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My grateful heart is a magnet that attracts more of all that I desire.

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Stupid Cupid (1927)

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**For the people asking I found the ring HERE

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Arnhemland Rock Art Cave painting from Aboriginal Australia

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MAJOR TW, SA ment

this is beyond disgustingly disrespectful & a mockery of SA victims. how can you srsly post this shit & not realize you've been GROOMED ?? you really think degenerates are gonna obey your DNI? to roleplay and "fantasize" about traumatizing acts that happen to people every damn day... you're honestly just as horrible as the people who commit these acts. you support it, you comply. you keep the culture fed.

pls report this person

#r*pe culture #radfems do interact

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I pray y’all never fall in love with people who look straight though you, who make you feel like loving you is a chore, who make you feel alone in the same room, who offer nothing but inconsistency, and make you question if you’re truly loved.

And God, if you do, if you do fall in love with someone like that? I pray you have the courage to get up and leave and never look back so that you can find someone consistent, and warm, and kind, and loving. Someone that never makes you question your value.

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Edna St. Vincent Millay, from a letter featured in The Letters of Edna St. Vincent Millay

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trash tarot deck (22/78)

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as plural as we: zhou ye  周也 for cosmo cn april 2024

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cooler darker day than the past week so this young Storeria dekayi was a little sluggish, but awake enough to threaten me (trying its best).

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he's so silly

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I was at a courthouse once, and saw an indigenous australian woman in a dressing gown very carefully and gingerly making her way down the steps outside the courthouse, surrounded by family who were helping her down the stairs. We asked if she was OK, because she looked awful. She looked like she should have been wrapped up in bed with blankets and hot soup, not on the steps of a courthouse.

One of her family told us that she had given birth yesterday evening, but that Child Protection services had taken her baby away with no warning, claiming that she wasnt prepared to look after him. What had happened, is that she'd literally only just given birth -- hadn't even passed the afterbirth yet, is holding her blood-coated, crying, newborn baby to her chest -- and a nurse asked what her feeding plan was. She was tired from the birth and distracted by the brand new baby in her arms and thrown off by the timing of the question, but still, she managed to answer, and said she planned to breastfeed him whenever he was hungry.

Well apparently that wasn't enough of a plan for the hospital staff, who reported her and claimed that she was unprepared to look after the child, and claimed that had no social supports, and that the baby was at risk if left with her. All because a brand new mother, 30 seconds after giving birth, didn't have a PowerPoint presentation ready to go that cited the timing cycle she would feed her kid on, and instead simply said that she would feed him when he was hungry.

Child Protection services showed up, took her kid, and she was told to show up to court the next day to contest custody if she wanted her baby back.

So a woman who had given birth less than 24 hours prior was forced to rally her family and show up to court to prove that she a) had a feeding plan for the child, and b) had enough social supports to justify reclaiming her baby.

It was one of the most appalling things I'd ever seen. I don't even know if she won her case. They didn't know at the time we saw them, and after that brief interaction on the stairs, i never saw them again. I sincerely hope she got her newborn baby back.

That was about 5 years ago. And the exact same kind of thing is still happening today.

News broke today from a South Australian whistle-blower of the appalling treatment new mothers frequently receive, including hospital staff taking the baby away from the mother "for medical tests," only for the mother to then be told, with absolutely no prior warning, that the baby was not going to be returned to her.

Here's the article, and here are some excerpts:

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for women, pattern recognition and gut feelings is survival instinct. recognizing that someone is behaving in some way like a predator you’ve known (etc) literally keeps you alive and healthy. that’s actually even the biological “point” of being triggered when you have ptsd – your body is giving you an intense signal to get the fuck away from something that has hurt you before. obviously, with ptsd its maladaptive, and the trigger itself doesn’t have to mean anything real or patterned if it was based on a very specific situation. but the most basic form of this is pure self protection. the nagging feeling that asks you to move across the street when a large figure is walking a little too close behind you. jumping out of your skin when you hear a raised and angry male voice nearby. a little pit of despair forming when you see rhetoric that seems eerily similar to the frameworks your rapist used to justify himself, deflect blame, or communicate his reasoning for violence against you. your body tensing and freezing when you start to feel guilty or pressured into sex. your heart beating a little faster when… your face getting red if…  an unheatlhy response to this is to move through the world in fear (and GUILT for feeling fear) constantly with no way of making sense of it, individualizing violence, ignoring the way individual experiences of violence intersect with one another forming webs. a healthy response is retaining the ability to make connections and make meaning of the conditions under which women live – talking to other women and noticing which experiences you share. really actively allowing yourself to see what keeps happening. its healing to know you’re not alone. its self defense to believe yourself. listening to your body’s signals as best you can – and yeah, i know that trauma can often make that really hard, make your body feel distant and immaterial. but it really is still there, waiting for you. when i see someone urging women (using really convincing language) to repress their ability to recognize patterns and listen to our bodies and express our realities, i think, in what way would this person benefit from us repressing trust in our own perceptions? why am i being asked to take theirs on as my own? an open ended question without a black and white answer. but sometimes, a feeling is enough.