: Keep asking, saying no, or expressing your opinion over and over and over. Just keep replaying the same thing again and again.

Ignore attacks: If another person attacks, threatens, or tries to change the subject, ignore the threats, comments, or attempts to divert you. Do not respond to attacks. Ignore distractions. Just keep making your point.

Example: “I would still like a call.”

A: Appear confident

Appear effective and competent. Use a confident voice tone and physical manner; make good eye contact. No stammering, whispering, staring at the floor, retreating. No saying, “I’m not sure,” etc.

N: Negotiate

Be willing to give to get. Offer and ask for other solutions to the problem. Reduce your request. Say no, but offer to do something else or to solve the problem another way. Focus on what will work.

Turn the tables: Turn the problem over to the other person. Ask for other solutions.

Example: “How about if you text me when you think you might be late?” “What do you think we should do? . . . I can’t just stop worrying about you [or I’m not willing to].”

More tips

Describe the current interaction.

If the “broken record” and ignoring don’t work, make a statement about what is happening between you and the person now, but without imputing motives.

Example: “You keep asking me over and over, even though I have already said no several times,” or “It is hard to keep asking you to empty the dishwasher when it is your month to do it.”

Not: “You obviously don’t want to hear what I am saying,” “You obviously don’t care about me,” “Well, it’s obvious that what I have to say doesn’t matter to you,” “Obviously you think I’m stupid.”

Express feelings or opinions about the interaction.

For instance, in the middle of an interaction that is not going well, you can express your feelings of discomfort in the situation.

Example: “I am sorry I cannot do what you want, but I’m finding it hard to keep discussing it,” or “It’s becoming very uncomfortable for me to keep talking about this, since I can’t help it. I am starting to feel angry about it,” or “I’m not sure you think this is important for you to do.”

Not: “I hate you!”, “Every time we talk about this, you get defensive,” “Stop patronizing me!”

Assert wishes in the situation.

When another person is pestering you, you can ask them to stop it. When a person is refusing a request, you can suggest that you put the conversation off until another time. Give the other person a chance to think about it.

Example: “Please don’t ask me again. My answer won’t change,” or “OK, let’s stop discussing this now and pick it up again sometime tomorrow,” or “Let’s cool down for a while and then get together to figure out a solution.”

Not: “Would you shut up?” “You should do this!”, “You should really calm down and do what’s right here.”

Reinforce.

When you are saying no to someone who keeps asking, or when someone won’t take your opinion seriously, suggest ending the conversation, since you aren’t going to change your mind anyway. When trying to get someone to do something for you, you can suggest that you will come up with a better offer later.

Example: “Let’s stop talking about this now. I’m not going to change my mind, and I think this is just going to get frustrating for both of us,” or “OK, I can see you don’t want to do this, so let’s see if we can come up with something that will make you more willing to do it.”

Not: “If you don’t do this for me, I’ll never do anything for you ever again,” “If you keep asking me, I’ll get a restraining order against you,” “Gosh, you must be a terrible person for not doing this / for asking me to do this.”

- from DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets (2015) by Marsha M. Linehan, pp. 125-7.

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there was probably a moment in COHF where mark blackthorn decided buying time for his siblings was more critical and feasible than trying to escape the LA institute himself and probably a moment where helen blackthorn went running into the gard to meet her siblings and thought he's dead right on the heels of where's mark? like creating a spark with flint and steel. um! but we're not going to talk about it though

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Please don't forget Armenians

Today is Armenian genocide remembrance day. On april 24, 1915 started mass deportations of hundreds of Armenian intelectuals and community leaders, who were (most of the time) eventually killed. Armenian women and children were systematically r//ed and forcibly converted into islam. There were more than 2 milion Armenians in ottoman empire prior to ww1, 1,5 milion of them were viciously killed. Three millennia of Armenian civilaziation in eastern Anatolis was fully destroyed. Turkey today refuses to acknowledge genocides of christian minorities in early 20th century.

Do you know that mass ethnic cleansing of Armenians in ottoman empire inspired Lemkin to coin the term 'genocide'?

Last year in september azerbaijan allied with turkey initiated a war against Armenia. More that 5000 Armenians were murdered, thousands of Armenia families had to live their ancestrial land to not get murdered. There are hundreds of vids on internet where armenian p.o.w.s are tortured. Recently azerbaijan opened a "museum" displayind dead or dying Armenians and kids were allowed to visit it.

Please educate yourself on Armenian genocide. You can also donate here to help Armenia. Thanks for reading!!

#decolonise

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niallhoran: Australia Zoo and Night Twenty-Six Brisbane

#he's in brissy okay hi niall i think i saw but didn't prioritise going #yes it was a sulphur crested cockatoo! fun fact they live for 100 years <3 reblogged to answer prev tags-> #he went to the Australia Zoo! he held a lemur and a cockatoo! #I don’t know if that bird is actually a cockatoo or something else. I just wanted to rhyme!

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broke: approaching continuity errors from a doylist out-of-universe perspective, e.g. "Well clearly the writer forgot this character is dead at this stage in the timeline."

woke: approaching continuity errors from a watsonian out-of-universe perspective, e.g. "Well maybe it was actually this character's identical twin brother disguised as him who died."

bespoke: approaching continuity errors as if canon works are in-universe historical records and you're a historian carefully shifting through authorial bias, misunderstanding, literary additions, and legendary accretion, e.g. "It's likely that the story of this character's death was not a historical event and absent from the earliest layer of the oral tradition; it was invented several decades later by redactors who wanted to both present this character as a heroic martyr and plug the gaps of their later mysterious absence from the narrative."

#oh i do love this

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nobody warns you this but addiction happens without you noticing and one of the first things that it attacks is your ability to care. if you find yourself using recreational drugs every day, stop and take one day a week sober. if you struggle with this or if you don't see the point of the exercise, you are likely already addicted and you need help.

#thank you for compiling this op! #who i think deactivated but #ngl i don't have much experiences with substances but. i've done most of these things about Toxic Interactions With People #that would leave me awake most the night having a breakdown after seeing but i felt my needs wouldn't be met unless i saw them #on the regular. and i'd have to pretend to be okay and stuff at work the next day it was a whole thing and i'm talking abt church ministry #as the thing that very much resembled addiction in my life

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coming to the realisation that we generally don't know what to do as a society when artists share hard experiences in their songs. the fans being a little parasocial and dramatic about it? that's how fandom works when you see yourself in it like. a lot a lot. the pity? ends up coming usually from new fans who see the fans' reaction from the outside, know nothing about the artist to be able to place it in their life and what they've been through (and are thus caught off guard) and react to their first encounter with said art. no one actually wants to be pitied, they just want to be honest. and we're so used to a society of faking being fine that honesty, even about completely normal (and yet stigmatised) things sounds dramatic. feels uncomfortable. does this sound familiar? parents when their child tells them what they're going through either going 'it's not that bad everyone experiences that' or I Must Fix It And Fix It ASAP.

like I know it feels uncomfortable at first. but you can just sit there and be like 'cool, this person went through something that vaguely inspired them to make this emotional art. something that surely less talented and creative people go through every day.' and then you can see the reaction of some fans and be like 'they either relate or they care about this artist really dramatically' and decide if this is something you want to get in on or just let it by and go find the kind of entertainment you enjoy. go through the world being kind to others and yourself because there are people out there going through things you don't need to know about and sometimes the best thing you can do is care for yourself so you don't get bitter.

and i'm not here to tell you there isn't a place and time for criticisms, but when you get close to policing how dramatically someone expresses their emotions and how publicly they share the processing of their experience? that's when it's time to look at yourself. go 'is it really harming anyone or might it possibly be helping?' and when you do, remember, there's no 'taking away from real victims' if it's art made for real victims or whoever wants to to insert their own story into it. which most art is!! and 99% of the time when people make it about something in the artist's life? that's the fandom. fans get a bit parasocial! they get an attachment to the artist and end up knowing a lot of their personal details. which no one else has to.

but invalidating people's experience doesn't actually help anyone. you probably had it happen to you before. it probably helped you put together a framework in your head of what you are and aren't allowed to feel upset over. and i ask you: does this framework help you? or does it just leave you frustrated? you can throw it away you know. of course you don't have to be emotional publicly but you can validate what actually hurts you for yourself. you'll feel freer and more equipped to deal with trauma and handle other people's emotions when you do.

and as for whatever someone else might be going through or not? you don't need to validate it either, to take the authority to do either of those things. it's likely you'll never know all the details unless it's someone you're very close with. in fact, sometimes when you hear things there is misunderstanding of information!! such as if it is something someone said once and then changed their mind about later, but you only hear the first statement that went viral and another thing they did years and years later with everything in between missing that frankly, doesn't make sense with the previous thing. I feel like I've noticed people treating anyone we don't personally interact with (yet because of culture end up hearing about anyway) a similar way that it's still acceptable to treat children. and neither is helpful. the person who probably needs to heal is you, and that's okay! we're pretty much all in that boat, and it's a pretty good boat to be in.

#yes i am talking about taylor swift btw #and the interesting reactions i've seen to ttpd #which are like. not completely invalid but also built on assumptions that we get certain social rules around things we don't #and a quote taken from literally 13 years ago with all the growth in the time in between missing #but also from the number of people i've known listening to wfttwtaf for the first time too just absolutely freaking out #and it's like. reactions of any kind only really become bad when they reach the artist and they are not nice to them #otherwise they're pretty much just neutral and it's good to acknowledge that and understand why your brain goes there #silver bridges #the tortured poets department #unpacking this also helps with-> #neurodivergent liberation

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Reading about Malcolm Fade turning into a terrier was NOT on my 2024 bingo card.

#nor was it on my 2018

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I SWEAR TO FUCKING GOD BOB ROSS IS A GIFTED GOD I DREW ALONG TO HIS VIDEO IN MS PAINT AND

HOW

THE

FUCK

THIS MADE ME SO HAPPY I DONT EVEN KNOW HOW PLEASE I ADVISE YOU GUYS TO DRAW ALONG WITH BOB ROSS IN MS PAINT IT IS AN EXPERIENCE I AM SO CONFUSED BUT PLEASED FUCKING DO IT

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