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getting a more gender affirming haircut will change your life I AM A NEW PERSON. !!!!

#transgender #transitioning #anti terf #ftm #transmed safe

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slapping bootys n schmoking doobies

#transgender #anti terf #ftm #mlm

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The thing that bothers me about solidarity is that it isn't a special treat, something you give - like a dessert to a child who's been acting well. Solidarity is a survival strategy. And sometimes, you'll find the most repugnant people out there, but if you want to survive, you have political solidarity with them. No, you don't have to be friends. You can despise them.

It bothers me when people say, "in a perfect world, I'd have solidarity with every minority, but I pick and choose," because you can be part of making a more perfect world.

I've met so many people with different minority statues who have horrific views and opinions. I've hated their guts. But I don't revoke solidarity and, ultimately, my advocacy for all of us because that only serves to divide groups.

This doesn't mean you have to personally interact with every person who has terrible opinions and advocates for Bad Things.

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BPD culture + hypersexual is sexualising myself hoping people will like me more that way and feeling disgusted by myself for that but not being able to stop it.

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TRANSITIONING MASTER-DOC ⋆𐙚₊˚⊹♡

hello my fellow transgender and queer comrades alike! this is a re-make of a master-doc i made quite some time ago. it focuses on the super early portions of transitioning socially as a newly found / questioning trans person! i have been trans for all of my life and been outwardly trans for around four years now. i often see ‘transition guides’ that focus on later steps in one’s personal gender identity journey — so my goal is to give as much information on being transgender in the complete beginning. from questioning to fully socially transitioned, i’m your guy!

for introductory purposes!: my name is harvey (he/him/his), and i am a binary trans guy who is pretty cool! overall i’m just trying to fight for my rights in a day-by-day fashion. i’ve done my best to layout this doc in a ‘step-by-step’ fashion because i find that time and time again, linear learning is the most effective; so without further ado, enjoy this personal project of mine!

TABLE OF CONTENTS ˗ˋˏ ♡ ˎˊ˗ CHAPTER 1

1.0 — your egg has broken! (COMPLETED)

1.1 — questions to ask yourself about being under the transgender umbrella. (COMPLETED)

1.2 — how to accept your newly found queerness. (WIP)

1.3 — don’t rush into ANYTHING, experimenting can never hurt someone. (WIP) ---------------------------------

SO, YOUR EGG HAS BROKE!

in popular trans spaces (mainly reddit), the saying of having a 'broken / cracked egg' is extremely common. in general terms, it means that you have accepted your obvious queerness in trans spaces and that you can no longer live in denial! hooray! or really - oh no!

real talk here, this can be and will be a bit scary. for some, this news is just news, and for others this can be mind-blowing and feel like the end of the world! but don't panic, the world will not come crashing just because you allow yourself to feel joy. i find that this stage will definitely take some time to process and actually sit through. before you go on and start to question all you've ever known about how you're perceived in society, take a moment and just accept.

accept the fact that being queer is not a gross or uncommon thing, and that you being trans is not something that you should ever let interfere with your own interpersonal self worth (disregarding dysphoria in this statement.) it personally took me a long time to admit that this was reality, that I am queer and that's not negative.

once you allow yourself to process that your willing to take the time and effort into truly understanding yourself, the process will smooth itself over. pinkie promise.

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A SIDE OF QUESTIONS, PLEASE!

these questions are to be asked to yourself in terms of understanding your newly found identity. it’s important to understand your answers from a viewpoint of being transgender rather than being cis and vise versa.

how long have you questioned or felt different about your gender identity?

what was the first inkling or sign that made you start to question your gender identity?

do you feel distress or discomfort with the gender you were assigned at birth?

what does your ideal gender expression or presentation look like to you?

have you researched or leaned about identities such as non-binary, gender-fluid, etc.? do any of those resonate with you?

what are your biggest fears or concerns about being transgender?

once you’ve answered and pondered these questions, you can better understand yourself and where you stand with your gender identity. if you’ve come to these answers and realized you are cis — then you can stop here! you are not trans! but if your gender identity has proven to be queerful and worth exploring, you can move to the next section.

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QUEER IS NOT A DIRTY WORD!

so — you’re transgender. you are queer. this is a new feeling, a scary one even. but it is able to be navigated through. and this new revaluation does not need to be a negative experience. i am here to guide you through these new feelings!

1. allow yourself time to process! you do not need to rush into anything, sitting with these new revaluations is important and the best first step for acceptance. it can feel world shattering to realize you’ve been in denial or pushing down certain feelings — sometimes even leading to regression; but let yourself just feel. understand. and try and refrain from panicking. remind yourself that being queer is not shameful or something bad.

2. work on actual acceptance! self compassion and self acceptance go along with overall radical acceptance and being queer. internalized transphobia is one of the biggest issues that come with accepting yourself, due to wanting to be yourself leading to pushing down other trans people that don’t fit your personal box. however, internalized transphobia is normal! and is able to be worked through. it comes with the need to prove yourself and be the ‘right kind’ of queer — but in reality, there is no right way to be queer!

last updated: 4 / 7 / 24 :: 10:20 PM

#transgender #ftm #masterdoc #trans masterdoc #anti terf #transitioning #trans positivty #trans women are women !!!! #trans men are real men #transmasc #transfem #trans pride

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missing my sweet boy right now i wanna kiss him soooo badlyyyyyyy

#mlm #gayboy #mlm things #missing my boyfieee ughhhhh

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thinking back to that one giant master post i made about socially transitioning i should totally remake that smh

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what is a "terf" ive been seeing that word a lot lately

its a weird and specific type of humiliation fetish where you get off to being stupid online.

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“lmao imagine liking men” OK!!! ON IT BOSS 🫡🫡🫡 it’s beautiful here

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🦇 list of random things that make my trans self so euphoric in school 🦇

as of celebration to my high school freshman year coming to an end, i thought it would be appropriate to make such a post!

Being able to have cis guy friends without other people make it weird. literally just co-existing with them.

People who don’t know me looking visibly surprised when i speak as if they don’t expect me to sound so feminine.

Being called “ dude / bro “ in any context like ever.

NOT GETTING CLOCKED AFTER USING THE GENDER NEUTRAL BATHROOM.

#transgender #transmed safe #transitioning

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World peace.

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🦇 officially diagnosed with gender dysphoria !!! 🦇

as of march 15th 2023 i am now completely diagnosed with + recognized as having and experiencing gender dysphoria. it’s wild to think i’m here right now and actually got this diagnosis that used to be a dream years ago. next stop is HRT so let’s just goddamn hope this process goes smoothly !!

#transgender #transmed safe #transitioning

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i love random gender euphoria

hearing my friends refer to me as “ he “ rather than just my name is like the best feeling in the world?? i can’t even describe why it makes my heart race make my face all red and my stomach fuzzy, it just does. i love being referred to as a man. it’s so amazing.

#transgender #transmed safe #transitioning

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AHHHHH !!!! /POS

I HAVE MY FIRST MEETING WITH MY GENDER THERAPIST THIS WEEK !!!!

#transgender #transmed safe #transitioning